Miss Polar BearHere's a kicker for you: Apparently there is "good crazy" and "bad crazy."
I was talking to a boy last week and we got to talking about exes (first sign the conversation should have ended right there) and he said something along the lines of, "but I like when girls are a little crazy; it makes them interesting - they're a good crazy."
Okay, right. So what makes someone good crazy? If they're stalking you, does that mean they're good crazy because they care a lot? If they have an issue with being alone, does that make them good crazy because at least they want you around? Call me naive, but I haven't associated the words "relationship" and "crazy significant other" with anything desirable.
Better yet, this boy is interested in me. Does that mean he feels something about me is "good crazy"? I'll tell you one thing; this entire topic makes me crazy, and it's not a good kind.
He didn't really elaborate on what he thought "good crazy" was and I really was too baffled to even ask so this is where I turn to you all.
What is "good crazy"? Have you heard this term be used before? Do you believe such a thing exists?
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good crazy is what you are until you've broken up. then you're deemed bad crazy, also known as psycho ex-girlfriend kind of bad crazy.
First, some XKCD wisdom (don't forget to hover the picture for the caption): http://www.xkcd.com/122/ oh AND
http://www.xkcd.com/150/
Maybe he means a little explosive in personality, or expressive. Dating someone who is very benign and completely passive is boring (a problem with some nice guys). Having some variation, fighting and making up, being a little insane, having some flaws, it gives variety and makes a relationship interesting. Maybe in the long haul you want all those things to smooth out, but if it starts out that way? It might appear to be apathy, not compatibility. So a little crazy makes sense. Not crazy as in she slashed my tires because I forgot to call, but maybe something else. I've never dated crazy, so I can't give specifics...
I've never heard the term used before, but I assume it means someone who is fun, spontaneous, and light-hearted; a person who thinks for themself, and is a little odd but in a cute way (not in a mentally ill way).
Well to me there's always been a good kind of crazy... loud and fun-loving, light-hearted, etc. I'm pretty sure the crazy he was talking about isn't anywhere near the mentally ill kind of crazy.
Yeah... good crazy is when someone is like full of life, sort of different from everyone else (hence the crazy) because they're so happy or willing to try new things and stuff. Bad crazy is when you're a depressive psycho who wants to kill people. It's all about the moods.
"Call me naive, but I haven't associated the words "relationship" and "crazy significant other" with anything desirable."
that's because you haven't been dating women.
You're being a fairly good kind of crazy with your obsession over how crazy you're being. Does that help? It's kind of cute.
Good crazy = something quirky, amusing, entertaining, or pleasurable.
Bad crazy = suffocating, horrendously temperamental, inflexible, etc... think (and I know this is a mean stereotype, but I can't think of another at the moment) crazy ex-girlfriend.
Never heard of it
Good crazy is someone who is a little unpredictable, a little wild, unconventional. Bad crazy is someone who has those qualities in a way that makes the other person uncomfortable.
good crazy could just mean a little eccentric, or different. i wouldn't take it too personally. he probably means a girl that's into things a little left of center and is comfortable in her own skin. maybe he's trying to tell you he likes that you're different.
bad crazy would be stalkerish or having a tendency towards moodswings and erratic behavior that negatively impacts your relationships.
on a side note, my boyfriend and i always tell each other we're crazy for each other. and i think that's a good kind of crazy. :)
Good crazy probably means fun, spontaneous, up for anything, ballsy etc. Bad crazy: stalking, obsessiveness, scary, over-jealous, over-possessive, etc.
Haha... that's actually how I describe myself or how others describe me! It sort of fits perfectly :)
To me, someone who is a "good crazy" is kind of strange and quirky. They're interesting to be around. Someone who is a "bad crazy" is the stalkerish, typical psycho-ex type.
The guy that I'm kind of seeing right now uses crazy as a term of endearment, like he'll turn to me and go "Your crazy" and smile, it's cute. But when I asked him why he went on to say that I have little quirks and am a bit eccentric, and that I'm fun to be around. Good crazy makes a person fun, bad crazy is stalking and being overly controlling, and talking to people that are not there, and being overly erratic, like in your moods and actions.
Okay, right. So what makes someone good crazy? If they're stalking you, does that mean they're good crazy because they care a lot?
HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAHAAHA.
no, that's fucking creepy. I hate stalkers. Actually, I had more than a few..
Good crazy is like butterflies.
Bad crazy is like O_O
I told my first few interests they made me crazy and they thought it was cute. Now I try and keep that comment to myself in case it backfires on me later, ya know?
Uhh.
You drive me crazy = I can't stop thinking about you? o_o; LOL, that makes no sense, does it? D:
But bad crazy is like . . . creepy. :x
Hmm. Seems like some already took the words out of my mouth.
I'd like to think I'm a good crazy. But then again, I can become the bad crazy after the break up... It's a double-edged sword.
I don't think he means crazy in the literal sense, but more of crazy as in quirky and exciting. Someone who's a bit shameless and confident. Someone who realizes that yes, yes, everyone is weird and doesn't actually hide their weirdness [when appropriate.]
@MusingsOfAnAlmostSocio@xanga - YES. Using XKCD to explain life. I approve.
"'Crazy' is for when you are in control of your actions. Â See, you're not crazy because you have disabilities... well, they're more like challenges, and it's not your fault. Â You can't call someone with brain damage "crazy" because they're not in control of that. Â And you can't call anyone with brain damage "handicapped" because that means there's a scorecard to life." Â - my boyfriend just now, after I mentioned this article.
According to that, crazy is defined by your actions and your personality, not your neurochemistry. Â I feel it's an honest assessment. Â I have some serious mental illnesses, but everyone who's close to me doesn't even consider me crazy because they say I'm one of the nicest, most sincere, patient and down-to-earth people they know, despite my issues. Â My illnesses don't make me mean-spirited, possessive, bitchy, manipulative, stalkerish or anything like that. Â I don't turn "bad crazy" after a break-up, either. Â I have dignity and self-respect.
If you ask me, there is definitely such a thing as "bad crazy", but it isn't about mental illnesses, either. Â It's all about an individual's temperament, personality and ability to handle hurtful and stressful things. If they refuse to take personal accountability for their own emotions (and subsequent actions) and scapegoat people out of the inability to empathize, they're usually "bad crazy".
I'm apparently good crazy. Schweet.
good crazy is Amy Smart. HOTCRAZY
I associate "good crazy" with quirkiness. It's what a guy thinks makes you unique or interesting; it's not really craziness or insanity in the literal sense.
I asked two guys why they liked me so much and their answer was quite simple actually... b/c i was "crazy".
It just means different. Having qualities that are not typical. Or thinking a certain way that isn't conventional.
I get it a lot actually from close friends of mine..that I'm not a typical girl. But anyway, being normal is totally boring so if he considers you "crazy", be happy.