Miss Polar Bear Interventions are apparently for more than addictions now. TLC has a new show called "
This is Why You're Single", which gives off the vibe that being single may actually be
worse than a drug addiction. I awoke to this show this morning after falling asleep with the TV on and thought I was in a nightmare.
The show brings family and friends together to help out their "poor" single friend who just can't seem to find love. After tricking the friend into thinking they're on a show that just documents their love life, they're ambushed and told every single flaw they possess (hence the name, "This is Why You're Single"). But this victim/friend should fear not! For it is literally an intervention; they're going to get the help they need to not be sad, pathetic and single anymore. Phew, what a relief!
Are they serious? This is an actual show?
I knew being single felt like being a leper to some women, but should television really play this up? I suppose with so many dating shows, it's already been done. I understand everyone wants to find love, but a show like this is pushing the envelope. What if those people didn't care if they were single or not? Who says it's their flaws? What if they just simply haven't found someone they click with? Does this really merit an
intervention? Just let them be single!
I will never understand why it is such a big deal to not have a significant other. Then, if you enjoy being single, people think there must be something wrong with you. Shows like The Bachelor, Rock of Love, and now this monstrosity of a show make it seem like if you're single and happy with it, you need to be on these shows or you're not right in the head. Find love! If you can't find it, they'll help you! You're not complete without someone by your side!
TLC, I'm disappointed in you. Save the interventions for the people who
really need them (and that doesn't include your single cousin).
Have you seen this show? What do you think of the stigma against single people? If you're single, are you happy? Would you like an intervention of your own to help your dating life?
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I have never seen or even heard of this show before (since I don't have cable at home). But now that I've heard about it, I could not be more pissed right now. Whoever created this show should be shot. Right now.
I'm single and I love it. Right now, I really need to take the time for myself to sort some things out, as well as learn more about myself, so I'd resent it if someone tried to intervene on this.
I think the stigma is really rooted in the fact that some people cannot think that being single is a good thing. They'd rather be in a bad relationship than take the risk to be alone. It means you actually have to stand on your own two feet, and that idea can scare a lot of people
Shows like this, in my opinion, really just further what I think is a big problem in society - the idea you should measure up to what everyone else has. It's a bad lesson to teach because some completely overlook the fact they really need the mental break. We disregard the fact that different people work in different ways.
omg!!! what kind of show is this!! lol..i wanna watch..dont think its in m'sia yet..
i am single and happy!! and no i do not want an intervention..lol.. i think if its meant to be it will come..xP
Wow, that sounds like a ridiculous show. But then again, half the shows on tv these days are absolute crap.
I haven't been single for four years, but before I started dating my boyfriend, I loved being single. I never felt ashamed or depressed b/c I was single. That's just stupid.
But then I realized I loved my boyfriend more than I loved being single. :) But yeah, there's no stigma for being single.
i've seen those show. i do prefer being in love than single. but.. u can't tell others that.. i miss being in love right..
Never heard of that show. Sounds stupid.
I prefer being in a relationship, but being single isn't as bad as that show makes it out to be. I don't like the stigma that being single can sometimes conjure up. So while I wouldn't mine not being single, I am happy with my life in general (more or less).
How ridiculous. Never seen it, nor do I want to. I've always believed that you find love when you stop looking and my current boyfriend couldn't prove the statement more correct. I searched and searched trying to find someone who I could spend the rest of my life with. When I finally took the time to breathe and live a little bit, someone found ME. People shouldn't rush things. Nor should they sign up for shows like this. I'm sure half of the people participating on this show will now just feel worse that they know what their problems are. People will now change themselves to make people fall inlove with their "perfect" self. The person who falls in love with you should appreciate your flaws and reasons why it didn't work out with everyone else. Can't believe TV has come to this.
I don't like the way society makes single people look bad. There are a lot of singles out there who are actually content single, no exaggeration there. After undergoing through with so many relationship failtures, perhaps, remaining single is their utmost joyful route. It only gets better with a walk in Faith with God.
I haven't seen the show, but it sounds awful.
I admit I have my ups and downs in regards to being single (hello. It’s called humanity) but if it were possible to step back for a moment and broaden our perception of life we could easily see that it consist of far more than romantic consumption. In my assessment our approach (as a country) to this subject is directly fueled by our culture. We are a very “me” driven society. Not entirely a bad thing but has a tendency to skew the big picture.
We has humans are relational. We are built to need an outside source of validation. The problem is born when our consumption greatly outweighs our contribution.
Having some one bend over backwards for you and telling you how beautiful/funny/smart/(fill in the blank) you are or being that for some one is a right way of validating or being validated. The trick seems to be learning to give this (shall we call it love) with out demanding it be returned. Fulfillment is also found there.
SO about the show, it’s silly right along with what “anonymous” said. And dating I’m also with bluetrashcan on that one.
-E
Wow... That's news to me. I know people (friends, relatives) who chose to be single and they're happy for it. I'm single now and as much as I like the idea of being in a relationship, it's not like I'm deathly depressed and on the edge of suicide cuz of something like that... The show seems pointless, except for making people feel worse about themselves *just* because they're single. >_>
If someone tried that on me they wouldn't be able to show the footage anywhere but in court and then only after removing all of the spectators from the court room.
@mrcolorful
nice.
ehh.. its just like that show "Swan" or something, where they transform & dare I say mutilate people so they can become this beautiful "swan"??? It's sad, but true... there are SOME people who actually need this help. Besides, I'm sure the candidates are compensated one way or another for it.
that show sounds like it could do some real damage to a person. seriously, your family and friends telling you every single thing that's wrong with you? ouch. that hurts. TLC needs to cease and desist that foolishness at once.
i don't like that single people are looked down on. i'm a firm believer in "different strokes for different folks". some people think they're better off in a relationship than single and it seems like they can't go 2 days without a boo in their life. they say things like "ohmigaw i need a relationship so bad i just feel like my life is really missing something without one..." and no one looks at them like they're crazy. but let someone say "hey, i don't really feel like i need a relationship, i like being alone." they get stankfaced and cries of "what is wrong with you??" errr...nothing. i think there are some people who honestly weren't cut out for relationships, and that's okay. this whole "something must be wrong with you if you're single" mindset is so dated. society needs to let that go.
i prefer being in a relationship than single. although single life is fun. some people need help in not being single though. however i do think it's stupid to have it on national tv. cause than the person who's going through it must feel like a pathetic looser, and actually looks like one too. poor single person. but the main people to blame are the friends and family who turn their friend/ daughter..whatever in that show.
The should get all the producers of reality TV together on an island somewhere and then blow it up. That's one show I wouldn't want to miss.
@bluetrashcan@xanga - agreed wholeheartedly.
i am with someone now, and he is wonderful, but i was always a happy single person. i loved all the 'me' time hahaha
i think being single forces you to examine yourself and be more introspective...some people just don't like thinking too much on that sort of thing and need something else to focus their attention and energies on...and like you say, would rather be in a bad relationship than no relationship at all.
(don't get me wrong, i've often danced the fine line between introspective and self-absorbed, but the key to stay honest!) but i digress...
my sister always gave me crap about being single (which i have been for most of my university time) and sometimes it got me down...but i'm not one to settle for less than i deserve, or someone who doesn't deserve me, and neither should anyone else.
People are crazy nowadays.
Worst part is, is that people are probably madly in love with that show.
America's Motto:If it makes fun of people's flaws and then turns assimilates people to society, let's watch it!
Kinda wordy, but true.
I have never heard of such a show...this is absurd!
One of my reps believes that it is her duty to "find a good man" for me. Even though I say over and over "no, that's ok, I'm fine!" or "I can handle the guy situation on my own...if I want one!"
The thing is, if you complain about people trying to set you up, then the response is usually "well, they're just trying to help. They probably think that you're such a good/nice person and they don't understand why you're still single." Does it ever occur to the match-maker wanna-be that maybe you're single because you WANT to be?! Oh no, that could never be it!!
I'll step down off my soapbox now...this is a common rant in my life and one of my greatest pet peeves!
There's a stigma to being single? Where in the hell have I been lately.
Seems to me society is continually finding new "problems" so some folks feel like they have actually accomplished something in their pathetic lives.
I've never heard of the show...yet. And I do have TLC. It's a show that I wouldn't watch anyway. That's giving single people a stereotype. And I'm single and ok with it. I like being in a relationship but being single has given me a chance to find myself and make choices based on myself and not based on anyone else.
Sounds like "What Not to Wear" except for relationships...some people are hopelessly single and do need an intervention...just like some people have no fashion sense lol..