Tuesday, 02 December 2008
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Is Dating Coworkers Okay?
This question was submitted by girlyouglow.
Is it or is it not okay to date a coworker? If you've dated one, what was your experience like?
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i'd imagine it being awkward .
if i dated a coworking, i'd prolly seem two-faced .
At work, I have to act very innocent and willing to work .
But out of work, I just chill and mess around .
I don't find there is a problem at all... As long as both of you can stay professional at work and do not bring up any relationship related issues... There is nothing wrong dating some from work...
Whatever you do...don't do it.
I dated a coworker - we broke up a year ago and things will still never be the same. I don't think either of us are over it and it doesn't help that we have to see each other at work all the time.
It's bad news bears.
i've never "dated" a co-worker. however, other things have happened and it was a bit awkward. we still work together and it's a still a bit awkward, especially now that our secret is out. be careful dating co-workers unless it's a huge company and you work on seperate floors or areas.
I worked with my daughter's father, talk about awkward when I became pregnant and noone knew we were even in a relationship.
Depends. Dating a superior or someone lower than you in the professional hierarchy could cause a whole lot of problems. There will always be suspicion that one of you is abusing your power or using personal relationship to get ahead professionally. (That's where sexual harassment cases come in.)
Even if the two of you are of equal standing, it's best to remain totally discreet. Office gossip isn't good for anybody.
That said, even if you are discreet, should the relationship end and end badly, things could get really awkward, especially if you can't avoid running into each other. A friend of mine dated a co-worker and the relationship ended so badly that she felt the need to find herself a new job.
But I've also known people who ended up marrying their co-worker, so sometimes it can work out.
I used to say absolutely not, but I've changed my thinking.
Why not date your co-worker? Are you two not human beings? If you two click, what's stopping you?
With that said, intra-office dating is tricky. Especially if you work together. If you work in different departments that don't interact much, then you might be OK.
I would think it's easier to date in a large-scale corporation then say, a small start-up. Because chances are you want see him/her all the time.
I wouldn't do it. If things went wrong, it'd be awkward.
And the relationship might make it awkward for other coworkers.
it could work as long as you know how to balance your professional and personal lives
it depends, it might work if both individuals are truly mature.. clean breakups and full knowledge of what each individual wants.. otherwise, it make things more complicated and more awkward.. so yeah, make sure you both know what you want and what you're getting into..
oh yeah, also what @manishmathur he said.. professionalism has a lot to do with maturity..
I honestly don't think it is appropriate to date co-workers. The reason being is because you two are put in a professional environment with people who look at you as examples of the company. If the two of you do anything that may mis-represent their reputation, then I really don't think that is a good idea. Now, if one of you are willing to give up and work in another dept or elsewhere, then there would be hope for it to work out.
@yet_still_learning@xanga - I agree ... :)
It's fine if you work for the same company as long as you don't work on the same teams, or the same projects. That way there isn't any awkwardness if it doesn't work out.
A lot of people met their husbands/wives at work!
My ex-wife dated an co-worker. Law firm situation when she was a summer associate, and she dated a mid-level associate. I think she'd say that it worked out pretty well for her.
Not so much for me and the kids.
I dated a co-worker. Well, sort of (we were exes-but-not-really).
It was awkward because we got yelled at for "sexual harassment" of each other and bringing personal problems to work, and went back to his house after work most nights.
Meh, not to mention the shit that went down when he had friends flirting with me.
I effing miss that job though. Arcades are the shit.
I'd warn against it if you don't feel that you'd be able to keep up a professional attitude/appearance or if there are problems between the two of you that might interfere with work.
As they say "Don't $#!T where you eat..."
I was a manager, so I didn't want to date one of my subordinates, so she quit so we'd date...and I had to go hire someone else to replace her..argh
It happened w/ another one later on, but when things didn't work out, it was very awkward since it always felt like she was trying to get one up on me, and not sure what she was saying behind my back, like conspiracy theory ya kno...I ended up leaving the company partially cuz of her...lol..aigh.
Is dating co-workers okay? Well, that's not for anyone to say because you just don't know what will happen. If it's a job that's important for God's sake be careful.
On the other hand when a girl came to work one day 18 years ago (her first day) and started doing some mild flirting with me i knew oh my God this is the one. I asked her out that day and in a few months we were married. She is the absolute love of my life, my partner, my soulmate, or any other cornball things you'd say, and i will love her until i die. She is perfect for me.
You just never know. Speak of tomorrow and the Devil laughs.
i wouldnt, just cuz it would be SO awkward if we broke up....its like dating a classmate....only in school its kinda better cuz you know it'll only be a matter of months till ur out of that class and rid of that awkwardness lol
it's okay to date anyone now a days..haha.. cousins *??
I'm dating a coworker...so far.. no problems at work.. We have to keep things quiet (the gossip there is horrible). I wouldn't be surprised if someone does know and told everyone else but not us. Hey, people can talk shit all they want, I don't care what they think. Too bad.
I personally don't think it's a good idea to date a co-worker, but sometimes it works if:
both work in a big company
working in different departments
the departments that each work in do not interact with each other or work closely with each other or if they very rarely interact with each other.
different floors help too.
My last relationship was someone I worked with and it was horrid. I work retail and if I spent to much time with a male customer it was bad news. I also had the problem of co-workers being nasty becasue they were all friend with him first and I "changed" him.
well, considering most people spend about 40 hrs or more a week at work, isn't the chance you might find someone you like at work more likely?
Although it is a bit tricky and ironic that people you interact so many hours with may not be okay to get involve with...
I wouldn't do it just because of a personal experience, actually two. The most recent co-worker I dated and have recently broken up with, barely talks to me anymore. Things ended suddenly between us and I was so hurt by him, I couldn't even look at him without wanting to cry. It's a tough choice, but if you think things will work out then go for it, but just prepare yourself for the aftermath.
i always think that work would be one of the many places you could meet somebody..so if you do meet someone and date them..i don't see the big deal.