Thursday, 15 January 2009
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Guy of My Dreams Called And I Chickened Out
This is a guest blog submitted by LiViNG_VS_EXiSTiNG7.My friend Samantha and I went to an event in my town the other night. There were a bunch of local bands playing, and it was really fun - lots of crowd surfing, drugs and drunk people everywhere. :)
Samantha and I went to the back of the place to look at all the band merchandise, losing us our spots right in front of the stage, so we went to the back of the crowd after a little while. This girl from my school came up to me and pointed behind her. "That guy over there thinks you're hot."
I looked behind me and saw him standing there, and I just kind of looked at Samantha, unsure what to do or say. She just kind of looked at me, and the guy walked over to us. "Heyyy, haha. Sorry about her. I don't know, I'm not usually this shy..."
We talked for a little bit. He asked us our ages, noting that we looked about 20 (we're both only 17) and that we were looking beautiful (mostly looking at me). He lives up north in Cincinnati and he used to go to my school, but he's moving back this summer and will attend my school again next year. He asked if we wanted to go outside to smoke, and I agreed, but my friend stayed inside because a) she didn't smoke and b) she wanted to give us some time alone. We talked for a little bit outside, bringing up our interests...I was pretty much shaking uncontrollably from the cold, so I offered to go back inside.
"Hey, would it be okay if I asked for your number?"
I figured sure, why not? And we went towards the back to get away from the noise so we could hear each other better. We exchanged numbers, and I told him I had to get back with my friend, and maybe we'd talk later? We said our goodbyes.
He called me this morning, but I got Samantha to answer because I had just woken up and my voice still sounded really bad. He told her who he was and asked me to call him back.
But I haven't called him back yet.
Here's my issue: I have been waiting and waiting for a guy. I've only had one boyfriend, but I don't even really count it because we didn't talk or do anything. I've been so jealous of my friends for always having a guy who they liked and liked them back (I've had a good amount of guys interested in me, but I'm just never interested back). I've dreamt of random encounters with nice guys like this, and now I'm too afraid to call him back.
You would think I'd be ecstatic for this, but I don't really know. He was a really nice guy, and he seemed genuinely interested in me, and (unlike a huge amount of guys) he actually called me back after getting my number. That right there already says a lot.
Have you ever been in a situation like this?
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Yeah. I know what I want but sometimes when it seems like it's actually happening, I have no clue what to do.
Give him your digits. Not a harm.
Call him back!
If you are interested in him and he you... you should call him. All fear aside... if you never take the chance you will never have what you are looking for.
If you think about it, what is there to be afraid of at this point? It's just some random guy who barely knows you. Even if he rejects you, you can't really say it's because he knows you as a person. I know you haven't had much of a history, but there's still plenty of time and guys out there.
Sure, it feels scary, but it's all built on little things. Try not to make so much out of it - that might help. Maybe give him a quick call (tell him you just have a few minutes) and try to transition it to email or IM if that will help you feel more comfortable.
Again, tell yourself that it's not that big a deal and that it's just some guy you barely know.
You should definitely give him a call back. The first couple of minutes may be awkward but after you warm up to him, the conversations on the phone will be a whole lot easier. :)
Give it a try and don't be one of those people who always wonder about the "what ifs" later in life.
That's why I pick up when they call. Otherwise I lose courage and never call back :(
Just do it. Call him. See where it goes.
Give a call back. Its the least you can do for the dude that got the courage to ask you for your digits.
stop being a chickenshit and call back.
Call him! What harm could it do? SERIOUSLY!
You'll probably regret it if you do not call him...:)
GOODLUCK! :) xx
If you're interested in him, call him back! Maybe you're a subconscious pessimist and therefore thinks that this relationship might not work out anywhere. So maybe you're stopping yourself from any heartache if there may be one.
But he seems genuinely interested in you, don't let that get away!
Call him. The only thing worse than putting yourself out there and have it fail... is to not try at all and spend the rest of your life wondering.
@abcxunt@xanga - werddd
calllll back!
kthanks=]17 and smoking? Bad girl...lol, I'm just kidding. If you like him, call him back. Give it a chance if you think it's worth it. But don't pursue him just because you're "jealous" of your friends that have guys like them and you want one too. That's the wrong reason to try and date someone.
P.S. "Guy of my dreams"...isn't that a bit much for someone you met briefly?
Call back, go out, have a good time, don't sweat it. Live in the moment. At this point in time though, I'm obligated to point out that it's nice to casually date guys who are just enjoyable and not e-mazing because it gives you some practice and sense of ease when you DO find that one you REALLY want it to work with. But since you're already there, go out, have a good time, and good luck!
Honestly, what you said echoes how I feel a lot of times when I'm getting to know someone.
I hate that I chicken out and ignore the phone calls and texts, or if I do respond to them, it's an ungodly delay that kills all momentum that's starting to build up.
But I'm getting through it. I have to say that for me, I attribute it to a few things, hopefully it may give you insight. Firstly, when a guy that I meet seems too good to be true calls, I have feelings of doubt swarming me. Thoughts like 'Oh my goodness, he's so attractive. And he's charming. He can't really be smitten with me can he?' And the result of that kind of thinking leads me to want to test him... by playing a bit hard to get... i.e. not picking up all of his calls. I understand this is really unnecessary-sounding, but I'm being completely honest about my thought process here. Secondly, I genuinely get a bit nervous when someone I hardly know calls, and sometimes I'm up for a bit of a stir in my life, but other times, I don't want to have butterflies screwing with my psyche, and I tell myself I'll call later. The thing is, as other posters have added, accepting and engaging in phone calls with someone new is getting out of your comfort zone. You're meeting someone new, and it's a bit scary and exciting. But you have to be open to changing your life, otherwise, you find yourself avoiding calls and wondering why. Maybe it's because you're a bit apprehensive to the changes that may occur. I certainly am, but I took the plunge, and I'm liking where it's leading. Hopefully you will too. ;)
Call him back! Don't sit there in a month or so and think 'What if...'
He likes you. That's quite obvious. And if you like him then give it a chance. Just grit your teeth and dial.
Good luck!
@esch99@xanga - very true
don't make him wait too long....
Oh my word CALL HIM BACK!!!!!
You want a boyfriend, obviously, and you're never gonna get one by being a scared snob who doesn't even call a guy back after giving him your number! This is just stupid, really.
I've been in a situation similar to this. About a year or so ago me and my friend both kinda liked each other. We talked online all the time but occasionally he would call me. Needless to say I am a complete idiot and would never pick up the phone. I regret it constantly, so I suggest that you call him back. The worst that can really happen here is that it just won't work out.
Usually the obvious answer is the correct one. Thus, (and I'm sure you haven't heard this before haha) call him back!!!
if you go bi...call me
lol
call him! and quit debating it or you'll never get anywhere.