Wednesday, 14 January 2009
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"I Only Call Him When I Want to Have Sex"
Mr. Giraffe
There is this guy, Jack, that my friend Morgan once dated. She thought he was really attractive but was a really boring date. He was a good kisser, though, so she decided to give him another chance so she goes out with him again. He was still boring, but she decided to sleep with him just to see if he was as boring in bed as he was out of bed.Well, he wasn't. He was, in her words, "basically the opposite of what he was in real life". Morgan wondered how a guy could be so blah at a restaurant but change completely in the sack. She realized that she couldn't pursue a relationship that could only be successful physically, so she reluctantly told Jack not to call her again and that was that.
Fast forward a couple years, and Morgan's just broken up with her boyfriend. She doesn't want anything serious, nor she does she want to go through the rituals of meeting a guy. She wants instant gratification. So she digs up Jack's phone number, calls him over and they do it. Then he leaves. This has happened pretty much whenever Morgan's dumped a guy or just feels lonely.
Part of me thinks it's good to have a person who is just there to fulfill your needs without any emotional entanglements, but the conservative part of me thinks that sex should only exist with strings attached.
What do you think? Is having a f*** buddy okay or does it take out all the romance in sex?
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Nothing wrong with having a fuck buddy as long as you mutually agree that it's just sex. Mmm, and if feelings start developing, be up front about it that way you can see if it's reciprocated or not.
Morgan sounds like a flakey whore.
It seems pretty shallow to me. There's a lot more to sex than just the physical "fun." It's a lot more special, and better, when it's with someone that you really care about.
@wherethefishlives@xanga - I agree.
I don't think it's ever okay. How can you give someone your body that way, but keep your emotions separate? I mean come on woman, get yourself a vibrator.
I dont think theres anything wrong with fuck-buddy. I mean, It probably isn't the smartest idea to do it with someone you met purley through sex.
Before me and my boyfriend starting dateing, me and my best friend (who is still my best friend, nothing has changed besides our friendship being stronger) used to fool around. It was totally secret and scandelous, so it was fun. Now, we just hang out, we're both in really good relationships &everything is the same. Sometimes you need a little loving, and there's nothing wrong with that.
I've always wondered about how men deal with being a "fuck-buddy".
....*gasp* *runs to man-couch*
@wherethefishlives@xanga - @TakingxOverxMe@xanga - Guys do the same thing but with more girls. At least she's keeping it with one guy.
I think in an objective standpoint(ignoring the gender), you're gonna have needs, how you meet those needs is up to you. I've been in a situation like that before and as long as you're open with each other, it works. But someone is bound to catch feelings. However she knows she's not romantically attracted to him. Although her choice may be deemed unorthodox by most, if she's happy with it, who are we to judge her choice?
Well, you can't just use a guy like that. Your friend over there is whorizing herself..HAHA
Well what if both sides understand there just there for sex and thats it? I mean I was in a relationship like that as well for a while. I mean at least once a year me and the other person would get into a fight about something, and stop talking to each other for a while. But what is wrong with it as long as both parties know it is just for the sex.
Wow...that's kind of whore-ish
@you_were_the_song_all_along@xanga - i agree with you.
Even though there's no emotional attatchment, the fact that she calls him only right after a breakup means she's looking for somebody to fill that emotional void that the broken relationship left behind. So when she says there's no strings attatched, she's subconsciously sleeping with somebody to remind herself that there are people who do want her.
FWB are okay until one of the persons involved starts being emotionally attracted, like anonymousblonde said. Then it just becomes an inconvenience. Not to mention- sex as it's portrayed in the mainstream may have lost its sanctity, but I don't think that it's ever a good idea to just pass yourself around. I agree with wherethefishlives, too, she just sounds like a skank, and a fickle one at that.
It's so much better to sleep with someone who you care for and have a special bond with. It means so much more than just sex itself.
Looks like Morgan has some self-esteem issues.
I know lots of boring guys, but I don't bang them to see if they are boring in bed! WTF is that? Who honestly does that?!
Xo
@SupperMick@xanga - I agree!
Women should be able to do what men do all the time without looking down upon.
@wherethefishlives@xanga - Lmfao. Just what I was thinking.
One of my friends told me he had a "fuck buddy", and I was just like ". . . You're serious?" And he just nodded, and I laughed at it. In my mind I was thinking "That's such a whore thing to do. But whatever floats your boat."
@immaairheadxl@xanga - Oh, you can definitely just use a guy like that. In fact, we encourage it.
@coolmonkey@xanga - haahahaaa.... i meant ~ damn, doesn't he have a heart? or something..this bitch just calls him up everytime she wants some dick AFTER she gets heartbroken..uhm, talk about self morals? where is that at? Not all guys want to be used like that..but maybe you're like every other guy who wants just a fuck? Hm..
It definitely takes out all the romance out of sex, but you don't need to be in love in order to enjoy sex.
As long as Jack is okay with it, I don't see much harm in it. I personally wouldn't do it, but that's just me.
absolutely unacceptable...
no love = no sex...
sorry, being kind of strong here, but that's my feeling
@immaairheadxl@xanga - Guilty as charged. If you think about it, men make porn a multi-billion dollar industry. We are very capable of having emotionless sex. And who's to say it's immoral? They're both legally consenting single people, so why not?
@coolmonkey@xanga - And they need women to make the porn a multi-billion dollar industry..Emotionless sex - I'm sure of that ~ But ... I wonder how many females you've been with ;) Haha..
Look at this situation. She only has sex with him every time she gets heartbroken..He hits, he quits. She does the same thing - only the guy gets the benefit of things cuhs eventually, probably 5 hours afterwards..The female is going to female stupid.
Sorry. NO RESPECT for guys who have sex with any girl they get to have a chance with.. Most likely, these females are easy as hell.
There is no harm in it..But she's stupid because she's the one that will fall back.