Miss Polar BearI thought having my ex-boyfriend (who cheated on me) in history class with me last semester was a tragedy. Then I got news that encompasses the story of my life. My last fling's band is rumored to have a song of theirs on the new iPod commercials next month.
Awesome, fantastic. I'm not bitter at all.
No, not bitter at all because I am too busy laughing.
I am completely incapable of ending things with a guy and having it just go away. My first love who broke my heart was in the same two classes as me, the next guy bumped into me every day on campus, the one after that ended up dating my good friend (who I saw every day) instead of me, and now this boy gets signed to Apple. I couldn't really see him when we were talking because he constantly stood me up, but hey! I'll get to hear him every day now. I suppose this can also be a story and lesson on why you should never get involved with boys in bands.
How are you supposed to let go of something that is constantly shoved in your face? I'm just now calming down from seeing my ex-boyfriend every day for a year, and now this. Out of sight, out of mind, right? Well if they're never out of sight, is it possible for them to become out of mind? I can change the channel, but it doesn't help that he is now going to tour with my good friend's band and will be at the shows I'll attend.
Am I the only one out there with this kind of luck? How do/did you cope with seeing an ex every day? Do you think it's possible to see someone who's wronged you and not feel anything?
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very interesting. Hm...
I have to see my ex alot...i just ignore him. But thats because...we don't get along. Even tho he and i broke up...like 6 years ago.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cP3ln4dFnjY
wow I am so sorry that friggin sucks.
Man, I really feel for you. When I was with my ex, we didn't have any classes together or anything and we had to try really hard to see each other. Then the next year, he was in EVERY class with me but we didn't talk at all. 4 years later, he's still in my class - what luck I have. I was in his class when he started going out with my friend and everyday I had to see them hugging. We constantly cross paths and sidestep to avoid crashing into each other. It happens all the time.
So, no, you're not alone. It's really hard but I've learned to deal with it. Of course you still feel something but there's nothing you can do but accept it and just try to cope.
I had something similar happen to me recently. Believe me, I know how weird it feels!
The shock of it at first makes you feel wide-eyed
and it stirs up a lot of emotions. But after a little while your mind will calm down and you'll desensitize to it. Give it time and eventually you won't feel weird anymore. Best of luck!
well imho, you're of course going to feel something. but hopefully everyday, it'll be easier, right?
i find it ironic when i saw the title of this entry, i was just watching episode: the ex files from gossip girl.
Easy. I graduated. He transferred. (Same semester.) We are now hundreds of miles apart - and I love it that way.
hehe thats why i avoid dating coworkers/classmates :o)~ some things just dont mix well together
I'm still friends with most of my exes... so I do see them often. It stings when they bring up their new girl, or show me pictures from the last time they were together, but I know its probably better that we split anyway. My latest ex (my first true love) is on the fire department. I'm friends with all of the other firefighters, lets face it, I was down there a lot. I see him there all the time and it is definitely not pleasant, but I'm giving it time. You'll make it through!
Eventually you get over it.
Maybe you should stop dating guys that you're prone to see after the fact? I don't mean it in a heartless way, just as a common sense sort of thing. If you know that a guy is going to be someone you bump into a lot (such as class or highly frequented hang-outs), don't date him. Keeping him out of mind when/if you break up will be much easier if he's out of sight.
After breaking up with my ex, I ended up working with him. We saw each other 3 days out of the week for several hours at a time and it didn't make the break up any easier. Since my feelings were still strong at the time, it was a knife in the gut every time I saw him/customers/new flings flirting, touching, kissing, etc. After I quit and found someone else (after a long time), it was easier to finish getting over him. I didn't have to see or interact with him on a regular basis, so he stayed out of my mind.
errgh. my latest break up happened with my best friend- who is also friends with all my friends. his locker's right beside mine. his parents are bff's with mine. we go to the same family dinners or celebrations, we party with the same people, at the same time, we have classes with eachother, right beside eachother (or across the hall from eachother), or have spares in the same period. the only time we don't see eachother is.. practically never.
yeah, it was awkward. yeah it sucked. but then i remembered why we broke up (because he was crap for a boyfriend). we still see it eachother. we still talk. but.. well..
if it's over, it's over. just keep in mind, that your life shouldn't revolve around/involve someone who walked out on you, in the first place. be strong. :\
that sucks. I don't think my luck has ever been THAT bad!
I'm in a similar situation. I dated my best friend for a while, and we really, REALLY liked each other a lot. Then things started going downhill and we had a really messy breakup. I see her in the first period of the day and the last period of the day, and it was incredibly tense for a while after it happened. We've both since started talking to each other again, but I still find it hard to 100% move on when I start and end my school day seeing her.
I dated a girl from a different school once, and when we broke up it wasn't nearly as hard because I never saw her.
It will just take time though to adjust, I think. Just remember that all of this is making you a stronger person in the long run.
- John
Big problem is I'm dating her best friend now (best descion of my life) and neither my current girlfriend or my ex is aloud to go on dates alone, so they tend to want to do double-dates with each other. So I see my ex in dates alot. Pain in the @$$. Also we have the same close knit group of friends, so we have to see each other way more then I'd like.
Eh, sorry for rambling.
So I feel your pain, and hope it all works out for you.
You haqve the worst situations, compared to my girlfriend. Hehe! Dang...
Well...in the beginning: I was 'AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH' and now: I'm more like...pump up the volume and put on my shades. << in fact, that was just yesterday afternoon (the latter but with no headphones I did what anybody would have done...make sure she knew I was there and therefore hopefully making her feel everything all over again...Hah!)
Man, I really need to get over it. -.-
that really sucks... i guess i could say just ignore him but it's harder done than said. but i'm sure when you get a new boyfriend, it'll be much easier cos that will distract you from it.
I see my ex everyday. He's my first love, and we see each other in school on more than one occasion. It's impossible to get over him. I'm still not. So when he goes to college next year, I'm hoping I'll be able to move on. Even though I don't want to. Because I still love him. Beside the point.
Ignore it. lol. Only choice you got!
i get to see my ex (who broke my heart) and his new gf making out everyday...its just fantastic.
I went to a new school - a plus was being able to be far away from him - until he moved here as well. Now I see him all the time as we walk to classes. The pain of the breakup is constantly being shoved into my face when he ignores me as we pass each other.
It is hard to forget what happened when you have to see them, and no, it's not fair.
I'm really sorry about that. =/
With time, it's possible not to feel anything. Sometimes it can take a looooooong time though. It really sucks what you're going through.
If you can, try to ignore it. The way I get over ex-partners is to tell myself that they're not worth my time to even think about, and to remind myself that I have plenty of other things to do. Mind over matter, I guess. Life is short, and I'll make the most out of it despite obstacles in the way!
For me, it's not seeing the ex or being reminded of him that's the problem. I still care for the guy and enjoy his conversation and company. I just can't stand thinking about and seeing him with his new girlfriend.
Oh, and as for how to deal... How about putting on another song that reminds you of how powerful and fabulous you are? It's HIS loss, not yours, right?