Tuesday, 16 December 2008
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How My Romantic Plans Became An Epic Fail
In my previous Datingish post "Things I Miss About Being in a Relationship", you may remember my mentioning something about an a cappella surprise I planned for an ex that ended up not working out. I don't remember if I ever wrote about it when that happened a couple of years ago because I was so disappointed at myself for not pulling it off. Previously, all my other silly romantic plans I'd concocted went as planned, so I was extremely confident heading in. How could I have known all the extra variables that were going to show up to rain on my parade (literally)?
I don't remember why I decided one day to do this, but perhaps it was after watching Love Actually (which, btw, was also where I got my idea for the thing I did to win my ex back later on in the relationship, but that's a story for another time
. Hint: it was similar to what went on in the Love Actually scene above). There was a scene in the beginning where all those band people popped out of nowhere to play "All You Need Is Love" at Keira Knightley's character's wedding. "Hmm, that seems like a good idea!" I thought, so I went out to prepare for this surprise.
Initial Plan:
First thing was to figure out who would be the ones to pop up to sing for my then-girlfriend. At the beginning, I was actually thinking about doing it myself. I had even talked to two friends of mine who agreed to play guitar and violin while I sang Collide by Howie Day. I quickly scratched this route because...well, no one wants to hear me sing, haha.
Instead, I decided to ask my college's all male a cappella group to sing for her. Apparently, I was the first person to ever ask them to do something like this, so they agreed for the hell of it. So far so good.
I gave my girlfriend an alibi for coming up to my college. I forgot what it was, but it involved meeting up with a few friends at my student union first before heading out. When she walked into the cafeteria area, I would give a signal to the a cappella group to come out from random places. I wanted as many people to be there to make it even more embarrassing for my girlfriend, so I figure I would get a lot of my commuter friends to hang out at the cafeteria when this happened. After the group had finished their love song medley, I would take her out for a lovely date instead of going out with a group of friends. Perfect!
[Puts on a gleefully evil smile]

Or so I thought.
What Actually Happened:
A lot of the guys in the a cappella group had to be somewhere afterwards, so they could only perform between 4 and 4:30 p.m. Now, that wouldn't normally be bad, but my girlfriend had to drive from her college to mine, which takes about 45 minutes without traffic. Her last class ended around 3 p.m. that day, so the time table was very small. What made matters worse was that the heavens decided to open up and pour, which, in turn, created tons of traffic.
You starting to see where this was heading? As 4 slowly turned into 4:30, everyone I got to take part in this surprise was growing restless. I kept on telling them, "she'll be here any minute!" but alas, that didn't happen. The group ended up just doing a few performances for the crowd (because they were already all there) and left around 4:30, but not before the main guy put his hand on my shoulder and gave me a sullen "sorry, man" face. I guess I wasn't doing a great job hiding my disappointment.
She ended up arriving close to 5; as I waited outside in the rain for her, I was debating whether or not I should tell her what had just happened. I ended up telling her after I couldn't come up with an alibi for why we weren't meeting up with friends anymore. She felt pretty bad about missing the surprise, but she still felt extremely appreciative of me anyway for going through all the trouble to plan that surprise for her. She later told her parents about it, which gave me a lot of brownie points with them. So yeah, it wasn't a total loss, I suppose.
Maybe one day I'll try something like that again. I pretty sure I'm foolish enough that I would try something like that a second time, haha. At least I know now what to watch out for next time!
Have you ever experienced an epic fail romantic plan similar to this?
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Comments (44)
What a cheesy dork. GTFO fool!
Do you see why we never really "plan" anything?
You are most definitely cheesy :) It's okay though..
I am about to do a romantic scene in a couple of days..Usually, I'm not the type of person that people would flake on while I'm planning something..so I made sure everything goes perfect or at the least, enjoyable& it always turn out to be great.. Sooo..No..Never an epic fail in anything. Parties, dinners, romantic things..Never =)
Ah, I probably shouldn't have said never..Oh well..Awww, you and I collide! Lols
<3 HELLO DELIAHHH.
And I also love to go with teh flow , too ..=] but in this case, it's okay. Just check the weather& make sure the people who's in it will win it.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - a romantic scene eh? Is that why you're heading to CA?
always the thought that counts.. that is really sweet.
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - hell NO . ..lol, i don't think my love would travel that far when i fell out of love ..i'm there for VACATION..oh ..you know me..lol
@immaairheadxl@xanga - Ah right right. Why did I even ask? haha
that's so sweet! guys should plan things like this WAY more often! shame it didn't work out, but you could have just planned it a little better.
guys, stop telling him to "grow some balls" or whatever other vulgar and cliche insults you can come up with. you're just jealous you aren't creative enough to come up with things like this yourself!
thanks for subscribing (:
this is so sweet. it really. really is. omg are you real because youre like the type of guy i wish would exist at my school [and hopefully be attracted to me :p] but its like "Yeah... not happening."
This was really sweet of you to plan it all out. Try and try again lad ^__^
@xR0CKST4Rx@xanga - Hmm, which guys you referring too? I don't think I heard anything negative (yet X_X).
@Shavanna@xanga - I think I'm a real person. I'll check and get back to you on that
makes me think of the blue orchestra in How I Met Your Mother.
yes, unfortunately, but nothing major like what you planned.
I'm gonna support my Asian brother and comment here too!
I think that what you did was amazing! Keep up the hopeless romantic activities! Gives me hope that one day I'll have me an 'Alex Chan' kind of guy!
lol, I was laughing reading this entry. Epic fail but also an epic win. =) Now, you have a good story to share. Thanks for sharing it =)
You're super duber sweet =] melting hearts sweet.
@BomCamChuoi@xanga - Psh, "Alex Chan" guys are overrated. You can do better haha.
Lol funny that you said that. Right before my relationship ended, I was going to giver her 2 tickets to Rome for the summer. Our anniversary was 2 months away before we broke up. I was going to ask her hand in marrige when we would have gone to Rome, but in the end it didn't go that way. saved me alot of money lol
Awww so cute <3
@writingsongsforBlair@xanga - I love that show! I want a blue orchestra!!
And sorry to heard it didn't go out that well.
I've never done anything terribly romantic, but then again neither have any of my SO's
=]
It wasn't an epic fail, things come up and they are out of your hands. But as long as your girlfriend got the idea everything is well though it would have been memorable if it did happen! Keep the romance coming!
guys out there should do this more often! haha
LMAO, i think that was the greatest story/experience ever told. you're a silly guy xD that's cool. imma steal your idea and do something like that one day xD ahahaha, i'm not lying neither =P
I don't think you can consider it a total failure if you scored brownie points & you've got everyone oohing & awwing over what you planned. That's amazing. I'm super impressed.. Although I'd never want that 'cause I'd turn super pink in the face & hide. haha.
I've never planned anything to that scale but I did try to plan our one year anniversary dinner.. that was a complete failure. I found a really quaint & old-fashioned restaurant to go to & had made the reservations. We had to get super dressed up [think little black dress & pearls & on him, a suit]. The boyfriend was going to drive us to the location but he didn't know much else about it. Then, we left 30 minutes prior to the reservations [on a Friday night!] & this was to an unknown area of Boston.. We had googlemapped it out & I was the navigator except he didn't listen to me when I told him where to make the turns. We ended up getting lost in another town, almost on our way to another state, when he FINALLY turned around. When we managed to get back to the general area, we kept missing our turn & as a result, we showed up an hour & a half late.. missed our reservation & the wait time for a table was 45 minutes. This was before we managed to shout & scream at each other the entire ride back to Boston. So we decided to skip it 'cause of the wait & drove back home in silence. He dropped me off at home & sped off into the night, leaving me in tears. Oyy.. what a disaster. We eventually made up & had Papa John's for dinner.. with me in my pearl necklace. -_____-"
I suppose it wasn't an "epic fail" considering that you did get brownie points. Maybe it was just fail. (:
What a nice thing to do for someone. There should be more guys like you out there, ya know, the considerate thoughtful ones.
But I suppose I can't state that you're considerate and thoughtful just based on that blog but oh well.
Jeezus. A guy needs hobbies I guess...