Tuesday, 09 December 2008
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Featured Comment: What I Wish Girls Knew
This comment from naguyin comes from the Lovelyish post Calling All Guys.
Something I'd wish girls knew...this has been said before (probably in a different tone) but, we are really weak people. We've always been conditioned to be the stronger ones, told that we have to be stronger physically, mentally and emotionally.
The problem, though, is that we're not.
We tend to bottle things up, so if it looks like we need to get something out and even though it has taken you a few hours and we haven't let up yet but we're not mad because your prodding...keep prodding. Most of us just want you to be near. It makes us feel safe. And we want the feeling to last as long as possible. We're not being difficult, we just want to be on the receiving end--the end that usually is only given to the girls.
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Comments (36)
For me its okay when a man crys. But yet dont cry when you see Bambi's mom shot, bc (I know this bad, but....) deer is yummy....the one tear at the end of King Kong is okay, because I was crying.....
Awe. I believe you ;) It's something seriously moving when a man cries. Just which those times occurred more often the the male-ego side (well...not too often. Balance).
I hope that's really true...
Awww! Yeah, maybe we, women do not seem to acknowledge that because we are selfish and only want to be at the receiving end. haha!
I've seen my father, my brother and my husband cry before. All because of family reasons not because of a love story on TV.
I believe you. My beau is such a manly man, but he has a tender heart that he has opened up to me. I am so glad and I love him all the more because of that.
In a sense I always knew that. Men tend to be more committed when they are in a relationship. Now if only you can tell us how the opposite sex can get along; now that is something I don't know well. But all the "common sense" in the world cannot solve the complexity that is the relationship!
awhh (: this is totally cute.
@Whispers_of_Wind@xanga - me too.
Good comment - I just can't help but wonder if this is a fantasy. Don't get me wrong - I'd like it to be true (ok, it's true for you, but is it true for many?) I wish I knew.
I actually encourage my boyfriend to be emotional. It takes away all the stress of having pent up emotions. When someone explodes (rather it be a woman OR a man), it's not a pretty sight.
Most men feel they can't show their true emotions, because society has conditioned us that like you said have to be strong and unemotional. They fear that their other half will chastise them for having "feelings". This is most definitely unfair.
I have only seen my ex cry like 3 times in 9 years! And I swear I live with him. He didn't even cry properly, his eyes just went red and he sobbed a little. That was it. But it was so nice to be able to cuddle him and comfort him. :)
But what is most needed is that most women are like men, oblivious.
I just wish girls knew how to handle certain situations.
Awww.
Even if it was repeated, it's nice to be reminded of this sometimes (=.
I know. And it's ok. Thank you so much for being honest, though.
God, how I hope that is true.
Awww. How sweet. :)
Nice post.
I assume you aren't one of those guys that need prodding? Because you sound pretty open in that post. Just wondering :)
@Passionflwr86@xanga - It's true for me. It's true for most guys I know as well. It just takes the right environemnt and enough prodding. "But you don't have to take my word for it."
I believe you all too well. It seems the more I prod at my best friend (who happens to be my main attraction) when he is down, the more he feels comforted and the safer he feels. The more people leave him alone, the less he tends to tell, so I prod more and more to make him feel better. I'm glad you said this... it makes me feel safe that what I am doing is right :]
i think wen a guy cries-- it smth damn serious
oh this is so true. It means alot when someone persists, even if I seem to shut them out. Deep down I want them to keep at it. It feels good to have someone care like that.
aw...
I so did not expect this to happen.
@Whispers_of_Wind@xanga -
@desertrose2890@xanga -
@stunning_dor2@xanga - Stop hoping. I refuse to lie in the presence of a certain somebody. It would be like lying directly to them.
@Nicola_Six@xanga - Only physical prodding will work on me--but it doesn't take a lot. I'm open as long as someone takes it seriously.
the boyfriend showed that side to me.
Xo