Friday, 19 December 2008
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Does Being in Love Automatically Mean Great Sex?
Mr. Giraffe
Often, or at least on television, there is a lot of worry between couples about their first time being intimate, and that is reasonable. No one wants to disappoint their lover with an anti-climactic performance.But something I was wondering about is if you're in love with someone, like stars-in-your-eyes and apple-pies-everywhere in love, and you're waiting until you're legit serious in the relationship, does the love translate to good sex?
If that were true, and I think it is despite never being in the situation, the idea of being good in bed would be obsolete. To quote the Beatles, all you need is love.
What are your thoughts? Is love the main ingredient for good sex?
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i hope..=]
coz i'll only do it with someone i love....
Nothing automatically guarantees anything, but being in love implies the sort of communication and deep-seated feelings that are necessary for that sort of thing.
Also, it depends on your standards. I mean, what if you were in love with a cripple? Physically speaking that would be unlikely to be "great," if you subscribe to the theory (and you apparently do) that a great experience is the result of physical factors. But it can and does happen, so how would we know?
love and booze, baby.
jk about the booze. but being in love really does make a difference. you enjoy it more.
haha, well practice certainly helps.....
But in my opinion, good sex isn't even worth having without a more intimate emotional connection as well. People obviously dispute me on this one, but it is a personal preference.
Many people think orgasms are partially in the head or tied to emotions and how comfortable you are around a person. In that case, I'd say being in love can't hurt!
Nope
I definitely do believe that if you're in love with someone, you should be able to have great sex with it. The connection is more intimate, and therefore it feels better than if you had sex with someone who you weren't in love with.
Of course, having great skills can be an added bonus, but this is not coming from any personal experience because I have not had sex yet.
All theories, all theories.
Being in love and on autopilot can hel pyou to give great ones, but it doesn't MEAN great sex at all. It just means you two are togehter and in love, and all that maters is the energy together.
Love however is the secret ingredient for love that actually means something other than just get in, get on, get off, get out, you know?
No. Definitely not.
This one is easy... No, there is no correlation between the two, although it does help if you love the person you're having sex with.
being in love is an enhancement, but it doesnt mean without love sex won't be good.
love is just an enhancer in sex.
Nope.
i really think so. it makes it more meaningful.
Not always. There are people out there who can't have enjoy sex without being in love with the person, it's just something stuck at the back of their heads. For them, love is the main ingredient for sex, but for the rest, skill over rules it.
Being in love does not mean great sex (climaxing). It took my husband and I a good amount of time to figure out what makes both of us "tick" (after we started dating for awhile). But love does enhance "love making"....the emotional connection isn't in sex when you aren't in love.
So:
Love does not mean great sex, but love does mean better "love making" (emotional connection).
Imagine....how great sex would be if you only shared it with one person for life??? Sex is the most intimate thing you can share with someone, why waste that on someone that's not going to last? I have been with one person...my husband...and he has only been with me. It is absolutely amazing to have that knowledge and I wish more people could understand!! and we have great sex :)
Being in love does not mean great sex, although it helps. If you are in love with your partner then you are more willing to do things to please them and try to learn what those things are. Like most things great sex takes time so being in love does not automatically make it better
I think it just depends from person to person. Not everyone needs to be in love to have sex. Some people don't give a shit what people think, so they have sex because they like it! Some people need the "title" to have sex other wise they feel like sluts. Some people just love sex, and don't care who they have sex with.
Personally, I need to be in love or really close to a person to have sex with them! How awkward would it be if I wasn't close to someone? But, that just has to do with my insecurities.
So it all really just depends on the person. =)
might I add that when you're in love and comfortable, you aren't afraid to be advantageous. It's a great thing to share with someone you love.
Of course it doesn't,  it should gurantee the safety that you will respect the other person, cherish their body and their soul, and try your best to satisfy them. It doesn't mean that you will be able to give your partner mind blowing orgasms the very first time you have sex.  Being open minded, eager, and very attentitive to your partner gurantees great sex, i would also go as far to say that it  would demand a certain amount of  maturity, to be able to be so vulnerable as to say ,what is it you need me to do for you.
just had to answer this one before i went to bed.. haha~
love makes sex more meaningful, but not the other way around.. it brings sex to a whole new level, mind and body become one, yours and your significant others united as one.. also, love has nothing to do with making the sex any better; how you do something all depends on you and your significant other, your fitness, your endurance, your sensitivity, your mood, your love for your significant other, and probably a whole lot of thing.. plus, everyone has their own opinion on what is good sex is? we shouldn't worry about our pleasure, rather your significant other's pleasure.. if she's happy with what you've done for her, you sir, should be proud of yourself...
one thing i do dislike is when my partner fakes it.. oh yeah, and stop blaming the guys for it, because it's not entirely the male's fault.. what i learn over the years is that the true pilot is actually the female (the one who's receiving it).. you're probably thinking how is that possible, or this isn't true.. well, it's true.. just that most females never knew how to utilize it.. haha~ but after reading this comment, you should be able to take full advantage of it.. just like a game of hot and cold, you've got to direct your significant other to the right spot, and you do this by screamer out directions rather than moaning.. haha~ "deeper" "harder" there's probably a lot more than that and i'm pretty sure you can be creative with it.. and if it's the right spot, that should be the one and only time you moan or go ooooo~ lol =P have fun..
Not necessarily. My boyfriend and I love eachother very much, but in the 3 and a half years we've been together there have been great sex, okay sex, and sex where only one of us gets off (most of the time it's me haha). But overall, the sex is amazing (but I think that's because of a number of things rather than just love alone).
I will admit though, I have had sex one other time with someone I wasn't in love with...it wasn't horrible, but it wasn't great either and now that I have experienced it I would rather go for okay sex with someone I love, than great sex with someone I don't. Besides there are ways to improve things and think that's key: being adventurous lol.
Having fooled around a bit, I'd say being deeply emotionally tied to the person you're having sex with makes it better - much much better. But just loving the other person doesn't automatically translate to good sex either - my last boyfriend was terrible in bed.
No way. In my limited experience, anyway. I once had sex with someone I hate, even at the time, and it was the best I've ever had. Different kind of passion, y'know?
i think you're misinterpreting something. being in love can mean great sex, buuuuuut it all really depends on what type of love you're talking about. Christians are known (and there' been studies) to have a very great sex life. why? well, first, because they are in love; but the important thing is is that they never had premarital sex. they saved their virginities for each other. the ones that filled out surveys saying they had great sex live were the ones that also don't cheat and what not. now why is the sex so great? because they have nothing to compare it to. so whatever they get, they believe it to be great.