Mixed signals are for the birds if you ask me. I don't understand from guys mostly, why they have to play games almost. I mean your trying to communicate with him and see whats up, and hes just ignoring you? Pfft, I'd give up and forget about him. Maybe it sounds mean, but what else can you do, wait around for him? If he wants something to happen with the two of you, he will come around and hopefully tell you whats on his mind.

I would suggest not calling him anymore. Ever. If he wants to talk for real, he'll call you back within a week or so, I'm sure. If he doesn't call you back within that week... Get over him. He's just a coward and you don't deserve to be treated like that.

I think this may be another case of "he's just not that into you".

I think you just need to start moving on with your life. If you are a Christian, get in the word more and get your peace from Jesus first. Spend more time with your friends and family. Volunteer, get involved more at work; but just don't wait around for him to figure out what he wants. You'll just make yourself and him more miserable that way. If, he ever realizes that he really loves you and wants to be with you again someday, then he'll have to find a way to prove it instead of you having to wonder/second-guess it.

I had a guy do this to me a few months ago, it is so aggravating. He was very hot and heavy at the beginning, would call me a few times a week and talk for a couple of hours (HE initiated the long phone calls), then all of the sudden he'd tell me to call him "tomorrow", but when I would, he wouldn't answer the phone. Finally I gave up even trying. He called probably a month later saying he had some time off work and wanted to hang out and catch up. I didn't call him back...and he didn't try calling again after that.

The point is...let him go. If he's going to ignore you and play games, he's not worth it. Move on to someone who will treat you better. And when he comes back around, because they usuall do in these situations, then YOU decide if you want to talk to him.

Me and my friend are in the same situation as well.  The guys we are seeing would tell us to call or text them and when we do, we usually don't get a response from them.  I mean, we are old enough to know that when a guy is really into you, he would take the initiative to contact you.  He would want to make plans or to just even hear from you on a regular basis.  My friend has stopped contacting that guy altogether and the next thing she knew, he started calling and texting all the time.  I stopped contacting my guy last night.  Cut this guy off!  You can do it, too!!  People who don't have respect for you or don't have you as a priority do not deserve your attention!

Sounds like it might just be time to move on.

This is the girl who made the post.  I actually posted this a few weeks ago and it wasn't published until now.

Since I posted it, I have deleted his number from my phone, and also, found some other awesome guys to hang out with.

The guy who is standing me up, I still have him as my friend on myspace and facebook, but hopefully he's seen my current photo albums and noticed that I didn't wait around for him after all like I said I would, lol.

He said he would hang out with me after he got back from his trip, but has been still ignoring me, and since, I haven't cared anymore after I tried to contact him once after he got back.

The guys I've been hanging out with for a while do seem like the type to stick around after they get what they want and that's all I'm asking for...in fact, they are still sticking around.

I don't even care if they are looking for other girls to hook-up with after they've hooked-up with me, as long as they are straight as friends, is all I care about.

These one night stands are getting on my last nerve.
How convenient does the guy who is standing me up, makes the vacation he took an opportunity to not talk to me anymore.  I wasn't surprised in the least.

I was hoping maybe he'd prove me wrong that's why I contacted him once after, but nah, I'm glad I've found some cooler guys than him to hang out with.l

What to do the next time he comes around?

1. Don't pick up the phone. If in person, be polite but don't bother with charming.

2. Send him an email.  Tell him that you don't appreciate being led on by someone that you care about and that his behavior clearly indicates that he doesn't have any interest in staying in touch with you.  Then tell him that he's being disrespectful of both your time and his by keeping up this charade.  Finally, tell him that you refuse to continue playing these games and are moving on.  If you feel like you can handle it, you might also tell him that he shouldn't both contacting you again unless he really means it.

Either way, this boy's behavior is disrespectful and you really shouldn't stick around for anymore of his game. You deserve much better then him.

Good luck!

I think you should be blunt with him instead and end it right there. Get him out of your life, or whatever, and move on.

I’m actually guilty of this this too. My first ex was annoyed with me because I bluntly told him I didn't like him anymore, and that I liked someone else. Then he accused of me leading him on. That was never my intention in the first place, nor was I aware of it. I was baffled. Could I help it if my emotions were acting up? Probably. He was rarely there for me. But that was 2 years ago. o.o;

Now I'm just rambling, I'm not sure if I even made sense. LOL. Oops. :x

If you want him to be blunt with you...then you need to be blunt with him. It's like throwing a rubber ball at the wall--it'll always bounce back. So throw him some honesty and be prepared to catch it in return.

But it sounds like you're the 'spare'. Don't be the spare, when you can be the big show!

I'd say leave him alone, he's not worth the trouble. If he really wanted to hang with you, he'd contact you and return your calls. You could try confronting him, too--maybe he'll tell you what's really going on if it's something he's been hiding.

Ignore the loser.