Monday, 01 December 2008
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Men Cut Spending on Mistresses: We're Definitely in a Financial Crisis
I read the funniest article in the Wall Street Journal about men cutting back spending on their mistresses. 191 individuals making $20 million or more were polled, two-thirds of whom were male and one-third of whom were female. The mentioned individuals admitted to having an extra-marital affair of at least a year.What's really interesting is that men cut spendings on their lovers, while women, for the most part, increased them. An expert explains this is because women and men deal with economic hardship differently: "For the women, lovers matter more than ever now because the rest of life is so dreary,” she said. “For the men, they’re just cutting across the board.”
I was not amused by this statement. Personally, I would turn to Chipotle or light comedies. The implication is that in times of hardship, women turn to men, whereas men don't turn to anything. It's a bit of a catch-22, because women need romance more but men need romance less.
Do you think that men and women have different and often conflicting ways of dealing with hardship?
Have you been cutting back on how much you spend on your BF/GF/crush, maybe in what you're spending on dates or on gifts this holiday season?
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to me... how much money is not a problem (considering the gift is affordable)
how much effort to choose/pick/make the gift for your partner is more important... getting the right gift is what I think I would spend time on
My boyfriend and I have decided to cut costs when we're together. We're starting to get more creative with dates instead of overspending.
I don't know about anyone else, but when there are hardships men tend to shut down in a sense that they get less vocal and silently stress, in a "I need to deal" with it way. The women on the other hand need to deal with the guy along with the hardship. It's a stupid how it works but that's seriously how it has always worked out for me, which in a way is really unfair.
To me, not really. One of the benefits of being a single guy is that I have so much money left over now that I was used to spending w/ my exes. I guess I'm used to being broke
Romance =\= money?
Sure, everyone loves getting things that hold vast amounts of monetary value, but equating romance to money just doesn't work for me.
To cut spending below limits I've already set for my SO would be to reduce the amount of time I spend with her. I can't do that. Being in an LDR changes things.
@lmflazyjai1984@xanga -I agree.
The key is to get something you know they will love.
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@JessxMaxine@xanga - that's right... and my girl said she wants me to get her something that she want (she'll tell me later) which make it even easier... No thinking involved... but I may add something to make it a surprise...
LOL that's a funny article, but i don't see how spending $$ on sex by multi-millionaires can be easily extrapolated into the way normal people spend $$ on romantic relationships/SO. they are two different things...
And so my mom wonders why I don't want a rich man.
Next time she teases me about that, I'm showing her that article lol
Hahaha! This originally said "mattresses."
@SeitekiChibiNeko@xanga - "i don't see how spending $$ on sex by multi-millionaires can be easily extrapolated into the way normal people spend $$ on romantic relationships/"
Its just another part of feminist's anti-male propaganda.
Funny/Sad article I must say. Sad because people would use the word "lover" or "love" around their mistresses and not on their spouse. So much for the whole "marriage" thing about loving the other person thru thick or thin, for richer or poorer, etc!
Back to the topic & questions: Sure, guys and girls definitely have conflicting ways of dealing with hardship. I personally think that women make decisions based on their emotions and men based on.... logistics. Despite hardships, women will still shop, maybe a lot less, but we still shop. PLUS, often times, its our lover that buys/pays for our spendings. Men are accustomed to spending money on the girl. So I'm not surprised that men will cut back on spending money on their mistresses and women will spend the same. (Because these women still got a sucker at home to pay for their shit)
I've been cutting back on spending $$ as far as dates/bf etc because my ex & I have broken up. I was the one w/ a job for 8 out of the 10 yrs we were together so I'd spend a lot of money on gifts, etc. Although I've cut back on spending $ on him, I have not cut back spending on myself. I've been traveling a lot more (despite the financial crisis).
It is true that times are hard financially with everyone. However, gift giving isn't about the "amount" you spend. It's the thought. There are really a lot of selfish people out there. There are people that don't have anything! My boyfriend and I have been cutting down on how much we spend as well. I think a love letter strategically placed is more romantic than something he went out and purchased. Loving someone isn't using your pocket book. It's using your mind and your heart.
@Adnilly@xanga - i agree with adnilly's assessment -- it's definitely spot on as far as how men and women handle problems differently. however, i don't think it's "unfair" that men tend to become less communicative in times of stress; that's their own way of dealing with it. i think it's a fundamental difference between how men and women handle pressure. what's unfair is when women think that we're blowing them off, ignoring them, and so forth and end up getting all bent out of shape about it, when in fact it's nothing personal -- it's just that a lot of men (myself included) prefer to handle problems on our own because we think we'll cause more strife if the girl notices that we're stressed out.
with the recession in full swing and bonuses expected to be down across the board, i've definitely been more selective about how i spend my money. however, usually it just means that i become more discriminating when it comes to personal discretionary purchases. i don't typically cut back on gifts for family, friends, girlfriends, and so forth. i have enough disposable income so that once i moderate spending on myself, i fortunately have enough resources to take care of others. that being said, when i'm shopping for gifts for other people, it never really enters my mind how much i spend on people -- i'm much more concerned about getting something that i think they'll find meaningful and special.
at the end of the day, i think the very nature of gift-giving has much more to do with the thought rather than the money, regardless of whether we're in a recession.
it'd be the around the same every year, with something that they like or love
"For the women, lovers matter more than ever now because the rest of life is so dreary,”
WTF~~ the rest of my life is dreary ?? HHmmm maybe they mean the rich men arent buying hookers as much an realizeing that their wives want a piece of the action also! SO they dont HAVE to hide that fact they want to expierence different people. We arent all
nuns ya know
I think we should be more concerned with these people's extra-marital affairs. Why do people marry someone if that person's not enough for them? I want to know how many people have on-going relationships on the side.
@lil_eric@xanga - use of girlfriends in the plural? how many do you have?
hahaha, oops. that was a typo. i'm a one-woman man....for real...
I think men and women generally do have different spending habits, but not conflicting. I didn't see conflict at all there. I think that men and women generally have different perspectives on everything -- from spending, to identifying conflicts, perhaps!
yes. ways of dealing with hardship are definitely conflicting.
She already got it all there's nothing more to spend !!
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