i'm assuming your not a virgin either, by the sound of your last gf it wouldn't be surprising.
so - if you are or were no virgin, would that make you a slut, too?

@MrsMok@xanga - Exactly.
@LadyLibellule@xanga - Exactly.
@UnVolume@xanga - Exactly.

I agree with all of these. I also think it's important to choose who you have sex with, but it's not supposed to be important to others (it's kind of private business).

P.S; You're a slut, right?

Sex should be saved for marriage

You seem to have this idea that if a woman has sex, even if it is JUST ONCE, she's automatically a slut simply for no longer being a virgin.  Just because she is not a virgin, doesn't mean she sleeps around and has zero morals.  You know, she could be the PERFECT woman for you, but you're cutting ties with her because you discriminate against people who have made mistakes in the past.  You don't know the story behind her losing her virginity.  What if she thought she was going to spend the rest of her life with that person?  What if she was raped?  You jumping to conclusions is very unfair towards her.  There's more to a person than whether or not they've had sex, and if you think that's all there is to defining a woman, then that's pretty insulting.  Grow up and learn to accept that people have made mistakes, or else NO ONE is going to be "good enough" for you.

@LadyLibellule@xanga - Sorry. I wasn't paying attention to that at all. Wasn't trying to make an argument. Just point out something.

I still agreed with you.

It is hypocritical and sexist.

I understand where you are coming from.. I am sixteen and still a virgin. My boyfriend whose eighteen however is not a virgin. And when i think about how I know he will be my first time and I will always remember that it hurts to know I won't be his special first time that he remembers.

I realize that I am going to be repeating alot of what other people have already said (and that should tell you something) but...

...judging future relationships a certain way because of a past relationship OR making up a steryotype about a group just because one person you know from that group behaves a certain way...you have no right to do that...every person is different and every relationship is different...just because you had a bad experience doesnt mean the next one will be bad too...and besids comparing your past to your present like that will only make things go bad or go worse than they already are...

...also...I dont necessarily see wanting "all" of someone to yourself as possessive and I understand why some people wait until marriage before they have sex (for religious or other reasons)...the problem that I have with your statement is that you noted that you were not a virgin either...Im not saying that you, as a non-virgin, cannot desire to end up with a girl who is a virgin but you cannot automatically label her a slut (just because she has had sex in the past) when you dont know the whole story. What if she has only had sex once, what if she has only had sex with someone when she was in a relationship with them at the time, what if it was rape? There are those and many other examples where a non-virgin would not be considered a slut.

...and if we are going to go by your definition of a slut then you would be just a much of a slut as her (since you are also not a virgin)...

Uh yea, whether it was neither or either doesn't matter. Neither is just grammatically unsound. They both still mean the same thing. 

ccc!  I think your being really unfair because now look at all the thinks your thinking abou ther. Shes a SLUT because she isnt a virgin? Thats not fair ! Another thing is dont you think she should be thinking the same thing? I mean you werent a virgian eather you said it yourself ! DOnt you think she would want you to be her only one eather? How is it okay for you to want to be the only one that has been with her and yet she cant think the same thing about you? YOu know what else is funny is that in our society if a guy gets hooked up with girls his considered a P.I.M.P. and his the coolistt thing in the milkyway yet if a girl was in his ossition she would be a whore a slut blah blah. I mean think about it your not a virgian and thats okay but becasue she isnt shes a slut? In a way so are you ! :) DOnt think Im attacking you but its irritating for males to think that we havet o be goody tissues and stay home and control our hormones while they go out and "practice" ! WE are as much capable of saying we need it as any other guy and how is it we have the strenght to control ourseves and men dont? So what were more powerful? more strong ? but but... women are weaker then men ... OR R THEY? 

I think that your opening statements about women say that you're a huge douche-bag. With that being said. Sex is something that is different for different people. Some girls are loose. Yes. Tons of guys are worse. But a women can not be a virgin nor a whore. So stop acting like you're better because you're a man. A girl has a choice to make just like a girl. They can both say no. They can decide to have sex. It shouldnt completely define your views. If you liked her at first then that shouldnt change because of that. Thats almost as bad as racial discrimination. You're discriminating against that poor girl for a choice that she made. You should really be ashamed of yourself. Thats my view. Take it or leave it <3 addy

I wouldn't date a girl that wasn't a virgin.. but then again, I don't have double standards. I'm a virgin and I'm waiting and I need that girl to do the same for me.

I WANT it to be awkward, I want to figure out what I'm doing, and it'll be great when it finally does happen. If you're not a virgin man, you have no say.

good luck finding a girl that is a virgin.  not saying there arent any but its rare.  so a guy has had "that part" of her but its just physical, once you and her get closer you wont think about it like that besides i think your just making a big deal out of nothing. 

if a guy expects a girl to be a virgin than i think the girl has every right to expect the same from the guy.  its only fair.