This is a guest blog submitted by blackmagic_woman.I feel compelled to ask anyone reading this blog a question, and maybe you'll have a better answer than I can come up with. Over the summer, I dated an amazing boy and it ended abruptly but peacefully when I moved to Los Angeles. I'm still close with him and of course, I still care about him. We hung out while I was visiting friends in NY a few weeks ago and had a really fun night. And then last night, TWO WEEKS after that night, I get this message on MySpace...
Now I have two things to say. First of all, I had no idea this girl was even AT the same club I was. It was packed on the dance floor; I'm sure I bumped into a lot of people, but man oh mannnnn, did I make the world's biggest mistake bumping into this particular girl.
I've never talked to her in my life, never met her, nothing. And I am not the type of girl to "accidentally" do anything. If I don't want to deal with you, I either ignore you completely or tell you to STFU. Why would I purposely do something as silly as bumping into someone to feel some twisted and pointless satisfaction? How does that even make sense? I don't care who he's friends with; it doesn't matter to me at all. Even if I was with him, I wouldn't care. Friends are friends, and they're good to have, ya know? ...though now I question how good of a friend she really is.
Second of all, why...WHY...do girls do this? I'm not saying I'm not guilty of it. I am. But what brings this about in us? Why do we feel like we have to get the last word in? Jealous or not, why do we feel like sending one single, batshit-crazy message (to someone that barely knows we exist) will have ANY positive effect on the situation? When will we learn to just shut up?
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Honestly, I would just delete the message and forget about it.
She's obviously the one tripping here.
And most girls, honestly, feed off of drama. We live and breathe off of the stuff. We aren't like guys, who compete in different ways, we are girls.. so whoever can have the most drama, must mean she has the better more glitzy life. We feed off of drama because in our minds, drama is status.
Deny if you will, but it's pretty much the truth.
comment..Where are you from?
Heck yeah I have an idea of what is going on I think you should definately stop talking to your ex boyfriend I really do think he talks about you in such a way that his friend would just confront you like that
C'MON if you have never ever seen her then it should apply to her as well but she talks to you and hey people add people on myspace when they know their names she doesnt know your name how did she find you?
Think of that possibility hon, DO NOT BE GULLIBLE!
Meh. It's kinda like when this girl took my soggy clothes out of the drying machine and put her own clothes in... in the cycle I paid $1.25 for... I didn't let her go without cursing her out and getting in the last word myself lol... I guess it's just an anger mechanism, you know? You're less angry if you're finished with what you have to say. And probably this girl has a crush on your ex, so she just wants to make you jealous or something cause she's a crazy bitch.
The fuck was that about?!
Girls like that make me edge towards being straight, I mean honestly. I'm ashamed to have a vagina if I have to share DNA with girls like that.
Never done that shit, never will. It's a load of high school immaturity.
Having the last word? PLEASE? If she has something to say she should say it personally not in freaken myspace! That is chicken shit and grow up already status that is not whatsoever threatening not for one second do I think she is threatening or make a point she is trying to be a bad ass IN WHICH SHE ISN'T and guess what this is her imagined scenario, not yours so do not say it is your fault, okay? because it is not.
why do you care?
it's high school drama. ignore it.
@Gosalyn223@xanga - Chicken shit is definitely the right word for anyone trying to look for a "last word" in something that's a done deal a long time ago. If she bumped int oher, just let it know, and get an apology. Done deezy.
BUt a MySpace diss? Sheesh! I'm surpised she didn't write her back and killed her over the internet.
LOL.
She needs to stfu seriously. :/ And how old are you guys? Really. Tell her to grow up and to stop being jealous. If she has shit to say to you, she should do it in person. That's so middle school. :]
Shove that down her throat.
I would say by posting her pic and comment, you're pretty determined to get in the last word yourself. Consider her nuts (possibly drunk) and let it go.
Wow, she's claiming you're immature, yet two weeks after you "bump into her" she decides to try and get a response out of you over it? Honestly, if it bothered her THAT much, she would have either said something then or she would have said something to you way sooner. What she's trying to do is piss you off. As far as that goes, considering neither of you know each other, maybe she's jealous that you dated that guy. She could have ended up in the friend zone by accident. Either way, she's not too clever.
Not all girls are like that.
SOME people are like that - yes, men can be guilty of that. Maybe not in MySpace format, but the stereotypical "WHAT YOU LOOKING AT? YOU EYEBALLING MY WOMAN???"-type machismo.
Regarding your situation, well, she sounds territorial, possessive, angry, and possibly intoxicated when she sent the message. The bottom line is that all you know of her is from that one message, so don't bother reading into it any further.
And don't feed into her nuttiness by analyzing her actions to death or by responding. Just ignore it and pat yourself on the back for NOT being like that (and make a mental note to not be like that).
lol? I laughed when I read it. This is a serious case of... delayed reation! I mean.. come on.. 2 weeks?!? I think she probably had a crush on your ex and got rejected. Considering the fact that she needed to desperately dig up something that happened 2 weeks ago, she's probably just pissed off that she can't get what she wants and needs to lash out at someone. That someone was unfortunately you. People like that aren't worth the effort to be replied to or thought twice about.
On another note, you might want to consider whether your ex has been talking about you since, you've never seen her, and she's never met you before, but managed to find out who you are, and what your myspace is? :S
Delete it and buy yourself a present. That bitch is crazy.
i know the last-word-in type of person and it doesnt relate just to girls. maybe for you it's been all girls but the person i'm thinking of is a guy and he MUST get the last insult in. i dont retaliate back because it's no use. i just ignore him and that's the only thing that will shut him/her up. let them have the sad satisfaction of getting in the last word. at the end of the day, you'll know that you took the high road and left their immature selves in the dust.
@Angelina_Everlong@xanga - HAHA buy yourself a present. that made me laugh out loud. nothing makes you feel better than shopping, right?! i agree completely. :P
Wow...this girl is either crazy, full of herself, or both. She actually tracked you down just to bitch at you? That's sad.
I totally understand the "last word" thing though. I always feel tempted to bitch back when someone does it to me. But I just back off and ignore them, because nothing I say is going to make them feel differently. I don't think it's just a 'girl' thing, I think everyone has that urge to get the last word, but girls tend to just act on it more often. Might have something to do with insecurity.
Eh. She's nuts. Ignore her. That's really all you can do. People like that want a reaction, preferably a dramatic one, in order to turn the whole situation into something it never was. Delete and move on.
Interesting.
Two weeks later, she sent you a hate note via MySpace. Now you post up her pic and comment to the Xanga community. I think you two are pretty much even now, don't you think? =P
I know some people who always have to have the last word in. It gets a bit tiring and boring hearing the same sh-t all the time. Best thing to do is just ignore it and move on if you don't want to stoop to her level. If they can't handle it like an adult, it's not worth it.
She just wants drama and attention. Just ignore her.
@jeezshoua@xanga - agree. fighting over the internet is like participating in the special olympics. even if you win, you´re still retarded.
I just have to say, there are fewer things I hate in the world more than a sarcastic "Have a great day!"
The people who use them think that they're ending their rants with such a huge impact, but really, that's the dumbest and most elementary way to show contempt that I've ever seen.
AND the message is titled FYI? Seriously? She sucks at life, man.
I hate female cattiness. I can't put up with it. And I hate girls who flatter themselves enough to think that you're out to get them like the way she cant accept that you bumped into her accidentally. Sighhh. Girls are such emotional creatures, lol, and they do things in the heat of the moment like that and think they're really badass and right. Most of us have done it. You feel on top of the world when you tell someone off. But then you look back at it and you feel super wack. I do anyway, That's why I don't do that kind of stuff.
Ugh. This is probably why I don't have many girl friends to begin with. I can't stand the cattiness & the drama. Yuck~
Honestly, I'd have deleted it. She's not worth your time of day. For her to send you this message must mean that she feels threatened by you.. maybe by your beauty or your personality. Whatever it is, she knows you've got something she lacks & she's trying to make herself feel better. Just walk away. You're above this immaturity.
I laugh at these kinds of things.
Like to them in their face because it's funny how ridiculous they are acting.
Oh I do hope you laughed.
I do like to get the last word in, but sure as hell not like this. AT ALL!
like first she had to find you on myspace [stalking him or you] then have the audacity to message you, when if she had a REAL problem with you could have just talked to you at the club or where ever you were.
What a little pussy bitch. I laugh at her stupidity.
Oh ho ho ho!
btw thank GOD I don't have girl friends like this. Maybe like one and I'm teaching her how to not be crazy.