Wow.. I'm glad you're super in love with your husband. If C makes you uncomfortable then maybe cutting off all contact will be good, at least for some time. I hope all ends well  :)

As the wife of a man who has been deployed 2 times, the best thing to do is cut off all contact.  don't try to salvage anything.  AT ALL.  even if your husband is not the jealous type, if he hears any of what is going on with this guy, he will get ideas in his head.  he's on the other side of the world and he will get insecure and trust me you don't want to deal with an insecure husband who has his battle buddies telling him about how much of a good time you are probably having with this other guy.  even if you aren't doing anything wrong, you'll still deal with the consequences as if you did.

I would be "stronger" with him....
Tell him that if he doesn't stop then you will have no choice, but to break communication and if he insists to keep on doing things that aren't of a healthy friendship relationship then I would break off the communication.
Hey it's not like you didn't warn/tell him multiple times. Sometimes you have to do things that are harsh and don't really want to have to do....it's life.

Hope this helps...
Blessed Be

yes, you have to tell him that you will have to block his calls and whatever else if he does not back off (and tell your husband about it. he needs to know why you are doing this. it will encourage him to know how you are approaching this). even though you are committed to your husband, this could easily become a situation where your defenses could become weakened with his persistence. back up your words with action and do not allow him to try to weasel his way back into a relationship with you. he is probably assuming that since your husband is overseas that there is a chance he could weaken your resolve, but you must stand firm and not allow him to talk his way into more than what should be appropriate boundaries. 

It's lonely being a military wife. try to seek out other wives. there are a lot of military wives here on xanga who might be able to help. i know of one in particular if you are interested.

Although losing a friend is tough, perhaps for now the best thing would be to cut off all contact, at least until your husband gets home. The last thing any of our soldiers need while they are deployed is worrying about some jerk hitting on their wife while they are across the globe. Your hubby also does not need to worry about you being stressed over this dude either because you are carrying his child and stress is very bad for you right now (and him being deployed is stressful enough).

good luck.

~Big Sis~

block him on everything you use/have.

if he keeps going, threaten a restraining order. that gets them.

i would tell him now and also immediately tell him how you are dealing with it. he may flip, but at least he will know how faithful you are. chances are he's had suspicions about the guy himself too, so it might be reassuring to know you are handling it. also reassuring that you told him about it right away. if he does flip, realize that he would be reacting out of frustration and not to take it personally.

What you need to do is actually break it to C the hard way, like a final ultimatum. If you don't get the message really, really clear to him, he's only going to keep doing what he's doing. If he still continues, maybe then it is best to call it quits with that contact. 

First off, I know how hard it is to have your husband deployed--especially when your pregnant. My husband is also deployed right now and we have a babygirl who's about to turn 1. So I had our baby before he deployed. Is your husband going to be in states for the delivery? My friend had to deliver without her husband and I know that was tough also. but anyways, I think you should cut off ALL contacts because he's just going to destroy your marriage if this continues to happen.

@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - that's awesome! June is my birthday :) woooo! haha yeah y'all are lucky for short deployments!!! good luck with y'all first child!

@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - I would wait to tell him until after you've handled the situation. Telling him before you've removed C from the picture will only frustrate him, and the last thing he needs to be is distracted if he is on active duty in a war zone.

Personally, I'd tell C to bugger off. Then, when the next opportunity presented itself for you to either video conference or speak to one another on the phone, then I would just calmly tell him that C was being annoying and you did not want to deal with so you told him to leave you alone. You aren't lying, but you aren't giving him details that are going to freak him out and cause him to lose focus. When he gets home, you can tell him the whole truth. He'll understand that you were looking out for him because he loves you and I'm sure he down plays the things he knows would worry you right now.

~Big Sis~

I think you need to end the friendship with C, at least for a few months.  He needs to feel like you aren't in his life like old times, like there is no chance, and like you aren't dependent on him.  If after a few months or years you see that he is happy in his life with you not there, and he is dating, then you can try and talk again.  Right now he still hopes (even if he knows that you're not interested) that something can happen again, and he is using you as a crutch.  He is relying on you.  He needs to learn to stand on his own two feet.  If you care about him, and your husband, you'll break off contact until he becomes a mature, stable person.

You should send him one last email or phone call saying that you feel this friendship is making you uncomfortable and you feel you need some time to reevaluate a lot of things.  You would prefer that he not contact you during this time.  At all.  And if he does you will not respond to, or even read his messages.  IF you decide to speak to him again you will contact him, but not to wait, it won't be soon, if at all.  Then do as you say and cut off contact.

If you see that he's doing alright in a year or two then you can try and talk to him again, if you feel the need.

Good luck

If I were you, I'd definitely cut it off. All contact. C doesn't seem to really be getting the picture so far, and you've been trying to make him see it for quite some time now. He's going to remain persistent. Plus, as others have said, if your husband hears about it, he'll wonder about it. He's across the world, it's not like he'll be able to find out for sure. Plus, it's natural that he'll be worried about the worst happening, at least a little. :/ Being friends with C isn't worth jeopardizing your relationship and future with your husband, at all.

I love how you're so devoted to your husband, there needs to be more people like that, male and female alike.