This is a guest blog submitted by AuCinema.
I was thinking yesterday about how the year-and-a-half marker of my relationship with my boyfriend is only about a month away. It seems that things have changed so much in the last year that I hardly ever give thought to the very early days of our relationship. Then this morning on my drive to work, I started remembering the first time that he ever told me that he loved me and how I almost completely missed it.
We had been dating for about three months at the time - it was a chilly night in early November and my roommate was out for the night with her sorority. Boyfriend and I were lying on my bed, watching TV and talking when he started teasing me about how I couldn't watch a single commercial without mocking it.
"You're driving me crazy!" he laughed and put his hand over my mouth. I immediately removed the hand and said, "Shut up, you know you like me for my wit".
Still chuckling, he said, "Seriously, Erin, I think I love you".
I laughed out loud.
Yes, he told me he loved me and I laughed in his face.
Then I rolled over and after seeing that our program had come back on, I turned up the volume on the TV. I wasn't trying to be mean or throw off his advances; it just never clicked with me that he was serious (I've never claimed to be good at feelings). In my opinion, the moment had been way too silly and unromantic for such a startling confession. Not to mention the phrasing: "Seriously Erin, I think I love you" ....
"I think"? It wasn't "what light through yonder window breaks".
It wasn't until about a half hour after he left that I started thinking about what he had said and realized with horror that he might have been serious. I ran to the bathroom where my roommate was brushing her teeth and told her what he had said.
"Oh my God," she said, "What did you say?"
"I laughed," I told her; "I didn't think he was serious so I laughed at him."
"Oh my God, Erin! That poor boy! He tells you that he loves you and you laugh in his face! You're so stupid. He is probably crying himself to sleep right now. You have to fix this right away!"
I went back to my room feeling terrible, but I didn't know how to fix things. I was pretty sure that calling him up and asking him to explain the comment would only make the situation more awkward. Not to mention, I wasn't completely sure that I loved him yet. Therefore, being my usual emotionally challenged self, I didn't bring up the incident for another two weeks. Conveniently enough, he didn't mention it either.
Finally, after a lot of thinking, I decided that I cared about him enough to take the leap and bring up the "I love you" thing one more time. It was a late Saturday night and we were walking home together from a friend's apartment. It was cold and he gave me his sweatshirt and I said, "Were you being serious that night?" I didn't even have to explain what night or what incident.
"Yeah," he said.
"Why haven't you said it again?"
"Because you never said it back," he said, "I just assumed you didn't feel the same way."
"I guess I was thrown off by the 'I think'," I told him, "I took it as, 'Seriously Erin, I think I love you but I'm only like 75% sure'," He laughed.
"Okay," he said, "I love you. I'm 100% sure."
With the most serious face I could muster (I was pretty happy at the moment) I said, "I love you too" and I guess you could say that the rest is history.
I'm curious though, does anybody else remember the first "I love you" with a significant other? Was it funny, cute, romantic? Unlike me and my boyfriend, were both of you on the same page?
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My bf and I were cuddling on my couch when he said "I think I'm falling in love with you." I had been trying to decide if I should say something about the fact that I was pretty sure I was falling in love with him, so I immediately responded with the same. It was unexpectedly soon in the relationship - maybe a month? A week or so later we were laying on his bed, in the dark, just kind of facing each other, and he said "I love you," which I of course reciprocated. It was kind of amazing because I had never expected to fall in love so quickly, but it felt exactly right.
My boyfriend said it first, although by that point, I'd been thinking it for a couple of weeks. I didn't say it back, because I was worried he'd think I was saying it just to say it. It took me another couple of weeks to say it to him, although I did explain I'd been feeling that way for a while.
So yeah, I think essentially we were on the same page...saying the "L word" just freaks me out, so I really mull over it before I say it.
I can never take any seriously. I always have to let out a laugh, at least once, maybe cause I'm so nervous. It's how I am.
Him: I love you.
Me: -Laughs- . . . I love you too?
But I think it was a pretty cute moment. :D
That is the cutest!!!!! I remember my now hubby said it while we were on deployment in Bahrain. Both in the U.S. Navy, we were at wartime and everything, he leaned over while we watched the sunset (yea corny i know) and said the 3 little words. I was sooo happy!
that was such a sweet story...at least the ending was
i'm still trying to figure out what love means. i don't think simply saying it has much meaning till you figure that out.
The first time my (now ex)boyfriend said "I love you" to me was over AIM and we were joking around so I didn't take him seriously. But about a week or so later, we were joking around and being goofballs and I was laughing and looking at him and said "Oh my god, I love you" with a HUGE smile on my face, completely and unexpectedly sincere. And he said it back to me and told me he didn't think I loved him because I didn't say it back last time. But I explained how I thought he was joking and how "ily's" over AIM weren't anything to take seriously, and like you said, the rest is history.
With one, I didn't say it back for at least a week, if not longer...I didn't think he was serious. With another, he was drunk so I didn't take him seriously. The other was like, harassing me so I just ignored him. Of course, none were my significant other, those were just various examples of my reactions. Of course, after I realized the first was serious, I said it back. The second, I said it back the next time he said it, even though he didn't believe me. Soo...yeah.
Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah.
Wow. Laughing here at the laughter response in the blog.
::insert foot in mouth::-moment, for sure.
But, I'm glad to see things worked out nicely.
My boyfriend was away at college, so we were hardly together in the early days of our relationship. About a month into it, though, we were talking via AIM late at night, and he said he had a surprise for me. He told me not to answer my phone because he wanted to leave a voicemail. Later, I listened to his message, and it said, "-blahblahblah, he was nervously rambling- Anyway, you know I love you..which is what...it took...me so long to say. Good night." *click*
I giggled because it was so awkward, but then I sent him an, "I love you" text. Not so romantic, but cute in our awkward and goofy manner.
=O you laughed in his face? oh god i can't imagine what he thought afterwards. at least you caught on and you brought it up later on.
My boyfriend & I said "i love you" to eachother about 2 weeks into our relationship, I guess because we were so young. But we do mean it because we've been together for 2 years now. It started out with me saying " i love your shoes" and he said " i love your nail polish" and then i said "i love your eyes." and he said "i love youuuu are glasses." i didn't catch on and i said " i love your coat." i caught on five minutes later and we stopped walking and he said "I love you. i know i do." and i said the same. 2 years and still going strong =] <3
my boyfriend tricked me into saying it first T_T we had been dating for a while, and we were wrestling over something ( i don't remember what). he said something to me that sounded exactly like "i love you" and i was mentally going "wtf?! crap! the l-word!" and mumbled back something along the lines of "love you too" before attacking him for springing that on me.
neither one of us mentioned it for like, 2 months, and he always makes fun of me for saying "i love you" first >: |
Oh god, I could see it on my boyfriend's face. It was all over, and he was horrible at hiding it. I knew it in my heart, and in my head that I loved him more than anyone.. but I'm chicken shit and I was refusing to say it until I heard it first.
We were laying on the couch in the living room when he said it, after we'd finished watching a movie, in which I can't even remember the title. I just remember laying on his chest, and he looked down at me and said it.
Best night ever for sure.
My now ex-boyfriend actually said "I know you love me." about a week after a break up/make up situation. We were laying on my couch watching tv and talking and he said it very matter of fact.
My boyfriend said it first. It was cute, and sort of unexpected. We were just taking like we usually do...and he seemed really nervous about it...it came out kind of like: "I....I think....I'm in love with you..."
It sounds bad when it's typed but it was really pretty amazing to hear...it took me a while to say it back, but when I did he was quite thrilled. Both very good moments in my book, if you ask me :D
my boyfriend and i were laying on his bed talking. we had been together about 2 months already. i had been thinking it about 2 weeks already. been talking to my mom and friends. "do i really love him? it's so soon!" so anyway we are laying there and he looks at me and says "i think im falling in love with you" i smiled and kissed him and told him i had been wanting to sya that for 2 weeks. he told me the next time we saw each other that he loved me and i immediately said it back. it still gives me butterflies when he says it.
i've been thinking about this actually, i know it's early days.. me and my boyfriend have only been going out for 4 weeks. we have very strong views on saying those words, so i know that he'll really mean it when he says. i can't wait til that day i hear them ^__^ i might giggle because i'll be so happy, but i know i wont be taking it as a joke.
Adorable!
we were upstairs in our college's main building, playing guitar together one night. i don't remember what exactly led up to it, but we had put the guitars down and were sort of cuddling on a couch...
him: i love you
me: really? i love you, too.
him: so can i kiss you now?
(it was not only our first kiss as a couple but each of our actual first kisses as well).
don't worry, i let him kiss me. haha.
and now we're married. :)
:)
I DID THE SAME THING!!! Except for me, it was a nervous laugh because I totally wasn't ready to say it yet. I don't remember exactly what the situation was, but I remember I just laughed nervously and said something like "uh *mumble* you too".
Fortunately, he wasn't discouraged and waited until I was ready to take the initiative and say it to him.
THAT is the cutest! :)
Yes I remember my first I love you with my now husband....we were in my room on the bed just talking. He told me from the start that he won't say I love you first because of past reasons....so of course I said it and he said it back :)
Now my first first I love you was with my ex...and if i remember correctly i said it first but he brought up the subject. I wanted to see how he would act (so aka didn't really mean it) and of course he then acted like he owned me, long story short....i broke up with him.
We were sleeping, and she woke up with a headache. I got her Ibuprofen, and water. I stroked her hair and told her stories, trying to make her go back to sleep. When I thought she was sleeping, I confessed to her. She turned over, opened her eyes, and was like, "You could have told me when I was awake." But then she kissed me and told me she loved me, too.
Cute story. :)
When I first talked to my husband on the phone (I kept in touch with him online for a couple of months before), I guess you can say we didn't click well. We argued and debated about certain things that we didn't agree on. But by the end of the night, we seem to be on the same page for once. Haha. It was waaaaay unexpected but he told me he loved me already. I was shocked and speechless. I quickly told him 'good night' and hung up. After that, we dated for three years and have been married for another three years. I guess there's always a first for everything whether it's awkward or not.
Lol. And i laughed because i got nervous. I loved him, so i told him.
Xo