Mr. LionI was at Starbucks and overheard a cashier asking the question, "so how many dates do you go before sleeping with a guy?" I looked up to give her an answer, except she was asking her coworker, who was making a drink behind her.
I sat down somewhat disappointed - for some reason, I wanted to answer the question. They were still talking loudly enough for me to hear. "I don't want him to think I'm a slut," she went on. She kept saying how she wasn't sure if he was expecting something in return.
Fifteen minutes later, as I was walking out the door, I realized she still wasn't sure. Her coworker clearly didn't help with her "I don't know"s. I was about to give her an answer, but I decided it's best she figure it out on her own. No reason to mess with the woman's head, right?
So how many dates do you need to go on before sleeping with a guy? Fellas, be serious... how many dates do you need before the girl should be comfortable enough to sleep with you?
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Since I have never slept with a girl.
I think 10 dates , or possible 6 months of going out with each other.
Varies on person's preference. Varies on how often and how long you spend getting to know each other. There's no "right" answer. It's just whatever you feel comfortable with.
um 100 dates??
jk  when u know that person really well and know u love that person maybe that the time..
who knows it might happen on the first ??
It would depend on the physical chemistry between me and the girl. If there is a lot present it still might take me a couple dates to get fully comfortable with her (and for her to get comfortable with me) because I tend to be more shy and reserved at first, so I would say about 2 to 5 dates depending on the person, the chemistry and the relationship.
I don't believe in sex before marriage, so not until you're married to each other! :D
Numbers are irrelevant when I intend on waiting for marriage.
But for those who don't follow that principle, I think it really depends on the chemistry and the people involved.
it depends on how fast things move, and the level of attraction. i'd say like at least a couple of months.
For me, it's not the number of dates. I have to be in an established, exclusive relationship where we both agree that's what it is. I have to feel like we know each other pretty well outside of the bedroom. I have to have seen him when he is not at his best and the other way around. In other words, I have to be comfortable with the other aspects of the relationship before I throw sex into the mix. Because of this, I have only had sex with one person, and that was cyber sex. Do I regret this? No. I just think it will save me a lot of drama.
Xo
However many dates until you both feel comfortable? Be a bit silly if there was a certain number
"Oh we've done 5 dates now, it's time to fuck". Hmm? xD
one.
just kidding. i don't put out for six months.
don't think you can put a number on it. so long as both parties are comfortable with it.
Depends on the amount of alcohol involved. When I'm in a sober relationship, it always takes a while, because I'm compensating for the times I might have hopped into bed a little too soon. :-/
Izzy
It depends. I won't sleep with someone I don't have great chemistry with. So if I do have great chemistry with someone and I feel comfortable with them, it might be just 2 or 3 dates.
Physical intimacy is a HUGE part of serious, committed relationships. I think it's silly not to explore that part of each other early on.
I've had three boyfriends ...
one I waited until we were exclusive for 5 months
the second I waited for two months after we began dating, we were exclusive for 3 weeks ..
the other that i am currently dating for over a year, the second time we met =]
it depends on how you feel .. their is no key number
I guess if you are comfortable with that person... and know that he/she won't disrespect you after sleeping with you.
Loving that person is a plus too. The number of dates shouldn't matter. You could love someone/be comfortable with them after 2.
It depends on the couple and their relationship. I don't think there should be a universal number of dates. That's stupid. Everyone is different and needs to make that decision on his own.Â
I very much agree you you...Sweeping Intensity. You didn't leave me much else to say. :)
-Cuisine
@Sweeping__Insensitivity@xanga - I very much agree with this one from Sweeping__Insensitivity:
"It depends. I won't sleep with someone I don't have great chemistry with. So if I do have great chemistry with someone and I feel comfortable with them, it might be just 2 or 3 dates.
Physical intimacy is a HUGE part of serious, committed relationships. I think it's silly not to explore that part of each other early on."
@Sweeping__Insensitivity@xanga - Agreed as well.
@KasumiCelesta@xanga - Otherwise, agreed here.
But the last time I actually advised a female friend, I told her 3 months would be nice. If not, 1 month. If you're just having fun? As long as it takes to get clothes of and protection on! Funny thing is... I didn't think she'd actually listen to me... but she did!
i think its different in every situation...i waited 3 months before sleeping with my boyfriend, however, i was a virgin so it was a different situation...
I say at least 6 months (as long as you have steady dates)
I waited 7 months with my ex (that was a bust since he turned into an egotistical jealous asshole after wards).
And i waited 6 months after starting to date with my, now, husband. We talked on the phone for about 8 months before we dated so tech it was 14 months (but we didn't see each other in those 8 months of talking on the phone/internet). Take it slow, it's no rush. You need to get onto a emotional level before a physical one...trust me i have done both (examples above). And as you can tell the emotional level first worked out great :)
Once the STD test results come back clean.
I don't like putting set time frames. Normally it takes me about six months before becoming comfortable with the idea...but everyone's chemistry is different so I won't hold people to half a year and I'm very attentive to how another people feel about the subject.
Even though it's my perogative to make people work for me...more for safety reasons than anything else.
I know its slutty but I tend to use sex as an icebreaker. lol
Im okay with sleeping with them the first night but I always feel gross the next day.
My new years resolution is to not be so open. Id like to wait a few days but really, as long as you dont go sleeping around I dont see anything wrong with sleeping the first night. But I can definitely see people being uncomfortable.
To each their own. But I heard that the "rule" is 4-7 dates.