This is a guest blog submitted by Suppermick. So I'm 20 years old; I recently graduated from culinary school and am still trying to save up to finally move out. My girlfriend is younger than me, but it's not an issue - we get along great and although we're still in the early stages of the relationship, everything is going smoothly.
On Black Friday, I invited her over to my house to watch a movie and just enjoy a night at home. Because I have my own room and everything, we stayed in there pretty much the whole time, and well...things got a little fun. She ended up staying the night at my house and sleeping next to me on my bed. It was an awesome night; I don't have any regrets at all.
I had to work early the next morning and offered to drop her off at her place on my way. When we were walking out together, my mom, who was sitting in front of the computer in the other room, signaled for me to come over. "I see you had company over last night...." and I was, like, "Yeah, it's cool, no worries," and she was, like, "are you being....careful...?"
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The last thing I want to talk about with my mom is whether or not I'm covering my penis with latex before I stick it my girlfriend's vagina. I just kinda said yeah, not to worry and I left immediately. There are few times I've felt so awkward in front of my mom, and honestly, I didn't know how to handle it. Of course, when I saw her again that night after work, she asked me all sorts of questions about her. I told her not to make a big deal out of it, and she said she wouldn't as long as I didn't end up in jail (my girlfriend is 17).
Normally, my rule is that I don't bother introducing girls to the family until it's been at least six months.
Is anyone else's mom really bad at handling situations like that?
Do you feel really awkward when your mom asks you questions about your relationships?
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My thought is if you live with your freaking mom, you shouldn't be having girls over for sex to begin with.
@Moktral@xanga - What do you mean "Mom's don't know"...
If your dad didn't plow your mom's non-latex sheathed vag, you wouldn't be here...I'm sure she knows alllllllllllll about it...hahahahahaha...
My mother is SUPER parinoid of me getting pregnant. Whenever I have a boyfriend she always says, well I hope you're practicing birth control. . . I mean even if I dont even get into a physical relatinship with the person.
The first few times it was akward but now I just shrug it off and change the subject ASAP!!!
Up until a few years ago it was unacceptable in her mind to have any sort of pre-marital relations--I moved to college and everything changed.
@Blue_Dragon_Designs@xanga - Even though you might not agree with it, at 17, she legally has the ability to consent to sex with anyone.
@wewong@xanga - I understand you may not agree with it, but at 17 she can make decisions about her body. I can say this without wanting to get into her pants. Also, it is in fact legal for her to consent to anyone she chooses at 17. It is your perrogative to boot her butt out the door if you choose, but I don't think that should be a factor in who she chooses to be with or do what with.
@whatyourBFreallythinks@xanga - The question asked if anybody else's mom had issues handling the situations. That is what I meant. Who in general knows how to deal with awkward situations? Especially those dealing with sex?
Obviously she knows unless he's a damn test tube baby.
i would never bring a girl home to my mom's place... you are a brave man.
Sorry, your story made me laugh really hard. but atleast she was concerned and didnt chew you out, like some mothers would.
@irishgrrl690@xanga - Lmao. =]]]
Me and my mom have a very open relationship. She is my best friend and I tell her just about everything (no details though, God no, no details!!) She knows I'm safe, and she knows I'm responsible, so she trusts me.
Apparently my boyfriend's mom asked the embarrassing questions though . . . I'm so glad I wasn't around for that!
@Theophilus166@xanga - Agreed. I was reading the comments and waiting for someone to bring up the fact that he had sex with his gf while his parents could have been in the room next door. It's a bit odd......
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Every family has their own belief and values, so obviously each person is raised differently. I was born and raised in a rather conservative family. I've never had any serious "sit-down-at-the-table-talks" with my parents about the birds and the bees, but I know my parents well enough to know that marriage should come before sex, in which I totally agree with. And if I had my own kid, I would teach them the same thing too. But because it is 2008 now, I'd probably advise them, and prefer that they have sex after marriage. But if they're going to do otherwise, I probably won't and can't stop them - as long as they have the knowledge to be able to decide what's best for them. If they decide to have sex, just don't let me find out and don't do it under my roof.
I'm eighteen and my mom will randomly ask me "Your not having sex are you ?" and I'm like o_O wtg No ! I'm not !
Then I'm thinking "even if I were I wouldn't tell you. SOO weird."
I just kinda give her an answer and I'm like "mom chill"
I find nothing wrong with snuggling up with your Boyfriend and sleep in his arms and him falling asleep. I mean she can't get pregnant if she and him still are fully dress.
From what I gathered from the OP, there was no sex involved - they just spent the night together in the same bed.
I think from that, there were assumptions made as to what was going on during that time.
For one, that to me would be upsetting - that there would be a lack of trust there if this was an occasional thing.
Two, not all guys are raging horny pricks with a one-track mind. Occasionally you'll find a few guys who appreciate the intimacy of falling asleep with your arms around your SO without having to try and initiate anything sexual.
So, for those reasons it wouldn't be completely fair to call out the boy for having his gf over and not feel embarrassed, but to feel awkward when his mom makes assumptions like that.
It drove me crazy that that's what my mum always thinks all the time. Do credit us with a little sense every now and then - we dont deliberately go out and do something stupid just for kicks!
i said, "don't worry, ma, i pull out."
This was interesting. But the way I was raised, if you're not comfortable talking about sex, you shouldn't be having it.
my parents dont ask....they just assume and hope their assumptions that i'm still a virgin are correct. and of course, i dont bother to tell them anything, just to keep everything in balance between us
my ex boyfriend's mom on the other hand, always told him to please not get me pregnant. LOL
haha. I don't even want to go there.
ROFLMAO!!!!
poor you. that is awkward....but...she's only asking cause she's concerned about her lil man (of 20).
she knows your saving up and she doesn't want you to ruin your life with an extra unexpected burden...she's only doing what a concerned mother who knows what actually happens in relationships would do? it's her parenting style:P
I don't mind talking to my mom about some sex stuff. That wouldn't have bothered me at all.
What is kind of icky for me is the age difference. If she was 18 I wouldn't blink an eye.
One of my friends had her mom ask her for condom advice.
Mom: When I was your age, there was only ribbed and regular! There's so many to choose from now!
Friend:
Mom: I mean, look at the variety! I must have been missing out on a lot these last thirty years of being on the pill!
Friend:
Mom: Anyways, we couldn't figure out which kind to buy, so we just got the variety pack! Now we can try them all!
Friend:
It was epic.
@EarthsAzureLight@xanga - I don't know where you are from, but where I am from a 17 year old and a 20 year old having sex is statutory rape.
That does sound awkward. Mothers can be very awkward. I've had to deal with my mom complaining about not getting laid from my dad many times. She also tries to ask questions about my bf's, like how they are in the sack and shit. Ya I will def not do that to my kids when I have them. Yes I am 21 and old enough to know my parents have sex but I don't need to hear about it or the lack of it, lol.
hahahhhahhah.. this is so cute lol