Friday, 19 December 2008
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How to Recognize, Deal with and Accept Your Man Period
This is a guest blog submitted by ill_run_Away_With_u_by_my_Sid3.
I don't know if you are all aware of this, but girls aren't the only ones that P
MS, and I don't mean this in the dictionary definition way. I mean this in the classic contextual way that most people refer to it.Yes, ours happen for, like, a week every month and you think we are the queens from hell at times. We bitch, we moan, we complain. We crave, we need...did I say we bitch? But you know it's coming, you know to expect it and you can learn how to react.
But my friend and I have decided that you, boys, have it too. We have entitled this phenomenon The Man Period. Now, The Man Period is not as scientific. It doesn't happen due to internal bleeding and upset hormones (that we can prove at this time, anyway). As the leading "research" may suggest, it also doesn't seem to have a cause linked to it at this time.
But it happens. So how does it happen? How do you know if you are having your Man Period? How do you deal with it? How should your friends deal with you?
First of all, let's work on the basics: Your cycle is not like a girl's cycle. Normally, girls have theirs once a month and it lasts about five days. But physiologically, The Man Period is more like that of a dog's period (and I don't mean that in any mean way). It happens once every several months, maybe even once a year. But unlike girls' weeklong problem, yours lasts for at least three weeks to a month.
The symptoms that we can find are normal of that of PMS.
- Men become very, very, VERY irritable.
- It doesn't matter if they are hanging out with boys or girls - they can't sit still, they are easily offendable and they explode onto others very, very, VERY frequently.
- They have random cravings; they want attention at some times and want to be thrown out the window at others.
- They want their "space"
- This may mean sitting in a car at a friend's house around a group of friends, but with the windows closed, listening to music.
- They may want to cuddle and then bitch at you for cuddling.
- They don't know what they want and they feel lost.
- They know that they are irritable, but they cannot tell you why. They just know that you'd better be nice to them or you are going to see a new side to those adorable eyes of theirs.
Guys, how to deal with it is a bit trickier:
- Be sure to warn people. Let them know that you are irritable so that both you and they don't step over that line and piss each other off.
- However, it is neither necessary nor recommended that you inform them you are experiencing your Time of The Several Months Or So.
- Eat chocolate.
- It makes people happy; try being happy.
- There is a reason girls flock to it.
- Learn from us.
The guy's friends and family have a lot more to deal with than the guy on his Man Period. A few guidelines:
- Let him sit in the car if he pleases.
- Do not make fun of him
- (around him, anyway)
- Do not push his buttons.
- (I don't know about your group of friends, but my friends love to poke fun at one another. Do.not.do.that.)
- Be understanding, or at least ignore his offset moments.
- Buy him chocolate if it makes him shut up and feel better.
- Or better yet, buy yourself chocolate and offer him some.
- (That way you can be happy too).
- Handle him like you would handle a girl a bit too cranky for your liking.
There are other notable theories that back up the "Man Period" claim. Girls that live or flock together typically synch up with one another and all of their cycles tend to overlap (so some weeks, it really just might be a better idea to stay away from the sorority houses). Like girls, boys that have a pretty regular group of guy friends may synch up, too, leading guys to have their Man Periods around the same time as well. While this is not always the case (as it is not always the case with girls), if one guy gets it one week, have your chocolate ready, because the rest will probably follow soon.
I think The Man Period needs a further look and it needs to be researched on a higher scale; I'm only a 19-year-old that hangs out with a lot more guys than girls and I'm just noticing that all my guy friends seem to act up like this. We can probably conclude that this theory needs a lot more work, time and dedicated research from both direct and indirect sufferers of the anomaly.
But the big picture remains: Boys get just as cranky as girls but for no apparent reason, going into "periods" of time that cannot be justified with a reason except that guys can PMS, too.
Do you notice this with your friends? Have you found other ways to handle The Man Period?
- Men become very, very, VERY irritable.
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what the hell. i certainly don't get man periods. having a "period" means that there's a biological reason for acting that way.
if anything, man periods = bipolar disorder.
it's called IMS and it is scientific. look it ups
omg i totally should try the chocolate thing. although.... i dont know if i want to approach my pms-ing male friends when they are pms-ing. some get irritable. some make ME irritable. some just are plain rude.
That's hilarious. And mostly true. Good job on the social research XD
Hhahaa this is a funny post. Mostly true too!
IF anything I think my man period would come from overbearing outside circumstances that would affect me from within such as parents, school, job, stress, girlfriend etc.
Or it could just be that you the writer are a winner and we are the losers.
Probably a unhealthy mix of both.
LOL my boyfriend's a royal terror when he gets his man period! really high-quality food/desserts does help calm him down then though, thankfully
he even calls it his man period too! :3
Sometimes I have this male PMS when there's something I needed to solve but I couldn't solve it on time because I'm out with friends so part of me will be like, "hey I shouldn't go out when there's something for me to do." and there's part of me that goes, "If he didn't ask me out, I would have solved this by now!"
So from one problem it evolves to 3 - the problem i need to solve, the fact that I chose to hang out and the fact that I need to blame my friend for asking me out. I will become very disturbed and angry without any particular reason. And this kind of frustration doesn't have a real source so it becomes another frustration.
LOL I think I'd rather stick to what cheeriosforlunch just said, this is a case of bipolar. LOL!
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How insensitive of them!
hahahaha! i dated a guy for 3 months... first month he was great. second month was so so. third month HAD to have been his man period... he was a NIGHTMARE.. so i dumped him =) woops!
I have told my husband many time that guys get PMS just "like" we do and he denies it. I have been with him for 5 years and he doesn't get "it" very often, but i don't deal with it. Yeah i know it's kinda unfair that he has to deal with me once a month (by buying my cravings and dealing with my hormonal problems), but i can't help that (esp since the shot screwed everything up in that department) and he has come to how to "cope" with it.
While when he gets it...there is no reason for it and he even says that..."nothings wrong...i donno why im being mean/bitchy/or whatever". So i pull out my big guns and knock him right back into reality..."I don't deserve to be treated that way just because your having a bad day so keep it to yourself when i ask you a simple ?, or when we are running erruns . I don't appriciate it and i will not deal with it. Ill leave you alone to play with your games all day if you want, just be civil with me or i can make your day even worse"....
Then that usually follows by "I'm sorry hun...you are right you don't deserve it" and we go on our marry little way.
Now when we get home i do try to make him "better" by making what he wants for dinner and making him a drink or something, but I refuse to walk on egg shells. So all in all, I do try to make his day a little "brighter" but not by letting him get away with everything (yelling at me for no reason) and making my day miserable. Esp since he learned a long time ago that if you make me miserable, I can make you 10x more miserable without breaking a sweat (which i have only had to do about 2 times). :) hehe
Blessed Be
I've officially lost any shred of faith in this website...
Stop hanging out with limp wrist fuckers...Maybe that way you won't have to deal with boys with "periods"...
The myth of the "man-period" does not exist...
You may think that your guy friends have some inexplicable man period, but there is always a logical reason to why he's acting like an asshole, from being socially inept, depressed, having a hard time figuring something out, can't explain something that's going on in his life or pissed as shit and not having an outlet...If he can't explain it, he probably hasn't figured out how to express it or does not carry the verbal articulation skills...
But in my experience, more often than not, it's just that the women he's around aren't listening...He's probably communicating himself, but in ways that women do not understand...And on top of that to be poked and prodded? It can get frustrating, but I've never had this problem because I have no problems with finding alternate methods of communication...
It probably helps to have a positive outlook on life...I understand that I have the rolde of being the old and jaded asshole on this site, but life could be so much worse...
Your whole sync theory is garbage too...A guy is gonna have and keep friends that are in his same mindset, do the same things, in the same social circles, share a lot of perspectives...A moody asshole will typically keep the same kind of guys around...
Out...
This has been proven already, we get testorne imbalances
@cheeriosforlunch@xanga - As my first sentence stated I mean this in a cultural context. I do not mean it in a dictionary matter.
@sleeunit@xanga - IMS is a lot more serious than the Man Period. IMS is a psychological problem and can lead to depression and suicide. The Man Period is just a common occurrence.
@irishgrrl690@xanga, @Shavanna@xanga, @miss_prettyinpink@xanga, thanks for reading it and I am glad you liked it and that it was entertaining at the very least.
@psykoaznballa@xanga - I thought that stress might have a major part when it comes to The Man Period. As one of my guy friends suggests, he thinks it is when he is just down in the pits about himself. (So it might have a self-esteem tie in as well).
@abcdefghijklouise@xanga - That might have been IMS which as i said is a lot more severe. And i say that because it was a gradual drop into it. However, it very well might have been his Man Period and his lasts EVEN LONGER! (oh god. Maybe it wasn't such a bad idea).
@heartbrokenone15@xanga - I think that that is a wonderful idea with how to cope with it! You help, but you do not let it overtake your emotions as well!
@whatyourBFreallythinks@xanga - I am sorry if my article offended you in any way. And when I say that guys get their Man Period, i do not mean it as if it was an insult. I don't truly believe that emotions (And the likeness of them) have anything to do with the friends you make. So for all of the men to have the same offset, is kind of interesting. And when it comes to girls not listening, like I said in my article. The group I hang out with is male majority. And even the other guys can pick up on this mood swing.
Haha... it's true. Guys are just as emotional as girls, but only during their little man periods do a lot of them actually show it. I would chalk it up to more of an accumulation of stress from bottling things up, like the bitchiness of PMS, with no particular reason but some possibly hard-to-pinpoint triggers. (Personally, I don't get bitchy when I'm on my period unless someone sets me off, so...)
But guys do have mood swings. And it's just as annoying as girls having mood swings.
men, I have to say, She is giving you an excuse to act this way. =P Instead of chocolate, Shiner anyone?
@ill_run_away_with_u_by_my_sid3@xanga - well thank you :)
@wolvenchic@xanga - hahaha good idea. lol. I didn't even think of that.
How am I not supposed to be offended by an article telling me to deal with something that does not exist or make any fucking sense...How to deal with MY man period? Sorry...That's like me writing an article on how you shouldn't complain about cooking my dinner or doing my laundry...
Just because you have shitty taste in male friends doesn't mean that all guys on the face of the planet are plagued by a "man-period"...It's your guy friends that you hang out with that piss me off the most...Real guys don't act like spoon fed babies because their panties got all bunched up...More and more guys are falling to this and it is unacceptable...
In the mean time, it's girls like you that constantly demasculate men around them and wonder why there aren't any real men left...
Fuck that and fuck you...
@whatyourBFreallythinks@xanga - I find it quite interesting that you can say that A Man Period "Demasculates" men. Why? Because they have feelings and not every man needs to be a hard ass ALL the time. God forbid that at some point throughout the year a guy actually feels something. God forbid that they actually face real problems and that it might just bug them to the point where they act a little different. Or maybe its because its feminine? And somehow, to the likes of you, femininity is a problem? Why does every man have to always be in control of their emotions? And what do you really think of the actual and proven Irritable Man Syndrome (IMS)?
Before you are ready to write off someone for how they feel, maybe you should figure out how you feel.
OR... maybe the problem is your Man Period.
very good post
I get frustrated, angry, and moody on a number of different occasions, but they always have some direct cause and I can directly trace it back to something that's bothering me. If my girlfriend asks me why I'm pissed off and sulking, I can usually just come right out and say, "Oh well, my hockey team lost today," or "Oh I failed a final," or "Oh some jerk cut me off on the road and flipped me the bird." Stuff like that. Whereas with my girl friends who PMS, most of them don't really know why they're so upset and emotional. I agree with you that all men can get emotional and moody, but unless they've got a verified medical condition (chemical imbalance, depression), it can usually be traced to a root cause which IMO makes it different from PMS.
I would guess that men who appear to be moody and emotional for no specific reason either have one of the aforementioned conditions or they're unable/unwilling to communicate exactly what the problem is.
that's why they have to blow a load. serious.