I'm all for interracial dating, but I have to agree. If you're not willing to dating people of YOUR own race that's like saying YOU are not good enough. It makes absolutely no sense.

I myself am a mix of black, white, and various native american crap. But I don't ever find black guys attractive, in fact I'm afraid of them. It's not because I'm racist. It's because my real dad was a pretty scary guy, and also because I can't STAND people who talk ghetto. It annoys me so much, becuase I was raised by white parents and I love proper grammar.  So basically what I'm saying is that theres more than one reason for not dating of your race

I don't understand why people want to be so exclusive (unless it's a cultural thing, and even then...), or why they would want to exclude their own race. To me it just looks like you're excluding certain groups of people based on a negative generalization. I understand that you can't help what you're attracted to, but it bothers me when people put an explicit label (such as "I only date such race") to that. There are plenty of people who have preferences for one thing, lets say brunettes, and their SO happens to be blond. Skin/hair color is such a trivial thing to take into account when dating.

I just posted this on my blog! (winnovative.blogspot.com)!  I think people should be open-minded when it comes to interracial dating.  I just don't understand though when someone says they don't want to date their own kind.  I think maybe it depends on who you're surrounded with growing up - It affects your personal choices in life. 

Well technically YOU were not kidnapped and stripped of your culture; not as far as I know, anyway. Your culture is that in which you grew up, is it not?

I have ancestry in Italy, Ireland, France, Germany, etc. and children in our family don't drink alcohol on New Years or hit each other with sticks on Easter (though it could be fun... :D). We just tend to make up our own traditions, or pick up stuff from where we live, not our ancestry.

ANYWAY. That's kind of unrelated, but I'm not controversial enough anymore and thought I'd have a stab at it. Ummm.... but I have absolutely no problem with interracial dating. I neither condemn nor encourage it, because either of the two would define each race as separate, and that's no good. So if it happens, then cool, and if not, then cool.

As for refusing to date within one's race, why the heck would anyone do that? I mean, unless they happen to dislike everyone of their own race whom they've met, or just haven't been attracted to them, but.... to purposely avoid it?

My best friend's boyfriend is Asian, and isn't allowed to date blacks or Catholics. Which I think is pretty random, but it makes for interesting conversation.... O.o

I'm all for interracial dating, I've done it several times. People not dating people of their own race doesn't really bother me. People have their little hangups and that is their right. If someone told me they didn't date their own race, I'd ask why and keep on stepping. 

I've never been in a relationship that wasn't interracial. In fact, when I introduced my fiance to a few of my friends, later they said "you didn't tell us he was white." Was I supposed to? Does it really matter? I'd honestly forgotten. I didn't think it mattered if he was white or not, just if I love him and he loves me. It's that simple.

 i dun care if ppl r white black or grey!!!

all u need is love..=)

plus i am a result of interracial dating..xP

i'm all for interracial dating! i've actually never dated a boy of my own race, though that's not because i don't like white guys, just never did...

i'm not sure i agree with you... i think it depends on the situation. one of my best guy friends is white, and he has never liked a white girl. not to say that he's racist, or he never will, but he's been surrounded by a lot of diversity while growing up (ie: asian and hispanic girls) and that's become his preference. i think it's a different matter when a guy starts saying he'll NEVER date a certain race of girl, though.

i don't know if i made my point correctly, but my idea is that i think it's not something you can help if you've never liked someone of your own race, but to say that you never will, and therefore limiting yourself because of that is not okay with me.

but once again, i reinforce the idea that while you shouldn't be blatant about it, sometimes it really is just a matter of preference... like some people prefer short hair, long hair. and you can't really help that.

@El_Prego_Nikki@xanga -  I agree - it's almost self-hating in a way to say "well I'll date so and so but i refuse to date someone in my race". I understand though if you just don't click with people in your area who are in your same race or if there's a shortage (my problem because I'm in a small college with 4% black enrollment). But clear exclusion? Kinda sad.

@Dobserver@xanga -  OP refers to the author of this entry.

I have to get on the boat with the OP.  I am all for interracial dating.  I'm black and I've had relationships and flings with men of different backgrounds and personality types. I will say that I find that I am attracted to black guys on a more regular basis, but I'm equal opportunity.  It really bothers me when a person of ANY race says that he or she will not date/aren't attracted to people of their own race.  I think it says a lot about how people feel about their own culture. 

My fiance is black and filipino.  When I met him he told me that he didn't like black or asian girls.  He says he thought that black girls were too intimidating and scary (ie loud and confrontational) and that many asian girls were too passive.  He preferred Hispanic girls.  He was sort of afraid of me at first but now we're getting married and I changed his whole outlook (which is funny because I actually am loud and somewhat confrontational).  He finds black girls very attractive now (well, me specifically.  He better anyway).  He says that he sees how limited his scope was before and that it wasn't right to judge or exclude a whole race like that, especially ones that share part of his culture.

 @merquryd@xanga - Thank you for saying something. That was by far the most ignorant comment I've ever read. I've found more white guys who are "ghetto" (actually trying to be ghetto is more like it) than black guys. One of the most well spoken, respectful, genuine men I know is black.

@AxConfusionxLovexStory@xanga - Your comment is ridiculous, bottom line. Stop discriminating against black men as a whole just because there are a handful who are "ghetto". You might as well discriminate against all men for a few being what you deem "ghetto".

@Karamelqt@xanga - oh, and i never said they all talk ghetto.