Monday, 15 December 2008
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I Wrote Him A Craigslist Missed Connection, He Responded - Now What?
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. So the most exciting saga of my otherwise uneventful, finals-filled life has been the response of my semester-long crush to a Craigslist Missed Connections post that I wrote. Somehow (who even knows how, considering the vagueness with which I wrote the post), one of his friends found it, realized it was him and forwarded it to him.
And he emailed me.
After an initial 30 seconds of giddiness, I realized that I had no idea what to say in response (he asked who I was and told me how he heard about the post). I gave it a few days before I could think of a witty response, then sent the email. Long story short, we corresponded a bit, I refused to tell him who I was, but thought it would be coy to describe my bike to him, because the Craigslist post that I had written identified him by HIS bike.
The last thing I heard from him was that he would be on the lookout for my bike - and that was it. It's been a few days now and despite the flirty emails, I feel like the whole thing has taken a bit of an anti-climactic tone. So, my question is - what do I do now?
For the record, this is my first time EVER doing anything like this online. I don't think I'm all THAT creepy, but I just became single for the first time in three years and figured, hell - just go for it. Unfortunately I can't remember how to do this.
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Under best of Craig's list there's response for a misconnection and the guy apologizing for not seeing it, you may want to check it out, I believe it's on the first page. (When I'm bored I read them from time to time.)
The next step is to come out. If you want to make yourself known, go for it. You already posted it on Craig's list, what's one more step?
I'd ask if he wants to meet up for coffee. ^^
i love checking the missed connections on craigslist. some are really cute! scope the guy out well before u meet up, make sure he's not a creep.
Maybe it's time for you to come out and tell him who you are. Ask him even if he wants to have lunch, coffee, etc so you two can get to know each other better. Just a thought.
Well, it depends on your action this time. If you want to meet up with him, send him a mail. =)
Meet him face to face and see if there's any opportunities to be had!
I don't understand why you won't tell him who you are. I mean, wasn't that the point? To find him and meet him? I'm with everyone else. Go for coffee!
meet him
If you're feeling too chicken-ish, email him again and ask him if he's seen your bike, as you've given him some time to look. That is, if you've passed him, of course.
Otherwise, as my loving father says, "Put up or shut up." Or as my mother has been known to say: "God d*mn it, either sh*t or get off the pot!"
Good luck!
Go the extra yard, ask him to meet you! If anything you can always think back on this and know that you went the whole nine yards and didn't give up.
Before meeting, exchange numbers and chat a while, if you haven't already done so. Otherwise, time to go and meet up! :)
hahaha wow this just happened to me a few weeks ago too. i posted on missed connections (for the first and probably only time ever) for this guy that was checking me out on the train and he actually got in touch with me. we ended up meeting for hot chocolate and now we keep in touch tho he lives in SF. but as for what you do now, depends on what you want. you posted for a reason and it seems like you wanted to find him, so if you want to get to know him then meet up with him. you never know.
Awww this is so cute :)
I say you put something peculiarly bold on your bike and email him. Hahahaha. Tell him too look out for w/e you stuck on your bike.
Good luck!
go through the same route and make sure he finds you
he's gotta do some more work
I have two comments: 1st...you should have posted your craigslist post and his response (cuz I'm nosy like that)
and 2nd
It's a bad idea to withhold your identity if you are ever planning on revealing it. The longer you wait, the crazier his imagination will become...and I'm sorry to say that you might disappoint him when you finally decide to come out from behind the mask. :(
Don't be shy! You actually got him to find you! This story ain't over yet!
Try riding your bike in the place where you saw him and his bike! That way your chances of seeing him might increase. Send him an email asking where he likes to ride his bike and see if you can just go riding there every now and again.
I just became single for the first time in a little over two years and don't really remember how to do "this" either so I understand what you're going through. Fortunately though I am also practically in the same position that you are accept a few steps farther -- what you do, is you somehow get back on the topic of who you actually are. Or whether you two should ever get your "bikes" together (aka. go for a bike ride) sometime. By doing this, you allow the idea that you are free and open to float out into the universe.
I say, go for it. What do you have to lose? Exactly.
Good luck!
-Talia
ATTENTION- I wrote this, and I forgot a key detail, and since I really want advice I'm going through the trouble to make it known.
This person is an RA in my dorm, so I see him every so often. That's pretty important, huh? Whoops. Also, I sort of feel like the email I sent was "final"...so I want to know how I should start the convo back up again. What I initially wrote was:
Dear RA boy,
I have a huge crush on you. Your bike ain't bad either.
@Sadiana_SaDiablo@xanga - your parents sound hilarious
=]
Go for it, it's like riding a bike, lmao. I wouldn't be disappointed when I found out who it was. ; )
I've heard some really bad things about craigslist users, that most of them are creeps or people who pretend they're someone else online. So that's sorta like ok wow you actually use craigslist for that? Anyways yea unfortunately I don't know how to send any replies via e-mail neither since I haven't dated or talked to anyone I found interesting in....how long? 4 years? yea something along the lines...lol
GL
Tell him to "bike" to a certain location. Coffee shop, cafe, something like that, and just stand by it and wait for you. Get it going girl.
Just do it and set up a date! But if you MUST 'cop' out, invite him to a group thing just as friends.
I love reading craigslist, even though the one for my city is pretty boring. I normally read NY or something like that ^^
And like everyone says, go meet him :P