Mr. MacchiatoA girl I met recently told me that if her boyfriend ever laid a finger on her, it would be "the end" of him. I'm not sure what she meant. She kinda implied that she would either end his life herself or have him beat up. But at the very least, she would most likely break up with him and spread the word that he was a "woman beater".
Of course I agree. As a man, I would never hit a woman unless it was self defense, and even then I would probably pull my punches. If I was up against a female ninja, I'd be doomed.
As for the girl who threatened "the end" for her hypothetical woman-beating boyfriend, a friend asked her a clarifying question:
"Okay, so the guy can't hit you. But what if you slapped a guy in the face... would that be okay?"
"Of course," she said without hesitation. "He probably deserved it."
Wow! So it's wrong for a guy to hit a girl, but totally okay for a girl to smack a guy around. Yet another way that the modern man is at a disadvantage in the dating process.
I honestly don't know what I would do if my girlfriend smacked me. If it happened once or twice, it would be no big deal – I just can't see it really hurting all that much. But if it happened regularly (or worse, in front of other people), I would probably walk away. It's just a matter of respect.
Guys, if your girlfriend slapped you, how would you react? Ladies, would you ever consider slapping your man? Bonus points if you have a real story about female-on-male slappage.
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i wouldn't hit her back. if she's wrong to do it, she'll eventually make amends. women always know when they've messed up. no need to go after them for it.
otherwise, i would... probably just not speak to her for a while, and then blog about it. let my comments soothe my ego. haha.
actually, i hope this never ever happens.
How else are you going to keep your pimp hand strong?
But, yo, for real, why am I slapping my dude around?If it was just some random dick that needed an ass whooping, then let's get down, but other that, hey, just keep ya hands to yourself.
Women deserve to be slapped if they leave the kitchen in a similar manner to how animals that leave their natural habitats deserve to be shot. That's just the way it is in nature.
My fiancee and I play-fight, but that's as far as it ever goes.
Her family have laid down the law to me - no hitting/beating in an angry, physical, dominating way in any kind - and I agree whole-heartedly with that sentiment.
Given her family history, the first time would be the last time if it were to ever happen. It wont, I know, but it's good to know the ground rules.
Liz would never hit me in anger either, and it would need to be a lot and prolonged for me to walk away. I dont see "battered husband" in my future though. We're both too chill and reserved for any of our fights to escalate to that physical level.
Sometimes you need to make sure he knows his place, so giving him a slap or two will ensure that he doesn't forget.
Seriously though, violence is never a good idea.
I almost.. ALMOST slapped my ex once. Long story. But I think slapping someone in the face is worse than punching them. I've never slapped anyone in my life and I'll probably never do it.
iono... i wouldn't fight back... but its really degrading... and i'd be seriously pissed off... especially in public... if it happens often the relationship is doomed
never did and never will slap my girl... I think I never make my girl that angry/mad in which she'll slap me...
I don't think it's right for a guy to slap/hit a girl at all...
Learning to be a gentlemen
Slapping or thumping is wrong full stop, especially around the head, face, back and the private area.
I would never hit a woman, not sure about self defence etc. I would not slap around the head, face, back and the private area.
My boyfriend and I play fight, but we don't hurt each other. =P
Honestly, I believe in defending yourself. If I was to strike someone, male OR female, I would expect them to defend themselves. I would in no way call the cops on my boyfriend if I hit him first. Women are strong, I don't care what people say. During anger, a women can strike just as hard as a man, so I feel he has the right to retaliate.
In no way should either hit one another. I am guilty of it however. I was dating someone and they called me a really horrible name... "Diseased slut".. so I smacked him across the face, then walked away. That was the last I spoke to him, let alone see him. I only did it out of anger, and I still feel bad.
Men and women should not result to violence when it comes to their anger. If it escalates to that point, walk away, calm down and try to resolve it in a mature way.
this is one of the few double standards against men
violence is never okay, though, whether it be m2m, w2m, w2w or m2w...
i wouldnt surround myself with people who didnt use words to resolve their issues...
I don't think it's right to hit your girl, just as how I would take offense if a girl ever slapped me. Fortunately that's never happened, but if it did, I'd have to drop her like a bad habit
nobody seems to have thought of blocking. I would just block.
I'd block it.
Only time you can hit a girl is if she's stomping on your balls repeatedly with no sign of stopping.
oh no slappage! I practice the art of no phsyical harm. I believe if there is hitting, there are issues that needs resolved. I dont think its ok to hit. ~by whatever gender~ It's immature.
well in most cases ; when a girl slaps a guy its just out of being upset, if he said something horrible to her or was caught cheating etc.
when guys do it its not just out of anger, but its more of a controling thing for them, more of a mental way for them to "show whos boss."
They hit a girl and they feel more masculine.. He has his control over her, and it "shows his dominance."
I definitely think guys have it hard in this world. At first women fought for equality but now they're just trying to make themselves higher then men. Its very annoying. Honestly, if I were to hit a guy (with meaning to hurt of course) then I definitely think he should be allowed to fight and hit back. Its only fair as long as he realizes that in most cases men are stronger then woman (physically) so he shouldn't go anywhere near all out on me.
But believe me when I say I will not go out with any guy who thinks its alright to hit women in general. It really does have to be on a justifiable situation.
I would never slap a boyfriend, and I would hope that my boyfriend would never slap me.
Even if a girl slaps you, you have no right to hit her back.
"I just can't see it really hurting all that much."
This is the biggest difference between a man hitting a women and a women hitting a man, the damage level won't be equal majority of the time. One slap from an average female is not going to be as damaging from a slap/punch from an average male.
Because the body strenght are on different levels, it needs to be biased.
Do what they did on SHortbus, have a healthy scream of your feelings, take a deep breath and nove on. Hehe! It's certainly the least violent way to handle each other.
You shouldn't hit another person with no expectations of being hit back. It's a horrible double standard that women can "slap" a man with no one thinking twice about it, but as soon as a man lays a hand on a woman, he's an abusive woman beater.
Honestly, I really don't think there's ever a need to hit someone else, barring self defense. If someone's coming at me with a punch, kick, knife, etc, with harmful intent, you'd best bet I'm going to be defending myself to the best of my ability.
For me, the difference between slapping and hitting/punching is risk of injury. I may be wrong about this, but I've never heard of an instance where a man was injured when slapped by his woman. Maybe if she was a softball pitcher or boxer..never mind. And I think girls usually use the slap to get a point across and then walk away. But you only punch when you want to do bodily harm. So...I guess yeah I would slap a man if I felt ever grossly disrespected or threatened, but I would never "batter" him.
I don't really believe that violence is a way to solve problems, but I have to admit that I have slapped one of my exes. I was aiming for the cheek, but I completely missed and kind of hit his neck. It's really hard to get the classic cheek slap!
Seriously though, I don't plan on doing it again because it really didn't make me feel better. If anything it made me more angry. He didn't do anything but just kind of stare at me in shock.
As far as a guy slapping me goes, I'm sure that I would be really upset if it happened once or twice, but if I deserved it I would probably put up with it. If it became a habit or I didn't really deserve it then I'd "end him" like your friend said she would do.
And of course, it's pretty ironic that we are trying to get rid of double standards, but there are still things men can't do that women can. Whatever happened there?