Jackie, this girl I once dated, told me it's easy to tell when a guy isn't over his ex by the way he describes her after the breakup. She said if the guy talks trash about her, saying it was her fault for the breakup and she was this mean, arrogant bitch, then it means he still has feelings for her. But if a guy can talk about all her good qualities, even after a nasty breakup, then it means he's over her.
Somehow Jackie was reading me like a book, telling me the truth and breaking up with me, all at the same time without the yelling or complaining. She knew something about me that I didn't care to pay attention to.
I couldn't help wonder why she said those words to me. My ex (and my first serious girlfriend, too) was a pain in the ass. I needed someone to blame for my heartaches and pains, so I dumped it all on her. The problem with that was I couldn't keep it to myself. I let Jackie know when she asked about my ex.
That was a big mistake. She knew right away I wasn't over my ex and was using the blame game to hide my real feelings. Of course, things didn't pan out the way I wanted to. I still did have feelings for my ex and wanted to get her back but it didn't work out as planned. I did learn a very valuable lesson, though: you can either talk nicely about your ex to a new girlfriend because you've truly moved on or lie your ass off while trying to move on.
Do you agree that it's easy to tell if a guy is over her ex by the way he describes her after the breakup? Do you talk trash about your ex if your significant other asks?