Monday, 05 January 2009
This is a guest blog submitted by Nina.
The idea of a friends with benefits relationship has been discussed in pop culture, from songs to TV shows, so it's no surprise to me to actually see this type of relationship in real life - A few of my friends have even given a FWB relationship a try. As with all relationships, FWB relationships run their courses and end, usually for the same reason...
The ending that I hear the most is unrequited love. What may begin as two friends having the occasional, yet platonic, romp in the hay may turn into one of the friends wanting to turn the FWB into a committed and serious relationship. The unreciprocated love could lead to the end of not only the FWB, but also the friendship.
A lack of communication is also a possible dealbreaker. The friends have to come to a mutual agreement on whether they are going to date other people, have sex with other people, or even tell others about their FWB relationship. The possible conversation topics are endless.
According to this article, only about 10% of FWBs actually turn into real relationships. So what makes one out of ten FWBs actually work? I personally believe that in order for two people to have a successful FWB relationship, a mutual attraction has to exist. Who's going to enter into a relationship with someone they don't find attractive? Also, the two in the FWB must have complete trust in one another. If you can't trust your significant other, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person. The daters must also have open lines of communication and should be able to talk about anything.
What were (or would be) your rules for a FWB?