Miss Seal Making out in the car may be cute when you're 16, but now, I just feel like a class act.
I'm seeing someone, and I really like him. The only problem is that we both live with our parents. What to do?
I like going out, but I also like snuggling up to a good movie. It feels weird to snuggle next to your significant other when your mother is passing by and looking over her shoulder.
"Just pretend I'm not here."
How do you do that?
We could just go to my room, but I don't want to deal with weird questions and talks with my parents. Going to his house is just as bad - I'm not ready to meet the parents, and I'm not cool going to his - well, their - house without meeting them.
So what do you do when you want privacy with your significant other but neither of you has a place of his/her own? Where do you go?
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Depends on why you're living at home - it may be time to move out? And, if it's not, then go to your room or stay in the living room and accept them. You'll just have to get over it and deal.
In public. A little cafe, movie theater (why would your parents be in the same cinema as you?), out on the street, in a park, at a beach... get creative or get your own place! ;)
With the above. Get creative or move out.
the local middle school bleachers in the middle of the night. (its awkward but makes for a good story later.)
The park is a good spot, or the library.
hotel.
a friends house.
I'm sure you can find corners somewhere. That, or you can move out... I mean, how old are you exactly? Apparently not 16 anymore... OR, even better, you can just take whatever dicussions with your parents because it's not like they're going to kill you, and then you'll be able to go into your own room and have some privacy. Not so difficult. I also don't see what the problem with meeting his parents is... This doesn't signify marriage. I met my current boyfriend's parents like the day after we decided to go out (partly because I went to his house the day after we decided to go out, and his parents were there). Again, not so difficult.
Check yourself into a hotel or move into your own place.
Depending on your age, i wouldn't worry about 'talks' with the family. Just ask if it's cool, and say you're going to watch a movie. Leave the door open a couple of times, pretend its innocent and gradually work up to a locked and bolted door ;)
How old are you?
yeah, i agree with the posts above me about talking to your parents, or even his parents!! get creative!! :D
@two_days_until_forever@lovelyish - Agreed.
I don't know, go to public places that are quiet?
Xo
Beaches are always fun, little corners and alcoves, parks. Park benches though, I'm gonna warn you, are Extremely awkward.... I have bruises up and down my legs fron one :P But I would talk to your parents about it. Getting your own place just because you wanna do stuff with your boyfriend is a little extreme, but if your ready to leave home then it's an idea worth entertaining.
Totally feel you, man. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 17. He comes over all the time, and my mom really likes him, but I thought it best not to mention the dating part just yet. I have really traditionally paranoid hispanic parents, so I feel that by telling them we're dating, they'd think I was out having unsafe sex and a whole array of untrue things. In any case, his parents are even worse and I don't go there at all. So cuddling and all that stuff is risky business, haha.
I dorm so sometimes he comes to my dorm for alone time. Other times, I have to disagree with your negative image of the car. lol Seriously, we just find somewhere nice to park, and just sit in the backseat and cuddle and talk for hours. We've seriously had sooo many special moments in his car (don't get any dirty ideas) But seriously, even with weird parents, just go to your room and do your thing. I know the questions are awkward, but try coming out of the room and doing something casual like coming out for a snack or drink every so often so that your parents won't think anything that bad is up. Really, you'll get over the possibility of being awkwardly questioned. Just do what you have to do.
Hope and pray your parents go into another room. I just moved back home due to the economy and I'm going to have to be really creative until I can afford to move out
{PS, meeting his parents is never that bad. Granted I knew my boyfiends parents before we became involved. It doesn't have to be a big deal, just get him to casually introduce you.}
i mostly agree with above. if youre not sixteen and youre old enough to move out, go ahead and move out!
other than that, my SO and i usually just wait till the parents are out or occupied for awhile. you just have to be really good at recovering if your parents come back o_o;;orrr the park, but only if youre alone. public displays of affection are okay for just little kisses but full-on make out is kind of indecent in my opinion.ÂMeet the parents. Doesn't mean you're moving in an making babies together, just means you respect his family and care about him enough to want to know where he gets that cute nose, his crazy hair or funky personality.
As for making out? Go to a movie.
hotel
If you're old enough that your parents expect you to be involved in sexual activity (any as innocent as kissing and as serious as sex) then you might just want to talk to them like adults and spend some time with your guy in your room. Don't just do it when you want to mess around, but watch movies in your room, hang out, play board games, and if you feel like it anything else. If your parents ask, then have the adult talk about it. Honestly if you can't talk to them about it, you probably shouldn't be doing it, especially in their house.
It might also be time to move out, or go meet his family, if he has more privacy, and hang out in his basement or room.
I don't suggest your car, or the park, or the movies, because honestly that's tacky. Figure out a mature way, which means either with approval from your family in the privacy of some room, or move out.
lol I think this post is hilarious.
I dunno. Hotel room?
get your own place.
The car is fun. Shit. Lol
The beach is , too.
and may I add..the confession booth?
HAHAHHAHAHAHA JUST KITTTTTTTTTING =P
To some that's an indication that you guys shouldn't be fooling around, lol.
Too bad you guys aren't in Tokyo. We have tons of love hotels in the city, lol. But hey, motels are pretty much the same thing, right? Go find one of those.
(Btw, I made out with a guy in the car before--several times--when I was 19. He was 24...we laughed about it but didn't really care at the time, lol)
Well how old are you guys that you still live at home? If you are old enough to need make out space, I'd say think about getting your own place if you can,.