In one of his funniest comedy sketches, Dane Cook explains the difference between a girls' night out and a guys' night out. Girls go clubbing to dance. Guys go clubbing to pick up girls. What ensues is an ugly battle.
"Do you ever hear a guy go, 'Michael; hey Michael! Screw girls, man! I just want to dance. I just want to express myself through the art of dance.'"
Yeah, I've never heard a guy say this, but girls actually
do just want to dance. It's kind of frustrating when we have a girls' night out, and we end up getting attacked the minute we hit the dance floor. There are also all the random guys who don't dance but creepily skulk about in the corner.
It's really hard to find someone decent at a club, mainly because the music is so loud that you can't hear yourself think, let alone talk to someone else. There's also the problem of really poor lighting. Does anyone actually go to a club to pick people up? No. That's why it makes sense that girls usually go out just to dance.
So, have you met someone at a club that you ended up having a legitimate relationship with? Do you think clubs are a good place to meet people?
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GAHH!!!! That's how I met my current boyfriend. I was drunk off my butt and dancing at a club. It's actually pretty odd that we met there...I almost never go there, and neither does he, but we both ended up going there that night.
I dunno how often that happens, though.
haha guys go to clubs because they want to "spit their game". ... and yes, girls just want to dance and get their groove on with their friends. i think meeting someone or hooking up with someone at the club SHOULDNT be expected, if it happens, its usually by chance. maybe a wingman is bored by the bar, drinking by himself, waiting for time to pass and the wingwoman happens to ditch the ugly friend of the guy that her gf is dancing with to sneak into the bathroom... and bam! wingman meets wingwoman.
it's like going to vegas. dont gamble and EXPECT to win. the more you want to win, the more you'll lose. when you gamble for FUN, you usually come up. i dont know how that theory works, but it somehow makes sense.
no and maybe
Um ... No. I find it funny because I wrote a post called "what is it
to be a man". I also got into a slight argument with my boyfriend
because of a post I wrote yesterday. I ended up deleting it, which
bumms me out.
i've met someone at a club that was a total asshole, the typical player. but I've also met a practical prince at a club. so it depends.
my first and last club experience was freshman year of college right at the beginning for my suitemates 18th birthday. omg it was horrid. me and this girl got night at the roxbury'ed. aka... two guys - one behind me, one behind her, came up to us and started dancing and pushing us together. i grabbed her hand and peaced out. they are so sketch. thats one of the last places id ever want to meet someone.
lol. I thought clubs were for people that wanted to dance AND meet other people. Dance, then talk... whichever order. oh yeah. there is drinking too.
I think its easier to meet people in settings where you can actually converse with them without the noise and flashing lights.... well personal preference because I can't stand flashy strobe lights- hurts my eyes. Hard to talk to someone when you can't hear them.
HELL NO IT'S NOT A GOOD PLACE TO MEET A LEGIT BF/GF. lol, however, it is a GREAT PLACE TO MEET PEOPLE =] socialize !! have fun!! dance the night awayy
actually my bf and i got together through clubbing lol.. but we met each other before so maybe thats why... clubbing definitely facilitated the "chasing" process for the guy though.. my bf kissed me when he was drunk.. he told me after that even tho he already liked me before, he wouldnt have the courage to do it if he was sober lol.
overall i dont think the club is a good place to meet somebody new. u never know who ure gonna end up with.. plus a lot of the guys there r sleazy. personally when i go out with my gfs, my sole goal is to dance and have fun with my girls... i know wat u mean when u get attacked the first minute u hit the dance floor... its frustrating
No, bars are better.
Oddly enough I do only go clubbing to dance, not to pick up girls. I would say at the moment I love dancing more than I would love to hook up with someone or have a girlfriend.
A club is not a good place to meet someone. I go to clubs to dance and de-stress. I don't mind dancing with guys, but there should be no expectation of anything other than a dance. There will be no "hooking up" or anything leading to a relationship with anyone I meet at a club.
I personally don't think that a club would be the best place to find someone. At least for my tastes, that would be one of the last places I'd go to find a guy. I think it all depends on lifestyle, and clubbing just isn't a key factor in mine. I think it's possible to find someone in an environment like that, but I don't think it is a good predictor of what the person is like or even will be like if a relationship were to follow.
I'm hard-pressed to believe it. You simply go clubbing to dance, eh?
So, then, tell me: why apply so much makeup? Why wear skimpy outfits and revealing (appealing) clothing? Why perfume yourself past the point of hygiene?
Like I said, I'm hard-pressed to believe that "to go dancing with my friends!" is really your only reason.
Why not simply dance out in the streets? At your home, with your friends, in a sleepover? Why must this "dancing with mah friends" take place in a bar, where there's alcohol, loud music and, most importantly, single club-hunting guys?
Sorry to say, I don't believe you. Or, actually, I do. I believe you. I trust you like I trust Holden Caufield.
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LMAO there is always those creepers who like lean on the wall and there usually ugly :P
@eyesochinky@xanga - yes! the wingman and the wingwoman are always the only attractive ones, and they usually don't go for anyone unless they're really bored. why is that? lol
@The_Fallen_Eight@xanga - love the literary references -- you're my kind of person. can i look nice for myself? or do i really want to impress strangers i'll never see again? also, how many friends' houses do you know that have a dj, multiple dance levels and lounges, bars, crazy music, etc etc? clubs are fun for that reason, not for the reasons you suggest.
All the men in the club should take heed to this parody and stop being such groove-deficient- wall flowers .
We girls can dance if we want to
We will leave you boys behind
Because if you can’t dance or if you won’t dance
You’ll be going home alone tonight
dane cook is funny. it's natural for guys to hit on girls at a club because of the way they move and also the connotations behind "clubbing". if you want to just dance, you might try finding a dance club, like how they have ballroom dancing clubs, they also have freestyle and hip hop dance clubs as well.
Guys don't go to clubs to dance with other guys, so yes, we're going to "attack" you on the dance floor. It's a club, what did you expect. Would you rather have all the guys line up against the walls and watch you and your girlfriends dance? Complaining about what goes on in a club is like me complaining funerals are too quiet. It's stupid and I wouldn't expect anyone to take me seriously.
There are gay clubs if you're particular about the crowd interaction.
Actually, I met my current boyfriend in a club, and we've been together for ten months.
I will admit that in general clubs are probably not the best place to meet guys, but I ended up with an amazing relationship.
And, hey, if you're out for a girl's night, just tell the guys to back the hell off. You don't have to dance with them!
@jewjewbeedragon@xanga - Aw! That's crazy, I think that everyone has a right to express themselves how they like! Send the post through to me, I'll post it and give you the credit! XP
To the OP, I think it's sad that the situation you described is the most common scenario today. I think people should go out to have a good time and not have to deal with random strangers all the time. My fiancee and one of her friends had to pretend to be lesbians at one club in order to try and head off, in their words, "a little creepy ugly guy" who thought that he was hitting the jackpot of a threesome to end the night -_-
However, one of my soccer teammates met his now-wife at a club and eight-to-nine years later they are now happily married with their first child, so it can work out. More often than not though, relationships that started at clubs and bars and the like often end badly.
I think the best way to meet a decent significant other is through your circle of friends.
@FireYourBoss@xanga - and that kind of attitude is why many girls end up GOING to gay clubs - to escape men with attitudes like yours. What is wrong with going to a club to enjoy yourself and have a good time WITHOUT having to hit on everything in a skirt?
It's not a meat factory, and I may be generalizing, but rarely do I hear about girls wanting to go out and meet a guy when their planning their nights out. It's all about finding places that have the best clubs with the best music so they can get their groove on.
@The_Fallen_Eight@xanga - guys' perspective: it's usually accepted that girls dress to impress each other as much, if not more than, any random guys that they would happen to run into.
As for the location? It's at venues like these where they can kick their heels back, enjoy themselves with decent sound systems, large music selections and a safe(ish) area without having to worry about neighbors, or the mess left the morning after.
i must be a man or something, because i hate to dance at clubs. seriously. i'd just play pool in the corner or sit at the bar.