Tuesday, 23 December 2008
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Follow-Up: We Were Making Out, He Stopped...
This is a follow-up to this post.
Well, I believe you remember my posting earlier last week when we were making out and then he started to withdraw...you all were right about it, he had someone and he "isn't that into me." But i guess I decided to screw things up by finding out more about him.
I saw on my mini-feed that he had kissed her under mistletoe on Facebook and jealousy got the better of me. So I decided that I wanted to find out more - I guess it was the wrong move. What happened after that was really horrible.
It goes on like this: I commented on his post, she commented back and I decided to send her a message; she responded and I added her on MSN. I managed to find her blog and oh my gosh, she posted so much about herself on the blog! It was also very obvious that he's into her - what shocks me, though, is that she is 18 (he is a 31-year-old doctor). He did so much for her even when he was still with his other girlfriend! It shocked me.
I read the blog and out of kindness, I told him a little about what I thought about the whole situation; we chatted for a bit then he got really annoyed with me and asked me to stop...I carried it too far and then he said, "that's it - we can't even talk anymore," and soon after, he deleted me from his entire Facebook list and even his MSN.
Sigh. I apologized to him for going too far and messaged him but no response. I even said that if he wanted I could help him get back together with his ex-girlfriend.
Do you think there is even hope of being acquaintances or friends? What is the best thing I can do now?
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Comments (48)
get over it
its not worth it.
He's scum and not worth it. Any adult who is mature and knows how to treat anyone wouldn't treat your or anyone the way he's treating the gals he sees. He's just messing around and needs to grow up. You deserve someone that is into you, deserves yoU, wants to be with you and most of all, RESPECTS you....
Just let him go.
Why do you even want to be friends with him? I never understood this. You should forget about him.
Getting over him is easier said than done.
Just wait it out, you were too forward about the whole situation. He's not going to start talking to you the next day as if nothing had happened. Give him time, and in the mean time you do whatever you need to do to get him off your mind. When the time is right you guys will naturally talk again.
he's not even worth ur friendship
Not worth it. Cut him off.
your last suggestion to him really comes off as borderline stalkerish/obsessive.... and almost pitiful. scrape up whatever dignity you have left and leave the entire situation behind. there is no real point in trying to remain friends or even acquaintances with this guy. doing so would just be torturous for you because really, why would you want to be friends with him otherwise when your real motive is probably to try and see if he could fall for you again?
He's definitely not worth it.
Don't put yourself through this. You deserve better than this. Drop him!
God you're nosy. And nosy with a man that's not even worth it. Move on with your life.
...what everyone else said.
I don't want to be harsh or bitchy so I'm not saying anything else about your situation aside from move on and forget about him.
Yeah, it'll be hard. But it's possible if you cut off all ties.
Out of sight out of mind.
Why do you even want to be friends with a jerk like him?
That is unfortunate, but, it was also none of your business. While I don't agree with the above comments of "he's a jerk and not worth your time" (as you were the one doing the stalking/poking your nose in his business), I will say that he's a dead end non-opportunity.
It is generally considered kosher to not give relationship advice or your personal opinion unless you are either a) the best of friends or b) asked. Even when you're asked, unless you're best friends, don't say what you think. It's not what people want to hear, and the end result to this scenario will end up being repeated.
Pick up and keep going.
hah sounds like someone I kinda know
This guy is just playing. Â Sweet talking to get what he wants, but he got caught in his web of lies and he's irritated that you found out and he has to cut his losses before more of the truth spills out.
How wonderfully stalkerish the internet is!
You dont need a guy like that in your life.
cut the cord =) you know you can do/deserve better
@MOJOJONO_X2@xanga - I couldn't agree more.
a scab will only get worse if you pick at it.
Wow, you're obsessive...I think you should mine your own business, plus he was nice enough not to go the whole way with you because he didn't like you. Let him be...
there's no going back now...just let it go and move on. it's the best thing to do in my opinion.
31 and 18??? that's practically illegal
Best thing: Distance.
how old are you?
are you also 18-ish? this 31 year old doctor... creeps me out...