Miss Penguin In light of the recent fizzling out between the 35-year-old and myself, I've decided to try my hand at online dating again. This time, however, I am not using OkCupid; I'm using
plentyoffish, which was actually (kind of) recommended to me a loooong time ago by someone who commented on one of my old posts about online dating.
I don't know how active I will be, as I'm actually not really having trouble meeting people right now. But a friend of mine who gave me endless amounts of crap for trying online dating in the first place has put herself on OkCupid, and we were looking at it last night and I decided to try something else, kind of as an experiment to see if other sites are better. See, with OkCupid, I was not impressed with the caliber of the men. Most of them were... not very smart (to put it delicately) and the few who were smart were boring. So I joined plentyoffish last night.
Here are my impressions so far: plentyoffish claims to be the largest online dating site in the world. I don't know if that's true, but I'm much more impressed with it than with OkCupid so far.
The caliber of men seems to be much higher, or at least it seemed like everyone I clicked on (though I didn't click on that many people I suppose) had a Master's degree and worked in some high power career. Of the 15(ish) guys that I looked at, most of the guys were in great shape (it actually makes me a little self-conscious and feeling like I need to head to the gym) and seemed like interesting people based on their profiles.
However, plentyoffish doesn't have the same amount of compatibility testing and such, and most people seem to leave their profiles relatively sparse ("message me if you want to get to know me" seems to be a common tag line). I sent out a few messages last night and I received one message within ten minutes of signing up (although not from someone I was interested in). So we'll see how it goes. I will keep you guys posted here, as always.
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Internet dating? Well all I've got to say is good luck to you!
ahh, pof. i was a member from june to the beginning of august. after stumbling across a profile i enjoyed, i messaged the guy and went on a date with him a week later.we've been dating five months now and he's the most incredible guy i've ever met.
that's not to say i didn't meet/talk to my fair share of creeps. with that said, i really enjoyed my pof experience.
best of luck to you!
;D Good Luck
From my friends and my experiences with online dating, we found that women definitely get much more messages sent to them than the other way around. I used to mess around w/ OkCupid but not much lately. If I do visit that site it's only to do random tests.
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - i've heard that about women getting more messages on those sites too. i told my boyfriend how many messages a day i would get and his jaw dropped. he said he would get one or two at most.
@lastlyfirst@xanga - Yea, that seems pretty typical. And although OkCupid claim the ratio of guys/girls are about the same, the activity level really makes it seem like there are a whole lot more guys haha.
good luck!
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - which makes it great for us women, but not so great for you men. poor things :P haha
@lastlyfirst@xanga - I know right? Not fair!
I tried Okcupid and yes, there did seem to be more men than women. I received several messages and even IMs when I was online. It was an interesting experience. And I have met one person of off Okcupid. Nice guy but my interest in him died down after the third date...he was kinda boring!
The site is purely good for hook ups, honestly!
My mother met her current fiance on that site.
Good luck!
Good luck. I failed miserably on match.com even with what I considered a well thought out and witty profile with numerous varied pictures (alone, with family, with friends, skiing, rock climbing, traveling abroad). I sent something like 50 well-written unique messages across my 3 month membership and got... 0 responses. Not even a no-thanks. Makes me sad. Maybe I'll try POF. Good luck to you though! Just another way to meet people is what I say. Doesn't mean I stop leaving my apartment!
I'm on that too (should you decide to look me up!) and it's great. I get tons of responses each day and it's great for meeting new people especially since I know practically no one in this city... I hope you love it as much as I do!
Also the message boards are great! Some threads are absolutely hilarious (from my p.ov.) and others are just great to know. I really do hope you like it as much as I do!
Welcome!
I've heard of that websites sometimes ago as well, I think that websites is better in some areas compare with others, Good luck.
One of my best friends signed up on that site. She met a few guys that didn't work out, made some really good friends, and I'm planning her October wedding to a great guy she found on Plenty of Fish. Sometimes it works. :)
get the fuck out, i just joined plenty of fish.
My sister tried plenty of fish... Lots of dates. None of it really worked out though, in the end. But she found a relationship in the real world later on, which so far has been pretty good.
From what I have been told about it, you get what you pay for, and because POF is free, it is not very exclusive (and people on it are more likely to be unemployed than a paying dating website) and therefore you may have to "kiss a lot of toads" to find the winners.