Wednesday, 14 January 2009
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Married for 53 Years and Still In Love
This is a guest blog submitted by The_Prestigiator.
I wrote a post for Lovelyish recently and received many amazing comments - everyone had something great to add to the comment thread. I don't mean to call anyone out or embarrass anyone, but one comment caught my eye. This comment stood out to me so much because it was from a gentleman and was completely unexpected:"I married my first love 53 years 5 months 25 days, 2 hours and 54 minutes ago. She is the most beautiful woman that I have ever seen in my life."
I think it's so very sweet that NVRSAD_DAY continues to be in awe of his wife and still finds her beautiful. You don't see many strong examples of marriage these days, and his comment gives me hope that true love does exist.
What do you think of marriage these days? Does it seem difficult or rewarding to remain happily married for 53 years? Are there any people on Xanga who have been married for a considerably long time?
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it is very rewarding to be married that long especially when the divorce rate is so high these days. and if they're truly in love, that's even more awesome!!!!
Marriage is both. Difficult and rewarding. The problem is that so often people assume that in "true love" there are few tough times. Quite contrary, there are many. However, you're willing to fight through them because of your deep love. That is what's rewarding. The commitment and respect and love that remains, no matte what you go through as a couple. I think it's beautiful to be married for that long and keep living and loving. That's hard to find lately.
I want to be married for that long! That sounds amazing!
When I die I want the person beside to have been through all of the most important parts of my life with me.
Marriage is a scary concept to me.. It's something I want, I think.. but I'm afraid that it's more like a legal contract than something out of love these days..
But if I get married, I'm only doing it once, and it's gonna be till death do us part.
People give up too easily, congrats to this couple and all others who persevere and get to see and experience the beauty in long lasting love!
that is amazing. I would love to have someone like that in my life...
My husband and I have only been married for (almost) eight months. We both hope to one day be able to say we've been married that long.
He's my best friend, my lover....he's everything! I am so happy I've found him!
This couple is SUCH an inspiration!
I'm going to sound utterly unromantic here, but I don't think the longevity of a marriage necessarily correlates to the amount of love shared. Most people in my family stay married to each other their entire lives, but I can't say it's because of love. (I can't say my parents were ever in love in the first place.) It's simply commitment. They decide that they will stick it out for the sake of the life that they've built together-- their home, their family, etc. Besides, when you think about being with someone for 53 years, you're bound to expect that the kind of regard for each other changes. What made you fall in love with the person when you first got married could fade and be replaced by a different kind of love. Some people can't handle those kinds of changes. Others roll with them because of the commitment they've promised.
It is wonderful that nvrsad_day is both committed to and in love with his wife after so many years, though.
I've been married now for a little over a year and it's an experience even the most hopeless romantic couldn't imagine. I always believed in marriage and I know I always will. I still find it the sweetest thing to see an old married couple, one walking slower to wait for the other. I hope that will be my husband and I. I hope we will grow old and older together. And then when the time comes, I hope I will outlive him so that he wouldn't have to bear the loss of someone he loved all his life.
Wow, that's fantastic. (: I hope that when I get married, my marriage is that good. Marriages are both difficult and rewarding. And the difficult times make the better ones that much more rewarding. If both people love one another enough, they're willing to go through anything.
i envy you guys...
yes my parent? lol they been married for 40 yrs
It is rewarding. I hope to be like that some day.
my parents (and two sets of aunts and uncles) have been married 23 years, and they're all still happy... and my dad's older brother has been married 33 years, and they're still happy...
my grandparents were also married for a long time, happily. and while i don't think it always happens that way, learning to love someone through a long period of time is learning to truly love. and while i don't think all long-time married couples can claim to love that way, i think many can.
i don't think you should get married unless you're sure you're in love, though.... and if you prevent any whim-y marriages to happen, success is very likely. my brother married his girlfriend from highschool... they went to the junior prom together, and they have now been married for seven years and have three kids... and my brother's about to turn 32. as an example of young love working out. :)
Love is about give and take (compromise) and not the grass is greener. That is the problem with most people, ungratefulness. Unfortunately I only trust myself even though I have a lot of male friends who love me, I feel like my other half has only ever hindered and not complemented. Maybe I am too strong alone. Could you call that a feminine alpha male?
that's adorable :)
i think it's rewarding, it's well.. amazing and beautiful to be able to be married that long and still hold that much affection for someone.
i want that someday!
My parents have been together for 25 years, and although it has had some very serious ups and downs and almost ended, they still love each other quite a bit.
My dad actually came home from work last week with a bunch of flowers and a sweet card about how great my mother is and what a wonderful/important partner she's been to him, with a note scrawled inside saying it reminded him of her.
NVRSAD_DAY!
One of the greats of Xanga...his name should go next to TTC, ASM, and whoever the other xangalebrities are.
I've been sub'd to him for over a year now. Great perspective.
That's like..3 times my age =X hehe..That's so beautiful, amazing, and heart felt in all kinds of ways...
It's love like this that makes me smile. :] It definitely isn't easy to sustain but never impossible.
Aw, that is very sweet.
My grandparents have been married for 54 years and still very much in love. It's quite adorable really. I hope to one day be like them.
It is the dream of almost everybody, being married till "death do us part".
i'm only 1/16 of the way.... not an easy journey but committed!
Wow...that is beautiful.
My parents have been married for almost 28 years, and I absolutely know they'll never separate, so I can't wait to see when they get to experience that same moment that NVRSAD_DAY has with his wife now.