Wednesday, 14 January 2009
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Sadie Hawkins And How to Ask The Guy
This is a guest blog submitted by runner_4_jc.With Sadies coming up, I need some ideas on how I should ask my potential date to go with me. I'm about 70% sure he'll say yes. There's not much of a theme aside from maybe Valentines Day in Chicago (which is where and when we are going).
Do guys like it when girls do something creative? Should it be on the DL when I'm asking - should I do something small, or should I just ask him flat out?
If it's something creative that seems to hit home with most guys, then I have a few ideas, like giving him a fortune cookie with a fortune reading "Sadies?" or something like that, or, since our balloon epidemic at Party City, I thought about getting a balloon and putting balloon stickers on it saying "Sadies?" as well - like an inside joke that would make him laugh. But I wasn't sure if guys thought that sort of stuff was cool.
How would you ask a guy to a Sadie Hawkins dance?
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Ummmmm... I would just flat out ask him. Going to the lengths to make a fortune cookie specially for him might be a little odd. But that's just my opinion
Good luck.
Wow..just ask him.
Be like, "YOU!"
and timidly say after, "Do you want to go to Sadies Hawkins dance with me? "
Thats all.
No matter how you do it, there is still that message, will you to the dance with me or not.
So just save yourself time and just ask.
probably just asking would work. I still have to ask someone too :]
the ballon thing souns kind of cute, but I wondn't do that to a guy unless I was dating him or something...Just be like, "You're coming to the dance with me so don't make other plans. ^^."
Ooooh this is exciting. I'm part of the student council and I'm ALWAYS trying to get a sadie hawkins dance passed. i've heard so many stories and seen too many tv shows about it, how could my high school not have one!?
Ask him if the two of you could talk later and more private. When you're both alone, ask. It's about a 75% chance of a yes if he shows up at the right time.
My reasoning: He feels pressured when he's with his friends. While he's around them, he's a bag of worms with his pride on the line, don't ask then. Better to do it more privately so if you get turned down, it won't feel as bad if you didn't it publicly.
Works about the same with marriage proposals, too. But that's another post.
@engel2009 - sure, I'll help, but send me $5,000 in cash first.
give him some manly flowers.
Make him a sandwhich ^-^ that would work on me
so for last year's sadies:
I got the song Sadie Hawkins by Relient K and I changed the song, artist, and album so that it'd show up on my ipod saying 'Will you go to sadies with me?'
Then, I told him I wanted him to listen to something and I started it from the point where it said "only to get stopped by a girl so stunning" and ended it at "will you go with me to the sadie hawkins" and then I showed him the ipod(:
@morbidlywonderful@xanga - lol.
Daisy Dukes and Cowbow Boots.
Howdy ~
My friend asked her current boyfriend out via fortune cookie. But they've been close friends for over six years, so I suppose that was a unique situation.
I would recommend not making a big show of it, unless you are absolutely sure he'll say yes.
Don't make a show if you're not 100% and don't psych yourself into thinking it's a 100% so you can make a big show about it.
Score some one on one time with him and maybe say something like,
"So, it's my turn to be the guy, come to Sadie's with me, and don't make me wait around while you're doing your hair!"
Sadie's is all about flipping it around and having fun.
We're having a Sadie's this year too! It's the first at our school...haha.
I'm almost positive that the guy I want to ask will actually say no...but I'm probably going to ask him anyway. And if he says no, his loss! I'll probably ask him straightforwardly...when we're alone. Not when his friends are around.
Just remember one thing: If you're not 10000000000000000000% sure, DO NOT ASK IN FRONT OF AN AUDIENCE.
the past two years, i've asked my dates to sadies flat out. both years, those guys became my boyfriends. so it works out right? haha
but for something more creative, my friend used food last year. she baked cupcakes, used 7 of them to write S-A-D-I-E-S-? a letter for each cupcake. she put them in a tupperware bin or w/e, and pretended she was going to give them out. she went up to the guy, asked if he wnated one, opened up the lid, and BAM! and he said yes (: of course, you gotta give the cupcakes to the guy. frost them and write the letters with icing!
I got a good one here... TALK! No kidding, just strike up the conversation, switch the topic to social affairs.
Ask what he's doing the date of ___ (dance weekend), he probably isn't aware it is the dance, but if he is, that's okay. This is how you figure if he's already got a partner!!! Nothing is more embarrassing than finding out someone's already been asked. Then (either joking, flirting, or casually, pick your style) suggest the two of you going to the dance... if he looks shocked or hesitant, pick two friends (yours or his, doesn't matter), and suggest a 'Group' for the dance (better effect if the two are dating). Bingo, if he's a friend, or even remotely interested, I think you'll have your dance partner.
umm when you do ask, just don't sound too anxious and nervous, or too over confident. you can never tell with these guys. cause if he says no you really don't want him to feel bad (or do you lol?) i couldn't imagine him saying no..so um just go for it and be casual about it.
Lol, girls at my school would compete for the most creative way to ask a guy to Sadies.
I'm in love with your fortune cookie idea though, and I wish I had done that when I was in high school.
Easiest and safest way is to mention it during casual one on one conversation. Don't make it obvious or scary by pulling him aside and saying we need to talk or anything.
When I was in hs I got asked a few ways that were very memorable. One girl baked me a ton of goods since she knew I loved home made goodies.
The theme was "Superheros" and I was running late for my 1st period class with a teacher who loved to mark you tardy if you're not seated and ready.
I arrived to my desk to be met by some rice krispie man with a brownie bottom and two huge poster board signs. All the girls sitting around me had that glazed eye look accompanied by "awww's."
I paniced at seeing the clutter on my desk and told the girls to make way so I could get to my seat in time. After I sat down and looked at everything in front of me I realized who and what had left my surprise treat. The poster boards asked me to be her Super Hero sadies date and a small note let me know she remembered my kryptonite.
She knew she had me with the food, no lie. Way to a man's heart is through his stomach? Yessssss please
You know, I had a conversation with a guy who talked about how women never approached him, and I got the feeling that he never approached them because he was waiting around for the approachment. It was an interesting thought to wrap my head around. I mean, it wasn't that long ago that "ladies" weren't supposed to do the asking and now here was a guy waiting for us??
I say just ask him. He'll be flattered that you took the initiative, you'll stroke his ego in the process, and he'll probably say yes.
Good Luck!
Omg. I would totally talk to him after school at his locker or something, or bring it up spontaneously. I wouldn't out of my way because it would be too overdone but this is brave of you! Good luck! :)
@its_me_katie@xanga - I'm on student council too! This is the first year we were able to get it passed! Maybe try seeing if you could call it something else like King of Hearts or whatever and if dancing isn't allowed at your school (like mine) then you coudl try going ice skating or something!
don't ask him if he's with his friends, definitely not.
do it in private and alone, so that if it turns out to be a 'no', then you won't have wasted any money, and you won't be embarrased in public.