Monday, 22 December 2008
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Dumping Someone Right Before The Holidays
This is a guest blog submitted by ElayneA.So I have this friend; let's call him Joe. And he has this girlfriend; we'll call her Ashley.
Joe and Ashley have been going out for four months, but lately, Joe has been telling me about how he doesn't really like Ashley that much. This morning, I asked him if he really liked Ashley at all, and he said, "Not really." I responded with, "Then why the hell do you go out with her?" That's not a very healthy relationship.
When we got on the bus in the afternoon, Joe said to me, "I'm single now."
"What? Did you finally break up with Ashley?"
"No, she broke up with me." I had to badger him to tell me what actually happened..."I pissed her off."
"How? How did you piss her off?"
"I was being annoying. I was like, well, just being real annoying and stuff."Then I noticed Joe was eating candy out of a little box.
"Where the hell did you get that candy?"
"It was Ashley's Christmas present."
"What?! Did you just make her break up with you so that you could eat her candy?!""Um...yeah."
Is this right? I don't think so, at all. Poor Ashley, and right before Christmas, too!
Is it reasonable to dump a person right before the holidays? If it is, what's the best way to go about it?
Also, if you buy a present for someone you're about to dump, are you allowed to consume the present yourself?
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- From: ElayneA@xanga
- About Me: I'm a Nerdfighter; I classify myself as a nerd to due the fact that if I start watching certain things I get hopelessly addicted. I'm hopelessly addicted to Avatar: The Last Airbender (of which I wrote my NaNoWriMo novel this year. Won!) and Degrassi: The Next Generation. I'm also hopelessly addicted to Youtube, to which I give most of my extra time. And I don't mean I spend most of my time watching videos about dancing cats, grumpy unicorns, and little boys with common names and very high voices who are not even funny. *cough* I mean that I watch tasteful *aha* vloggers. I get fantastic grades in school even though I don't really try that hard at all. I am blessed with fantastic multitasking and time managing skills that are actually getting me through middle school by allowing me to have a social life while also getting my work done correctly. I am a writer (mentioned above) which is also the same thing as an author, except writer sounds better. I completed National Novel Writing
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Comments (79)
...lmao. Wow.
With all due respect, your friend sounds like a dumbass.
I think iIt's reasonable to break up with someone before the holidays. it'll suck, but breaking up sucks no matter what. It should be done tactfully and as a blunt as possible - like ripping a band-aid off.
But I guess your friend's way works too lol
A friend of mine was recently dumped and I feel for her.
I dumped my ex around this time last year so....
I would keep the gift. =]
This sounds like something from the sitcom... its a bit funny, but though that was very immature of him.
lol well technically she did break up with him... and something tells me he might find that the candy tastes better knowing he has less worries. I always find that someone elses chocolate tastes much better than my own
I do feel bad for the girl, but then again, it gives her a reason to start a new this comming new year. Well, someone new to kiss new years night =)
better to break it off now than to drag it out. it'll be much worse knowing someone knew what was coming and have the other person be clueless.
firsthand experience right here
_-_,
He's a boy. Boys are typically cowards. They HATE doing the breaking up. They hate tears. They're sensitive to yelling. Your friend is just a typical boy.
And yes, he can consume the gift even though he should feel like an ass for forcing her to do HIS dirty work. Sheesh!
@SunshineMI@xanga - lmao so true about the guys. my boyfriend and i were on the brink of a breakup, and i asked him "if you don't like the crap i'm giving you, why aren't you breaking up with me?" and he said "i don't want to feel like an asshole...just kidding"
but behind every "just kidding" is some tiny truth.
D:
All I have to say to this entire post is...
....... Wow.
an ex of mine broke with me the week before Christmas and we ended up getting back together by Christmas, but I didn't get my gifts. At the time he claimed he returned them in anger. Later though I found out that he gave them to another girl. That def hurt. All in all I think if it is a new relationship then it is reasonable to break up during the holidays. If its a long relationship then I don't know. You don't wake up one day and decide you don't want to be with someone anymore it takes time. So I think if the person hold off till the holidays they can hold off a little longer till after the holidays.
lmao.
I guess his annoyance was really good.. so good that Ashley broke off with him. But no matter what the reason was, if he ain't feeling it, it's best to end it than mislead the other person.
But to answer your questions:
Is it reasonable to dump a person right before the holidays? If it is, what's the best way to go about it?
Yes, if there is a reasonable reason why and not just because you don't want to buy/give her a gift for the holidays. The best way to go about it? Just be honest to yourself and her.
Also, if you buy a present for someone you're about to dump, are you allowed to consume the present yourself?
My question is, WHY BUY A PRESENT FOR SOMEONE YOU'RE ABOUT TO DUMP IN THE FIRST PLACE???? But if you're about to dump someone, I don't think they would want that gift, anyways. So yes, take it back and get a refund.
Dumping someone right before the holidays is a big no-no. Way to break their heart at a time when they're supposed to be enjoying the festive spirit of the holidays. Either you keep the present for yourself or return it. Don't give them a present and just tell them that you two are over.
LMFAO
so horrible, but so funny. he better hope that the girl doesn't read this otherwise he's going to get his ass kicked!
OUCH... She would remember that for the rest of her life
Breaking up before Christmas - thats sad
& the guys a jerk, break up just so he can get some candies wow...
u shouldn't STAY with someone just cuz a holiday is coming up. and if they broke up, they have every right to the present (the person who bought it).... it's kinda like a broken engagement, the girl should give back the ring.
i think there's never a right moment to dump someone ~ of course the one who is dumped will be emotional during the holidays ~ but i think it's almost the same as being dumped during normal days ~
Sounds like she is better off without an immature little boy hanging around.
Did you construct the story simply to get us to ask the question, because I agree with @Secret_Qt@xanga about it sounding more like a sitcom.
@CrazyMai07@xanga - Haha I agree.
i got dumped 3 days before <3 day.
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Roflmfao. Wow . . . Boys.
It sucks to break up before the holidays, but I don't think it's a huge deal.
haha how old are you guys? must be really young...
i won't even comment on the the whole joe/ashley thing because it's just too silly, but in general, sometimes, the holidays make people stay together just because no one likes to be lonely during the holidays. i'm sure there are plenty of break ups after the new year...
Well, lots can happen during the holidays right? Promises can be made (and eventually broken; ex: Last Christmas). Gifts can be exchanged (and eventually lost). And kisses can be made (and eventually forgotten). So in a way, it IS better to break up before the holidays so that you don't have that extra memory to wonder why your SO suddenly broke up with you afterwards when everything seemed to be going so well.
But then again, I told my best friend to break up wtih this one kid that she was dating...right before spring break. I talked to him later and he said his whole spring break (despite going on another one of his amazing vacations) sucked balls.
It depends on the person and perspective, I suppose.
@SunshineMI@xanga - No one's going to point out your blatant sexism? Really? I don't want to comment on this post because it's basically ridiculous, but I want to say that grouping all guys as cowards would be the same as if I were to say that all women are horrible drivers or that all women can't do math. Is that fair? Try to keep from generalizing when commenting. It's reflective upon both your maturity level and the extent to which xanga is populated with little children who can't provide anything better to respond with than insults.
Wow...jerk much?
As far as breaking up with someone right before the holidays, it really depends. It will suck big time if it happens during the holidays but if you're really not happy and unsatisfied in the relationship, there's no point in dragging it on. I don't think there's ever a right time to break up with someone. If you feel you must, then do it. But don't be a coward and let the other person do it for you. That's just really immature.
@JW - I think "everyone else" picked up on my sarcasm except you. My humble apologies for offending your sense of equality. I will point out that I said "typically" not "all". There are always exceptions to the rule but the comment is based on MY experiences with men. The generalization wasn't meant to offend. It was based off the dumb boy's inability to take action and actually break up with the girl. The commenter below me found the humor in my remark.
Y'know, I could just respond to your comment with a simple statement: "Me thinks you doth protest too much." But that would be egging you on and I certainly wouldn't want to have a debate about maturity with a complete stranger.