Tuesday, 25 November 2008
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Going to the Movies Alone: Pathetic or Brave?
Mr. GiraffeAs a movie buff, I have no problem seeing a movie alone. Sometimes I'll pick a movie that no one wants to see or I'll be in a mood for a movie and my friends just aren't available. I know a few people who can go to the theater alone and all of them are movie aficionados as well.
Non-movie-lovers tend to have one of two thoughts about solo movie outings: a.) it makes you look pathetic and lonely or b.) it makes you look brave for confronting the fear our culture has of being alone.
Personally, I think both of these ideas are invalid. The cinema hall is a social setting, but you're not there to socialize. Sure, I may whisper some comments to a friend but I'm not having long heart-to-hearts with anyone while the movie is playing.
Also, who's watching and judging you? Nobody cares about what other people are doing! Even if people are judging you, they won't tell you so there's no harm done...and if they do tell you, eff that drama. Roll your eyes and walk away.
But those are just my thoughts. What do you think about going to a movie alone? Do you like going places by yourself even if you're in a relationship?
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I've done the movie-by-myself thing before. And it didn't feel barve or pathetic...it just felt like I was going to a movie. It was kinda fun, actually. So I don't get what the big deal is, myself...
-Katie
I normally go to movies with my fiance or friends, but if I really want to see a movie I will go by myself. I don't really think it makes you look brave or pathetic. I never notice if people come into the movies alone or not. I'm there for the movie not to judge people.
haha over the summer i ate 90%+ of my meals alone (at restaurants), and yet could never muster up the balls to go see dark knight by myself.
I've never went to a movie by myself....
But I have went out to eat alone plenty of times and shopping, it doesn't bother me, sometimes I prefer to just do things alone.....even in relationships I need my "me time"
I don't really pay attention to people in the movies by themselves. I usually tend to think that someone is coming to meet them/at the concession/in the bathroom. I dunno why, but my mind always jumps there. Wouldn't matter anyways, though
I have no problem seeing a movie by myself, in fact I just went to see Twilight alone and had to put up with all the stares of teenage girls gawking at me as I sat in between them all by my lonesome. They were probably just secretly attracted to my security and confidence in going to a movie like THAT alone, but either way, I see nothing wrong with it. Movies are a great experience no matter who you see them with, and going alone is fine as long as you're secure within yourself.
Personally, I'd rather go watch a movie with at least one other person just because it makes me feel more comfortable knowing that someone is there with me... but I definitely don't judge anyone that goes to the movies alone. What's there to judge? I have friends that have done it and it's really not a big deal. If someone has that strong of an opinion about seeing someone go to the movies alone, then honestly, they're the pathetic ones.
I've gone to the movies myself
it was okay. ha.
Expecially since i got no one next to me bugging me. :P
but then again, it would be nice to talk to someone about the movie afterwords.
It's weird; it shouldn't matter if you go to the movies by yourself or not because it's dark and you're suppose to be quiet anyways. However, I still would rather go with someone instead of going by myself. I think I've done it one time, and it was just an odd feeling.
Going to the movies by yourself is a whole lot better than going to eat at a restaurant by yourself. It's crazy boring, even with reading material.
Never went to a movie alone, not because I'm afraid I'll look pathetic, but just because I don't trust going alone xD So I don't plan on going alone if I'm in a relationship or not.
If I ever did it's just because I was really desperate and bored. Not that I was afraid or brave.
I go to the movies solo all the time! If I am feeling a movie night, I will go and see my movie! Go forth and watch your movie!!!!
I go by myself all the time. I went to Twilight by myself, even. It helps me concentrate on the movie more - plus I'm not constantly looking at my friends to see if they like it or not. Yeah.
I don't think either of those things. I just think it's dumb. If you're just going to watch a movie by yourself, stream it off the internet.
I went and saw "Sex and the City" alone because nobody wanted to see it with me. And you know...I thought it was one of the coolest things I have ever done because I confronted my fear of being alone. In fact, not only did I see "SATC" but I also treated myself to dinner. Essentially, I took myself out on a date and, as pathetic as it might sound to some people reading this, it was the best date I ever went on. :)Â
I think it's okay to go out alone and do thing alone. It's not like we a 'fuse' together, LOL
Im kinda a massive anti-social person. Thus i play games online most of the time because if someone should really piss me online i can always mute them and shoot them in the head.
Every once in a great while when the planets align ill see a movie that really interests me (the last one was Horton Hears a Who) and ill go see it by myself. While i may like a movie for its content the whole time im there i cant shake the feeling of lonlyness. This is more of a person-to-person thing though. Sure i used to have friends but then i moved and keeping up with people just became a chore. I could always go see it with a girlfriend but i dont have one and im not really looking at the moment. Though depending on the movie you watch it could be really nice to have someone next to you to cuddle with/cling to while pissing your pants with terror. (in the case of some horror flicks)
Overall im just not that big a movie buff.
I'm not a big movie person but I like going out by myself.. I like having that time to reflect & just have some me time. I'm always up for exploring new places, whether with my boyfriend, friends, or just by myself. :)
I don't think anyone cares whether or not you're with someone at the movies; they'll be too busy watching the movie. They may notice, but it's not like they'll throw popcorn at you and point at you.
I'd like to go places alone sometimes even when I'm in a relationship. It's nice to have a little "me" time.
i went to go watch a movie by myself once, and i'm not a hardcore movie person, either. it was actually not that bad. i felt that i was able to REALLY enjoy the movie and concentrate on the plot.
I used to go to the theater by myself all the time. It saved me the hassle of trying to find someone who also wanted to see the same show. These days, thanks to the prices, I just watch 'em online..
i was 18 before i ever ate alone in a restaurant by myself and i think i was dating someone at the time. it was moes southwest so it wasnt that awkward of a setting. i still have yet to see a movie by myself but i have showed up at shows and other places alone. id prefer to go with others just because its nice to share experiences and to talk during the experience. eating is definitely a social thing.
i think it can be lonely and brave at the same time. doing things alone and having it be categorized is very situational. sometimes people want to go alone (i like shopping by myself) and others want company but arent able to.
I agree with you, OP.
One of the very best times I spent at the movie theater was when I was the only person in a showing of TMNT (the animated Ninja Turtle film that came out last year). I was free to laugh as loud as I wanted and react completely as if I was at home, but had the advantage of the huge screen and sound system of the theater. :D
I honestly have no opinion on the matter. I don't consider it brave because I do plenty of facing our cultural fear of being alone - I go out and wander the in public places alone, I go to the beach alone, I go to parks alone, I pretty much can do everything alone - but I'm not much of a movie guy, so I usually only find myself at the theater when I'm being dragged there by someone else.
I like going places alone. That's one of the things I miss about my current situation. I'd agree that going to a movie alone is really neither extreme - and I'm not a movie buff. I feel similarly about going out to dinner alone. Maybe the braveness of it stems from the idea (fact?) that most people feel too uncomfortable to go places or just be with themselves?
i'd say brave