This is a guest blog submitted by Suppermick. So I'm 20 years old; I recently graduated from culinary school and am still trying to save up to finally move out. My girlfriend is younger than me, but it's not an issue - we get along great and although we're still in the early stages of the relationship, everything is going smoothly.
On Black Friday, I invited her over to my house to watch a movie and just enjoy a night at home. Because I have my own room and everything, we stayed in there pretty much the whole time, and well...things got a little fun. She ended up staying the night at my house and sleeping next to me on my bed. It was an awesome night; I don't have any regrets at all.
I had to work early the next morning and offered to drop her off at her place on my way. When we were walking out together, my mom, who was sitting in front of the computer in the other room, signaled for me to come over. "I see you had company over last night...." and I was, like, "Yeah, it's cool, no worries," and she was, like, "are you being....careful...?"
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The last thing I want to talk about with my mom is whether or not I'm covering my penis with latex before I stick it my girlfriend's vagina. I just kinda said yeah, not to worry and I left immediately. There are few times I've felt so awkward in front of my mom, and honestly, I didn't know how to handle it. Of course, when I saw her again that night after work, she asked me all sorts of questions about her. I told her not to make a big deal out of it, and she said she wouldn't as long as I didn't end up in jail (my girlfriend is 17).
Normally, my rule is that I don't bother introducing girls to the family until it's been at least six months.
Is anyone else's mom really bad at handling situations like that?
Do you feel really awkward when your mom asks you questions about your relationships?
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Hm. Awkwardness.
I find its easier to just not introduce new lovers to parents. Too many uncomfortable questions. I always wait quite a bit of time before taking that step.
No since I am not in a relationship
"The last thing I want to talk about with my mom is whether or not I'm covering my penis with latex before I stick it my girlfriend's vagina."
*rofl*
Ha! My mom doesn't ask about relationships because she knows I can handle myself well. But I think I'll probably be the kind of mom who talks about stuff like that. I plan on being up-front and making it a joke, because that seems easier than, "erm...uhh, are you, eh, being s-s-safe? A few times my mom has asked me about a guy, but generally it isn't an issue because i bring my boyfriends around all the time. That way she can get to know them herself and she doesn't even need to ask me about them. 2 birds, one stone if you will.
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OH man.. my mom... she's one of those don't ask don't tell people. My dad on the other hand?
He's the kind of guy who says things like "So... I know you really like Juno... but, uh, I don't think that's the chosen path for you."
Or, "I know you probably aren't as dumb as most girls your age (you ARE my offspring after all), but I would like to remind you that my psychic powers tell me that there are no grandchildren in my immediate future. If you catch my drift."My favorite to date was: "Yah. You found quite a catch this time. Nice guy. Smart. Pretty good lookin'... I don't WANT to know how well er.. gifted he is. You might, though. I bet you do, in fact. So. Just make sure the goods are GOOD before you do anything crazy. And if you do anything crazy, remember that you probably want to wait for him to reach his physical peak before deciding you want to carry his genes. He could get ugly. You never know."
Apart from that? Nahhhh not awkward at ALL.
I think my parents and I have a don't ask don't tell policy. They just trust I know what I'm doing. Thank goodness, because it's always kinda awkward talking to my family about any of my past relationships. I just say the basics and be done with it haha.
Lol, paranoid parents lead to not-so-fun awkward times.
My mum particularly was incredibly paranoid - even a closed door with the rest of the family home was enough to make her think that we'd be all over each other like rabbits.
Please, parents, I know this might be tough (and I'm sure I'll be the same once I'm a parent) but at least credit your kids with a little sense.
If you've raised them the best you can, and established their moral code, they are more-or-less going to follow it.
Especially if there is a good sexual education program at their school, then they are going to know how to stay "safe", if they partake in those activities at all.
I always think that if you're too afraid to introduce your significant other to your family, then there's already issues in the relationship.
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On a side note, did everyone laugh during Twilight when Bella's mom asked if she was "being safe" when Bella told her that a boy might be the reason why she wanted to stay in Forks!? XP
@HeartOfPandora@xanga - haha yeah i laughed at that one too.
my mom and i are at the point where she accepts the fact that i'm having sex, so she can ask me whatever she wants and it's not awkward at all
That would be pretty awkward. I think it'd be hard for all parents to deal with a situation like that...I know I'd have a hard time in the future =T
Luckily my parents usually don't ask me questions when i am IN a relationship, but they are unusually annoying when i am NOT in one.
- A^2
My mum tried to have the sex talk with me, even thinking about it a few years later still feels awkward.
"The last thing I want to talk about with my mom is whether or not I'm covering my penis with latex before I stick it my girlfriend's vagina." I love this line.
@irishgrrl690@xanga - Oh wow, I'm sorry.
@irishgrrl690@xanga - LOL!!
@cmdr_keen@xanga - Twilight reference: Haha, yeah, that was funny.
Not to start anything, but what do the girl's parents think of their 17 year old daughter spending the night in a man's bedroom? This would have never happened when I was 17 (and in my case, I was engaged). And this situation will not happen when my daugher is 17. At 18 she can do as she wants with the knowledge that I raise her with.
My dad gave me the sex talk before I went to college. SO awkward... oh man.
My mother has the finesse of a rabid rhino when it comes to my 'private' (ha. ha.) life. So I generally just lay the cards on the table and wait for the storm to cease. To be honest, I just don't care.
haha nope, my mom and dad would never ask specific questions. they would just say "don't do anything stupid" and leave it at that.
@Blue_Dragon_Designs@xanga - Not to judge you, but at 17, your daughter needs to make her own choices, what she does with her body isn't really your business - especially if she is being responsible.
i don't think your mom did a bad job handling the situation. at least she didn't explicitly ask if you got condoms or ask if you've had sex. i think you need to grow up and face the situation like it should be faced, a real health factor. your mother is only concerned about your health, that's why she asked.
luckily, my mother was open enough to supply me with condoms since she's a nurse who works in a clinic.
haha. ouch. i don`t think i would`ve had even that much composure =\
@EarthsAzureLight@xanga - i completely agree :)
@Blue_Dragon_Designs@xanga - tru, at 17 a child barely knows what he/she wants. my rule goes beyond 18, my roof, my rules. if he/she wants to screw around, go for it, just not under my roof. any guy that tells a 17yr old girl that she should make her own choice is only trying to get in her pants.
Oh wow...
I remember a time like this...I was about 15 when I was talking to some girls outside the house and my mom comes out offering to buy me condoms...
Yeah...Talk about awkward...After that though, nothing really phased me...
My parents are really open about sex...Walk around naked and everything short of getting it on in front of me or my family...It makes a lot easier and the lines of communication are just a lot more relaxed...When my parents asked me if I was using condoms or if the girl I'm dating is on the pill, I understand that it's because they know (like I know) that I'm not ready to be having kids...They're looking out for me, which I appreciate like you wouldn't believe...
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Dinner Conversation with my younger brother and parents:
Dad: Hey WYBRT, if you need condoms for later, let us know, we'll get you some extra small ones...
*Everyone laughs, including myself*
Me: Don't worry Dad, I'm sure you have some extra ones lying around...
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Your mom is just looking out for you...Appreciate it while you can...If it gets bothersome or overbearing, don't be afraid to let her know...Bottom line: She's still your mom and can kick you out at 18...
@EarthsAzureLight@xanga - At 17 it is my business because she is a minor and legally still a child. I plan on educating her about every possible aspect of relationships and sex, but until she turns 18 there is no way she will spend the night with a man, whether she is sleeping with him or not.
Dude: Mom's don't know. Trust me. I'm sure she honestly doesn't want to know about your latex covered penis plowing your teenage girlfriend's vag.
It means she cares. It sucks, but IDK deal. You're a man.@irishgrrl690@xanga - Your parents and my parents should drink together...