Tuesday, 16 December 2008

• Faith and the Single (?) Girl

  This is a guest blog submitted by shandiiee.
  
  It is a quiet night in the city, made all the more quiet by the coat of snow that currently covers the streets. There's just something about that first snow. I've spent the majority of today gazing out my window to the city streets below, watching people exploring this wintery scene. This is the type of day where I've felt it acceptable to have Christmas music quietly playing in the background while I've busied myself with chores and weekend tasks.

  So here's a little background on me. Three and a half months ago, my boyfriend (I'll call him "Sgt." after his profession) of nearly four years broke my heart and left me quite suddenly. Fast forward two months from said breakup, he is proposing to the woman that he clearly left me for. There are some developments you wish you had a little more time to process. There are also certain turning points in one's life when true love can rapidly turn to true loathing.

  For a long time, Sgt. was my world. I was ignorant to the reality of the man I was in love with. Sgt. came with a lot of baggage and fed me a lot of lines that those of his kind will say. He never wanted to marry again. I think we're all pretty clear presently with the reality of that story. Sgt. just didn't want to marry me. Feel that little sting? Yep, me too.

  So where does that leave this single girl alone in the city at Christmas? Determined. Not for revenge, not to rebound, but determined to make my life so blissfully happy that this whole episode will one day fade to a distant memory. To do this, I have given myself four prime objectives. They are as follows:

  1. Reconnect with family and friends. You know, all those people that you put on the back burner while you're blissfully in love? Turns out that they're the ones you can truly depend on, and in my case, they deserve a bit more of my precious time.

  2. Reconnect with my faith. Let's just say that Sgt. wasn't very supportive of my pursuit for a closer relationship with God. I know what you're thinking...red flag! But while I'm feeling confident in my renewed track, I'm pretty sure he's taken quite a few more steps backwards with the big guy upstairs.

  3. Focus on furthering my education. What better to replace my thoughts of the Sgt. with than useful knowledge that may further me in life? Out with the old, in with the new, and may I say, more likeable.

  4. Find someone better. Now I know, don't rush from one relationship to the next! However, I'm quite certain that while energy leeches such as Sgt. preoccupy many of us, there must be someone much more promising out there. Case in point, the new boy. We will call him GI Joe, after his profession. We have recently meandered down this road of courtship, only to run smack dab into the inevitable obstacle. GI Joe is being dep  loyed overseas again. With only a few months under our belt, we are left with the decision of whether to revert to "just friends", or take this thing international. The answer is still eluding me, but I know soon we will determine if this girl is still solo, or not such a "single girl" after all...

   

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