I think this term usually DOES apply to religion. I would think most people use this term to refer to a committment to God to keep themselves pure until they marry.

I'd date one if I liked her.

i don't know, I do however know a couple of guys who would think that if you had had sex with other men, and then you were not willing to have sex with them. It would not be okay. I think you should wait until you are in a commited relationship, and realize your virginity ain't coming back.

As far as BAVs go, I'd accept it in some cases; if I knew someone who'd lost their virginity as a result of a sexual assault, that's something completely different from someone who's had a plethora of sexual partners and decided to be "born again". In some terms the loss of virginity is 'willingly' giving yourself to someone, so rape wouldn't count and I'd understand that point of view...the whole thing is tricky. And even hymenoplastys don't count for much if you've already had sex. It's a really traditional view that hymens=virgins; hymens can break with any kind of strenuous exercise so that isn't quite accurate. This post made me really think, though! :)

Why the Hell would you date a born-again virgin?  So every guy got to have sex with her up until you?  That's a terrible deal.

Lol I'm definitely against pre-marital sex, but I've learned in college that it's impossibly hard to find a guy I'm into who's atheist like me and hasn't gone past first base. I've given up finding a guy who hasn't gone to second base or further; I've even dated a guy who's had sex before. As long as he's willing to wait until marriage to have sex, it's fine with me. =)

@FallenReign@xanga - yup, hymen reconstruction is real

@v_valdovinos@xanga - Oh. Thank you. If they had put it like you did--hymen reconstruction--I probably would've remembered it better. That still seems like a really useless procedure, though.

Our sexuality:

Our bodies could care less what the Truth is, but if we were to think on it awhile the Christian perspective is such that God is the Author of Marriage, Sex, and all that we hope to achieve for happiness in our bodies. Ironically, because we do not trust Him, we do not trust His ways, and the consequence is a culture that is hurting.

We weren't looking for broken hearts, or to break them, we just didn't know. Often we are not taught how to love, and it is something that must be learned. We are usually taught little more than how to avoid unpleasant consequences like poverty and loneliness, but truth be told, we are impoverished in heart, and we know it.

Love is the answer, but Love without Truth is a lie. And, Truth, without love is often brutal, as is nature.

God presents Himself as both, perfectly. His guidelines for sex, in marriage are about truth, for trust, a solid foundation for Love to rest upon.

With love and Truth,  God's Truth, people experience the fullest relationship possible.

Outside of God's Ways, it is just a passionate deception that burns out, or that is kept alive with materialism and distraction from a deeper need. A love-need that only Jesus Christ can fill.

Real love transcends all of time because it is imbued with the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit at work in the human heart of a man and woman is the pre-requisite for everything that God planned for man's fulfillment in romance.

If you don't think He is worth trusting look again to the mountains, and the rivers, listen to the wind. Or, consider the fields you drove past on the summer moved by the wind, consider the earth spinning beneath your feet having been made exactly for what you need, as your body too was made exactly for your partner, in God's Creation, according to God's ways.

Love is good. God IS Love.

Never heard of that term before. But since I have now, it's dumb. Seriously. It's like saying, "I'm a born-again infant." Ahem. No. And my answer to the last question to the BAV who asked me out is, "No. You're dumb."

@FallenReign@xanga - I've heard of them...

But I think it's a rather strange idea. I get that in some cultures, an intact hymen is a sign of virginity, and that virginity is life or death in some cultures. But you can break your hymen without having sex (riding a horse, doing gymnastics, etc). But to me, it's just about trying to make it LOOK like you haven't had sex. You can't "unhave" sex.

"Spiritually, yes, but not physically (unless you undergo a hymenoplasty)."

The hymen has nothing to do with whether or not you're a virgin.  It can obviously break during various types of physical activity, and reattachment after sex does not reinstate your virginity.

Also, mine was surgically (but not really "surgically," so... medically?) broken/removed before I was two years old (which I was just told about a few years ago o.O), so I'll never have one to break during sex or other activity.

Bottom line: the hymen means nothing.

Otherwise, I totally agree with everything you're saying.

Ugh, some people... so ridiculous... so you had sex... get over it lol. Sex is awesome.