I have to agree with this. Except, I was extremely interested in my asian potential boyfriend at the time, so I kind of liked how frustrating it was that I had no idea if he liked me or not, considering we didn't kiss until like two months into it. And I was the one that had to make the first move. And now that we've been together for a year, he still never calls me :/. I still have to sort of take initiative for everything, and I can understand why most asian girls would go for white guys. Although, I'm a white girl that went for an asian guy. 

LOL. That's so true . . . Happened with me with my last ex. >.>;

Aw, I like asian guys - I actually probably prefer them over most white guys for a number of reasons. But yes, this is totally true. I take initiative a lot, so I often call guys, ask guys out, tell them straight up that I'm interested - and they STILL can't muster the courage to reciprocate. But when I actually spend time with them, they clearly enjoy it; and they will tell me they're into me, when asked; so it's not that they're disinterested, it's just that they're shy, even when I've laid all my cards on the table.

And I hate when I meet an interesting guy and it takes him a month to call me or ask me out. At that point, I've started to move on. It's not impossible to win me over, but you are gonna have to try a lot harder to impress me.

Anyways, this post is so true - I thought I was the only person experiencing these issues, but it looks like it's a widespread problem. Guys, girls are not that scary! Get over it and ask her out for a freakin drink already!

I can totally relate to this blog! I'm an Asian girl myself and growing up in an Asian country for ten years, I am naturally predisposed to like Asian guys. I don't think that all Asian men are like that but a lot of them sure are, at least in my experience. Most of the guys I've dated are Asian and I've only told one guy I was ever intested in that I liked him so obviously I've been asked out first by these Asian men. That one guy, however, lacked initiative and didn't follow up and all the rest that you said. It wasn't until I told him, "I like you" that he said, "I like you too" but he NEVER got the courage to ask me out! It was such a frustrating process with him.... I think it's totally okay if a girl wants to take the initiative but that is -NOT- okay for them to do all the work. I KNEW he liked me but seeing as that he didn't do anything about it led me to give up and go on to another ASIAN GUY who did take the initiative.

  This blog doesn't apply to all Asian guys but for those of you who it does apply to, PLEASE grow some balls and friggin' tell us you like us already! Especially if you like Asian girls, don't expect us to tell you because we are just as shy as you but we have that additional idea in our minds that guys are supposed to make the first move. I've rejected Asian guys who have had the guts to tell me they liked me but I've respected them for being able to do so. Rejection is a very scary thing but the more you can handle it, the better person you are for it. Good luck and happy sailing!

pride got in the way maybe?  most asian female friends i have who are dating non-asian guys explained to me (since i ask all the time) that they get the attention they want from non-asian guys that they don't get from asian guys.  but i truly don't think there's such pattern since it's all personal preference.

 "Seriously? Ew, no." 

you know, i get that all the time... and worse. so yes, worse things can happen than rejection. rejection + mockery + total public humiliation. hell, i've gotten that kind of reaction from girls i wasnt even interested in.

i agree. whats more,i think asian guys give mixed signals. so it's hard to tell if they like you or not.

@konni@xanga - SO TRUE. Asian guys are confusing as hell.

It's quite true. Most of the time, Asian guys are just shy, and they like to take things slow, and I don't mind it, cause I like to take things slow too.  In my past relationships with my ex asians [ahah] , I did find myself making more of the efforts, and it was hard for me, because I eventually grew tired of doing it.
So then I find myself interested in white guys, who actually have the balls to do things, but they couldn't quite understand why I couldn't do this, or allowed to do that. For the most part, Asians were deprived of doing things, not all, but most, and I was one of them.
There were pros & cons to both guys.
and what's funny about my past relationships is that,
my first boyfriend was asian, then white, then asian, then white, then asian, and then white.
I didn't notice that till now :p

It's true..most of the Asian guys can't tell their real feeling...I hate is so much!!  I hate guessing, you know...especially I am getting older...it's just wasting my time!

I don't think that only applies to Asian men but all men in general.  lol.

For example:

I was talking to this nice and sweet dutch man.  We clicked and liked one another.  Being the straight forward person that I am, I told him.  He, on the other hand, took a while to admit it (maybe because he was shy) but he did.  When he did, he just seem to disappear.  Maybe he's just not that into me anymore but I gotta agree.  If he really like me, he'll find a way to contact me.  I, on the other hand, isn't waiting around.

I've had that "Seriously? Ew! NO!" crap dumped on me, even from girls I didn't even attempt to ask out.  Then I get the silent treatment, as if I was from outer space or something. 

For those girls that say they are straight forward, no you're not.  You are only when you are bitching at someone.  The rest of the time, you're just the same as the other girls, very in-direct.  You girls give way too much mixed signals.  Hence the shyness from guys, we don't know what the hell you want from us.  So we slowly inch our way to asking you out. 

If a girl told me she liked me and I liked her, I would so tell her.  But if I'm not sure if that girl likes me or not (Mixed signals), I have no idea what to do.  Unfortunately, no girl has told me they like me first.  So I always have to do it the hard way.