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the guy that asked me out that I said yes to (even though I meant to say no because I don't know how to say no to people)... Apparently he doesn't know how to say no, either!
Last weekend I threw my birthday party - dinner and dancing out on the town. The guy was there. And he brought this girl with him who was crashing at his place for the weekend. Anyway, I could tell that she liked him. Anytime he tried to dance with another girl, she would kind of... get in the way...
He didn't really seem like he was digging her all that much...until they were making out. And even then, he didn't really seem all that into it.
Later in the night, he bought me a drink while she was off somewhere dancing or something and he starts hitting on me. He reminded me that he'd asked me out by asking when we were going to go out, so then we got into this whole (slightly intoxicated) conversation where I was, like, "I know we're not exclusive or anything, but I tend not to date guys that make out with other girls
in front of me at my birthday party. I don't want to be sloppy seconds and it's just bad college flashbacks," and he was all, "I don't like her. I'm trying to get rid of her but I don't know how."
"How?" I retorted. "By kissing her?" Then I basically gave him a lecture about how if he's not interested in someone, he should just grow a pair and learn to say no and tell them straight out, which, by then, I was sober enough to find ironic and amusing.
But I guess I at least have my loophole now - my excuse to say no without having to hurt his feelings. Because, really, I don't care who you are or how much I am (or am not) interested in you - if you kiss another girl in front of me, we're done. Unless you're an actor in a play or something. But otherwise, that's just a no-no.
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It's always hard saying "no" to people when you're actually taking their feelings into consideration. *sigh*
Happy belated Birthday! :)
I think I'm a super nice person and I can't say no to people when they ask me to do certain things BUT when it comes to guys asking me out, I can say NO to them if I'm really not interested in them.
But at least you got a reason to turn him down now without actually turning him down.
it's hard to say no at times, but if he liked you..he was a dumbass for not saying no to her. lol.
Wow...that's all I have to say.
Ha, being a hypocrite, ftw!
I hope he doesn't make that "careless mistake" again.
I mean, we've all done it, but most of have learned, and I hope he has too
Happy belated birthday!
yah, i always hate saying no, but i've come to learn that it's nicest thing you can do, because if you don't you're dragging it out, which will inevitably end in more pain, that if you'd just ended it to begin with.
I am the same way. I have the hardest time saying no to someone.
And I agree. If a guy kisses another girl in front of me, it's a no-go, under certain circumstances, that is.
First off, happy belated birthday!
Second, congrats on telling it to the guy like it is. He sounds like a spineless idiot.
lol, idiot?
so i wonder if he makes out with everyone he wants to push away!
He's not exactly the brightest one of the bunch, now is he?
Maybe he got caught up in the moment?
Yeah, sure. That's how he pushes away people. But you'd have to wonder what he does when he embraces them.
Would it be a big shove or sex on the floor?
I . . can't . . say . . NO! But I want to.
- rushed
Hahahaha, cheers to loopholes. Happy belated birthday, by the way =]. Sorry you had to witness that.
"I don't like her. I'm trying to get rid of her but I don't know how."
What a load of shit.
a horrible thing to witness but hey, you got to know what kind of man he is!!
Well sounds like it all worked out then.
LOL. XD
That did sound like a crappy birthday, but u got to know what the guy was like and to consideration of feelings, i don't think the guy had her feelings in consideration while kissing the girl, so basically screw having his feelings in consideration! Congrats if you just gave him a BIG FAT NO!
looks like you dodged a bullet.
Yes, that guy is an idiot. And you sounded a little hypocritical right there (though, it's no big deal).
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