This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.There is this guy that I've had a crush on since I saw him. I like the attention that he gives me. Apparently, I hear that he flirts a lot and he is also the class clown - always making everyone laugh.
About a month ago, he told the girls that sit at his table that we were together (only joking). He asked me to confirm right in front of them and I went along with it and said yes. Then the next day after class, one of those girls told him jokingly that I wanted him to walk me to our next class and he said "what the heck?" - as in, "uh, NO" and walked away.
Two weeks ago, he asked me to hang out.
Him: Do you want to hang out sometime?
Me: Sure.
Him: Like a date?
Me: I don't know.
Him: Do you want to go out on a date?!
Me: I don't know.
I said "I don't know" just in case he was kidding, but he looked pretty serious.
He always asks me questions about work, who I hang out with, what I do at home, etc.
The other day, I asked him to help me do something and some other guy told me, "What does he get out of doing that? You better blow him!" My crush said "NO THAAAANKS!"
I don't get it. Why is he always hot and cold? My teacher asked me if I have a crush on him and she told me that he likes me, but she could just be making that up.
What should I do about this? Does he like me or not? I'm going to my friends house on Christmas and he lives across the street from her; should I do something about that?
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DO IT! BLOW HIM!
It could be a defense mechanism. He doesn't want to get hurt so he's always joking around and possibly because of that he doesn't know how to turn it off.
Perhaps if you really liked him you should have said yes to the date, even if he was joking. Try going up to him and saying, "So what about that date?"
Only if your friend and her family is okay to invite him over try it. But he may have other plans as it is Christmas.
I agree, it's a defense mechanism...and also, he probably has no idea how to REALLY talk to a girl so he jokes around all the time because that's all he's used to.Â
If he continues to joke around, I'd say screw it...do you really want to date a guy who can't ever have a serious conversation?
Just blow him. That'll solve everything. I guarantee it.
Out of curiosity how did your teacher get involved with all this? O_O
Well in my opinion I think this dude has a crush on you. He shows it when you and him are alone and I believe he is sincere about all that. Like a lot of guys out there he just does not want people to find out, for many different reasons. Since he acts like hes all that like flirting with all the girls and act like the class clown, he might not want people to find out he actually fell in love with someone, worst of all in case you reject him, he will lose a lot of his pride.
Next time take a step towards him despite the fact that you might think hes kidding. Hey maybe it will work out, worst case brush it off. And if he ever ask you out again, string along, say "sure but you better pay for dinner" and pretend that your not totally looking forward to it and try to sound like your joking around too. Just don't say I don't know, if hes serious your really killing his ego.
:D good luck
AHAHAHA! WOW. He most DEFINITELY likes you. He just doesn't want to admit it in front of other people, apparently, with the way he's reacting when other people tease you guys about being together. So childish, lol.
haha why is your teacher talking to you about your lovelife
Sounds like a defense mechanism he's using to me.
uhhh he asked you on a date with a serious face and you told him "i don't know" twice. he doesn't think you are into him anymore. duh.
I definitely think he's just flirting with you. Go for it.
hey who are you?
hes dicking around...
hes doesn't like you...
i do this all the time...
Dunno-- it's a difficult call. I wouldn't say what rockinswimerdude was 100% reliable nor does he 'not like you' to some extent since he at least jokingly said you guys were dating-- if a guy didn't want to hang out with you, he wouldn't-- there's at least that.
He's flirting though;; isn't that enough?
@LastAznAlliVed@xanga - "Out of curiosity how did your teacher get involved with all this?"
I am very curious on this one.....
but seriously most guys are "hot and cold" when it comes to dating. Most guys don't like the feeling of rejection and so when you said "I don't know" then he just put up some walls. Tomorrow (if he is at home) bring him some cupcakes or chocolates and walk over there and hand them to him with a smile and say "Merry Christmas." show him you are into him.. without the joking.
its obvious he likes you. if you like him go for it. if not cut the crap and stop leading him on.
@rockinswimerdude@xanga - you're an asshole.
But in response to the actual post: I think he might like you so you should just go for it. Though if something DOES happen, you hafta see how he acts. If he's still completely clown-ish and dumb, even alone - dump him. But what's the harm in trying?
Did you try blowing him? That usually works on us guys ^-^
Usually when guys joke, it's half truth.
Stop pondering around and just ask him straight up. If he likes you, take it from there. If not, at least you know and won't be wasting your time thinking about it!
sounds like he's into you...but he totally read your "I don't knows" as rejections...maybe you could give him a hint that you're as into him as he is into you.
He likes you. But he's being immature about it. Extremely. Move on.
God I am so glad I'm not in high school anymore.
I recommend buying him a reliable thermostat.
He probably likes you but doesn't know how to come to terms with it. Since he isn't man enough to approach you in a respectable manner, then he is definitely not man enough for you! Walk away, if he finally wakes up and sees that he needs to act then he will. Best of luck.
I really like your site. And I think he likes you but he's kinda scared to put himself in and doesnt want to get broken or ruin your friendship or something. you should talk to him about it.
Your TEACHER told you that? Wow.
That's one very special teacher ;) I love teachers that connect with their students [how did she even find out i the first place?]
But I think that you should just have a friend ask him.... or really ask him face to face because guys, when they have a straight face on when asking someone on a date, usually means it.
I agree with most of the comments, lolz. I think he has a huge crush on you and hes totally hiding it. I think you should take the step and approach him. Don't be afraid, just follow your heart. Bake him something or even just go and say Merry Christmas. It will touch his heart.
Haha I love how half the guys that have commented so far have suggested blowing him. Anyways I agree with the general consensus; he digs you, just might be shy/immature about it.