Sunday, 28 December 2008
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My FWB Has A Kid Named After Him
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.I have been dating this one guy for a while now and I really like him. He's not my boyfriend; we're just dating non-exclusively, a kind of friends-with-benefits type deal. While we were on the phone a few days ago, he told me more about himself.
We are both 22, and so I asked out of curiosity and conversation when he lost his virginity. He told me that he lost it in 10th grade to his sister's best friend, who's a year younger than we are.
But get this, she was already with someone else at the time, so she cheated on her boyfriend with him. Now that sister's best friend is married and has had a kid with her now-husband.
Guess who she names the kid after? My FWB - but with a different spelling so people wouldn't catch on. I don't know if my FWB had a say in the matter but...yeah. They never even dated, either.
Even though his sister's best friend is married, I don't think her being married is going to stop them from hooking up again if they ever do, considering she cheated with him when she took his virginity.
Would you want to know there's a kid out there named after your FWB, or not want to know?
He and I aren't ever going to amount to anything more than FWBs, but I dunno...knowing this is just kind of a turn off for me.
I kinda wish I didn't know...I just asked when he lost his v-card; I didn't want to know who took it and that whole ordeal.
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Comments (49)
If you didn't really want to know, you shouldn't have asked. If it's a turn off for you, don't deal with it. You aren't technically dating, so it's not like there's going to be some messy breaking of commitments if you break off having sex with this guy.
Leave and don't look back. If you suspect that he won't change, he's probably not going to.
such a non-issue
FWB aren't supposed to care about that stuff...
i agree with the above.. FWB, technically shouldn't care about all the details because it's no strings attached right?
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Um, yeah, I personally would want to know, but I also can't do FWB. If you're truly FWB, then you should not care what he did or does with his spare time, unless it gets you an STD.
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It's like the above has said, FWB aren't suppose to care about strings attached.
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - Well, she's not a mind reader. How did she know that was what was going to come up.
You really shouldn't care. You don't really know the whole story either it seems. Maybe she'd always liked his name, or had been good friends with him, or some other little thing. Plus if you're just FWB, you really shouldn't care.
I had a hard time with one thing though. You said that just because she cheated on a boyfriend in the 9th grade that she would cheat again with him. Somehow that's not a fair assumption. Freshman year boyfriend vs. father of child and husband. I don't think it's fair to assume she'll cheat again.
Getting on the topic of losing a v-card, it's bound to happen for the topic to get a bit off course...therefore going into detail of when you lost it, with who, and etc.
But seriously, FWB's aren't suppose to care about it. lol
usually, I kinda get annoyed when people don't answer the question on Datingish and say something like "nobody cares," but honestly, this is really random. How many people does this actually pertain to? You act like it's his kid or something.
I don't see the problem.
I'd think it was a bit creepy (then again, I don't know the entire story), and I'd be wary in general of that girl whether or not she talked to him ever again. Then again, I'm a pretty paranoid girlfriend--I'm not sure how my boyfriend puts up with it.
Regardless, it's not really a big deal. Especially to FWBs.
sounds like a bad situation to be in no matter what way you look at it...
he's a FWB.
in my experience, I don't even enjoy having "real" conversations with them. yes, "v-card" is sex related, so maybe you were just talking about "taboo" topics, but since he is not a "potential boyfriend," don't ask too many questions and don't find out too much about him.
the more you know, the more likely you are to become attached.
I had an FWB once... his name was Max. We never had sex or anything, but we kissed a few times... and I plan on naming my next son, if I have another son, Max. Why? Because I LIKE THE NAME. Also, it's my husband's cousin's name...
I personally think the FWB made it sound like she named the kid after him because it makes him sound better. Like, you know, "she can't get over him" or something. Personally, I would be pissed if my ex/FWB thought I named my son after him - that's so vain.
And going off of someone else's point - she cheated in ninth grade. Ninth grade? Not exactly the same as being 21.
i never deal with the "friends with benefits" thing. someone always ends up getting attached.
maybe she just liked the name. think about..it he's 22 now and they had their thing when they were 15. it doesnt mean they're still in love or whatever
FWB never works unless the other person has a major dealbreaker you would never want to deal with in a relationship.
Anyways, I wouldn't wanna know anything like that either.
@awokenfatality@xanga - Meh, she didn't, but she can't really go back from what she heard now. People don't really get that asking questions of a personal nature often yield unexpected results (of both good and bad nature). It just seems silly to complain about something that you can't change just because it's something you didn't expect.
Too bad, you know now. Why does it matter? You're friends with benefits, not dating.
And it's not like it's HIS child; the child was just named after him. He doesn't have to raise the child, he doesn't have to feed the child, he doesn't have to pay child support. I just see it as an odd non-situation.
oh wow i'm slow.. i couldn't figure out what FWB stood for until the end of the post haha..
anywho.. if your relationship is only at FWB standing, there's nothing you can do about him and his connection with her. it'd be cool if he was a guy who will only do it with the one he cares about most.. and then you wouldn't have to worry.
wow a kid named after him?? yea she was more into him than she ever let on if she named another man's baby after a guy she had a fling with in high school. and she is a slut for screwing a guy behind her boyfriend's back.