Miss Penguin Valentine's Day has never really bothered me. Sure, if I'm single on V-Day, it can get annoying to see all the girls carrying flowers and chocolates. But really, I don't care much.
It's the winter holidays - Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's - that give me the "single blues". Everything is so romantic and all the commercials on TV show happy couples buying each other "meaningful" gifts. I want someone to go ice skating with in Central Park! Or to curl up with under a blanket with hot cocoa and a movie. I want someone to kiss at midnight on New Year's (and it's hard for me not to think about how perfect New Year's was last year when I went to an amazing concert and had a boyfriend to kiss at midnight).
These are the times that it gets a little tough. So, single people out there, stay strong. I know it's hard, but we'll get through it. Cuddle up with your friends, surround yourself with the people in your life who love you (even if it's not in the same romantic way) and treat yourself well this holiday season. Pamper yourself. That's my advice to get you through the holiday blues.
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I have stuffed hippo I could cuddle with. Would that work?
I have my cat ... love her to death, but not so much of a deep connection there.
Doesn't bother me.
I'm gonna drown my sorrows in egg nog this holiday season... and kiss myself in the mirror this New Year's... or not.
This is my first holiday season being single. I don't mind it, but it should be interesting.
I am single. And its no problem when you're "Single and Loving it!" [I've been there and its great] but when you're "Single and craving a Romantic Relationship" thats when it gets tough. Thanks 4 the support and advice. good post!
I'm dealing with it, too, this year, and it has been so hard.
I've definitely shed a few tears-kind of sucks. But, yes, STAY STRONG. I guess all of us single people need to stick together when it gets tough!!
MAN, THANKSGIVING WAS FUN AS HELL!!
AND I'M GOING ON VACATION FOR CHRISTMAS& NEW YEARS TO CLIFORNIA!!!!
AND VALENTINE'S DAY + BIRTHDAY ARE NEAR!!!
SINGLENESS CAN'T GET NO BETTER!!
hahhah
@eyesochinky@xanga - "FTF'S" LOLS.
I'M JK!!! those are so not legit lol
I think Im gonna drink the most egg nog I've ever had this season. There is some holiday blues right now. I just dont know what its all about with the grey skies and foggy days that I detest right now. Christmas is a marketing scam for couples either way. So dont give in to those bs lovey dovey commericals and the damn bright lights on the tree. All I can say is thank god for online shopping. Really I do feel like a scrooge right now, but variety is good in life. All kidding aside if your single, make this holiday season be about friends and family. Happy Birrrtthhhday!! - Frosty the Snowman
@immaairheadxl@xanga - LOL that's gonna be my new year's resolution... ima find me an FTF. fuck relationships! hahahahaha
welllll, i've never been not single so i wouldn't know but i think that same lonely feeling resonates in every single person.
dont pamper yourself with food! it doesnt help the single's cause. lol
This season is my favorite time of the year, but it's also the loneliest time of the year with all the coupled- up friends gather but me. Somehow I always tend to break away from guys i date around autumn and so by winter, I'm cold as hell. Blah. Anyway, I guess i'll be cuddling with my pillow and sleep away the new year eve....When spring comes I'll be back with my game on - and hopefully I'l be able to keep it last long enough for the next winter season. Happy Holidays! - and may I add - Bahhumbug - hehe
This year's season has started off very poorly. It will only get better, though!!
I go home to see my SO. Being in an LDR sucks, especially when you can't make it home for Thanksgiving. =\
who needs a SO*
Partying it up at the clubs - get all the guys you want
This'll be my first year being single. It's been 5 years since I was last single and I'm finding that its a bit lonely. Starting to reminisce about last Christmas now....
The holidays aren't not all that great when you're in a long distance relationship either. :( I haven't seen my boyfriend in 4 months & I'm probably not gonna see him til a month or so past the new year.. So no one to cuddle with there. :( It stinks even more when it's our third Christmas as a couple & also our third time spending it apart. =T But what can you do? Money is tight this year & before that, it was strict parents. I comfort myself with the thought that it's only temporary... might as well enjoy what might be the last with the family. :)
instead of being miserable by the fact one is a single during the holidays, why not volunteer or do some charitable work to make this world a little better?
Don't forget the December babies.. stuck with thanksgiving, birthdays, xmas and new years! At least I have my cat, alcohol and hopefuly what single friends I have left to wallow in.
No wallowing, folks! Do things that make you feel good. Yes, surrounding yourselves with friends and family helps. I'm thinking about volunteering somewhere during the days when I find myself with no place to go. Keep yourself busy, that's the key!
@the_shame_of_ucd@xanga - Haha, I just saw your comment right after I posted the same suggestion!
it's not that being single that bothers me so much, it's just that all my lady friends I usually hang out with around this time have boyfriends this year... not as much fun as normal
I'd have to say that singles are much MUCH stronger than our non-single counterparts...And at the same time, it's much easier to kiss different people at each holiday...
Ahhh, variety...The spice of life...
I don't look down on my non-single friends while they do couple stuff with their SOs...I know they're having a good time...I will be too, just with different girls each time...hahahaha...
@phuck_diz_shiz@xanga - Exactly...
@maybmaybnot@xanga - Sounds more like "desperate"...
@mysteriousromantic@xanga - Oh my god, me too. Being with him all those years over the holidays is all I can think of lately. It's so depressing.
But this post lifted me a tiny bit. At least I know I'm not alone.