Tuesday, 23 December 2008
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I Have A Crush on My Professor
This is a guest blog submitted by Rina.One of my professors really, really reminds me of Mr. Big from Sex and the City . He usually comes to lecture in dress pants and a collared shirt. And he has this really cool leather jacket. I mean, he just looks good, period. Sophisticated, confident, and almost intimidating. The first time I walked into that lecture and listened to him talk, I was in awe.
Let me digress a little...when I watched Sex and the City, I always knew Big was the one for Carrie. Yes, I rooted for Aidan during his relationship with Carrie, but that was only because he was such a nice guy. But he wasn't Big. As Carrie fell in love with Mr. Big, so did I in a way. I fell in love with his sophisticated look and his confidence. He was charming and sexy and, in the beginning, a little mysterious. He was, as his name implied, someone big - someone who catches your attention but is probably too good to be true.
Anyway. Back to my professor.
I am a college junior. My professor is probably in his late 40s, I would guess. The age gap is, well, sort of huge. I have had crushes on older guys, but never one on an older man like him. I have friends who have crushed on their "hot" professors - but I wouldn't call him hot. After thinking about it for a while, I have decided that I simply admire some of his qualities:1. Confidence: This is something I have always admired in anyone. Being sure of yourself, having faith in yourself - I guess it's something I lack and thus, I always admire someone who can be so sure of themselves.
2. Maturity (Sophistication): I may be 20, but most of the guys my age are still super immature. They curse, they play stupid pranks, they call girls "hot" and "fiiiiine" and talk about who they would like to bang. See, my professor obviously doesn't do these things - or at least not in front of students, anyway. He dresses well, he talks well. He is...mature. Maturity means a lot to me.
3. Intelligence: I've always wanted my dream guy to be someone smart. Not scary smart as in he knows every random little things that a normal person wouldn't know, but smart as in he can carry on an intelligent conversation for more than five minutes.
4. Passion: When my professor lectures in class, I can tell how enthusiastic he is about what he's lecturing. He's not just reading out a textbook about protein purification; he actually cares about it. He is genuinely interested in these things. I want to be passionate about something as much as he is about his field/work.
Have you ever felt this way about your teacher(s)? Do you think it's really because of what they represent, rather than their physical looks? Do we simply see the traits in them that we would like to see in our future significant others?
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There yet has to be a teacher that I've had a crush on. I just can't make that leap from teacher to someone who would be a potential mate. I've had a crush on a T.A. on the other hand. He was cute, shy, and foreign.
I had a crush on a college professor once. Except for he was a nerdy 27 year-old math prodigy who got his PhD way too early and made the rest of us look bad. He was this hot nerd and I had the biggest crush on him because he was so cute and funny and brilliant. Also, he was the nicest guy, like someone you wouldnt mind hanging out with. I find math nerds kind of sexy. Professors can be kinda hot sometimes.
I always liked Big for Carrie. I just didnt want her to marry him because it would ruin the relationship and their marriage was way too much of a happy ending. Â
It isn't completely unusual that you find him attractive, I've actually heard several stories of students and teachers (at the college level, and even one at the senior in high school level) Who have fallen in love with teachers and gone to get married.
Most colleges actually do allow for relationships between teacher and student if you feel it's heading in that direction. There are extra steps to the whole thing, but it's possible.
I, personally, have never felt attracted to any of my professors. I've never felt attracted to anyone significantly older (or younger) than me, for that matter. Though I do agree older people tend to have qualities you might want in a significant other now. I find it really hard to relate to people my own age, but no problem with people older than me (and it's always sort of been that way.) If you don't think you're attracted to your actual professor, but instead to some of his personal qualities, then I would just wait a few years for the people your own age to grow up a little. Of course, it's always possible that you could find someone your own age with those qualities, and that would really be the best of both worlds.
(blah, this was rambling and not at all concise. Sorry, I'm on a lot of dayquill.)
I like the qualities you look for in men because it's what I look for in them too. We have a lot to relate on. Especially the maturity part.... I really detest immature men who think talking about 'banging' girls and not being a virgin [basically... sharing his sex life stories to the class] is cool. Swearing out just to seem cool isn't cool either, so I understand why you might like your professor.
I'm still in high school, and I've yet to find any teachers attractive. My friends, though, are a different story.
i know teacher-student love stories and most of them end up with happy marriage. I haven't had a crush on any of my educators. When I started teaching though, I've fallen in love with one of my students. it's a big no no for teachers to have romantic relationship with students so yeah, it's so sad he happened to be my student
those are good qualities to look for. and yeah, i've had a TON of teacher crushes. they're all so nice :)
I know what you mean. I had a crush on my high school AP English teacher for the exact same reasons as you. He wasn't even extremely good-looking (to everyone else but me anyway) but, I couldn't help but notice his maturity, passion, and intelligence. It was a refreshing change from the usual childish boys you encounter every day at school.
Like I said, I'm only in high school and he's in his mid 30s (not to mention a former teacher of mine) so nothing could ever develop out of it.
Hmm ... I've never had a crush on a teacher, but I definitely see what you mean. I seem to always fall for an older guy.
I've always found that the men with the qualities listed above end up being older.
Yeah, I've had a crush on my teacher before. One, though, was old enough to be my grandfather! -_-
And in those cases, I do think some attractions are because of a person's characteristics, or what that person may represent, than their appearance itself.
I had a crush on one of my teachers. It was the typical "he's so hot and has fresh ideas and understands the students and really cares". It faded away though, (especially since he was a hard teacher)
I had a crush on my high school journalism teacher.... he was/is probably still hot, but I'm pretty sure he's married (or at least that's the assumption I got back then). I'm shy (was shier then) and of course didn't talk to him. Nothing ever happened. It was just a meaningless high school crush.
This is pretty common. You're idolizing him because you view yourself as the emotional and intellectual superior of your peers.
Just find a guy your own age whose intelligence will school you any day.
Haha! He seems like a very attractive man!
I had a minor crush on this one guy who was in his late forties when I was thirteen...haha. He was cute, had a great sense of humor, damned intelligent and was pretty well off.
I saw his face like everywhere. Haha.
But that was wayyyy back two summers ago.
I've totally been there. In my case though, I was 17 and my teacher was 27. I've thought about him every day for 2 years. It can be rough. Older guys have everything younger guys (generally) don't have: maturity, sophistication, confidence, passion and financial stability. I think you should go up and have a conversation with him one day and see where it goes. It's an uncommon age difference but it's been done many times before! Good luck. :)
yeah i have ....but neva really acted on it..i think
but its only bcoz i find smart people vv attractive...=)
some friends and i had the same english professor once, and we all thought he was the most handsome guy...but he was married [sigh].....he had a son our age though, and we tried to add him on facebook, to no avail hahaha
Eh, I haven't liked any of teachers.
But one of my friends have liked every single teacher in middle school. It was pretty 'awkward' for my friends and I because we couldn't see what she saw in them.
He seems like a typical guy I would want to date. :P Except for the age. ._.
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My bad.
This relates to me. I had a HUGE crush on a male teacher in my school , and still do (although he doesn't teach me - but has been my tennis coach for 2 years). Im 16 and his about in his mid 30's. All of my friends think he is a turn-off, but to me, his just adorableee. He kind of reminds me of Darren Hayes. He's intelligent, and does have a passion of teaching - from what i can see. My friends has had him for class before, and they say he is so boring, but i would die to just sit there and listen to him speak all day
I have felt this way about a professor and even my boss! Their swagger and presentation is key! I think it's both representation and looks. Everything you talked about is why I've had a crush on these men... maturity, sophistication, presentation. I think they are traits I'd like to see in a mate.
I have not had a crush on any teachers or professors. However, my highschool english teacher (had him three years, cause he kept changing the classes he wanted to teach) I admired a lot. I want to be an english teacher, and I've used him as a model for the kind of teacher I want to be.
So, it's normal to trust and admire teachers I believe. They help you form ideas of the characteristics you like and admire -- and the ones you don't.
Oh yeah!! My philosophy teacher(in highschool) was waaay hot in my eyes. And I think my bf KNEW but I never told anyone. He just said evil things like ''joking'' about my philosophy teacher! Awww, but then he got married :( Good thing I had a bf! :D I loved that he was smart and he was funny too! And the way he sipped his coffee and smoked his cigarette and had that little look, before he spoke about an idea... *sigh*
One of my teachers has all of those qualities, and I don't have a "crush" crush on him, but I do have what one of my friends calls a "heterosexual man-crush" (a term I think she made up for that exact teacher) which, as the name implies, is like a man-crush but it's when a female has it for a guy.
I have a mental block about being attracted to any man or woman who has authority over me.
If my SO or love interest has any sort of power over me be it administrative or otherwise, it just won't work...
I had a hot Spanish professor once, but he's kind of a hippie (and a republican) and I'm kinda over the whole "save the earth Al Gore thing".
I'm all for going green but some people take it too far... damn.