Tuesday, 25 November 2008
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Follow-Up - "I Want A Threesome Or I'm Done with You"
This is a follow-up by the author of this post.
I've gotten a lot of feedback on the post regarding my boyfriend wanting a threesome. I would like to emphasize some things a little better. I am NOT going to "drop his ass," the reason being because this is our ONLY problem in the relationship. We both have some insecurities. He was in a relationship with a woman who was totally unable to express herself sexually. Then he met me. I blew his mind! I am totally open when it comes to my sexuality. I enjoy sex, and I enjoy making it enjoyable for him as well.Now, when it comes to the threesome, he's always had envy with other things. I totally understand because I have too. We have had a talk recently regarding this issue and he is totally able to drop it and accept that "when it happens, it happens". He's expressed to me that he wasn't really frustrated with me; it was the fact that it was easier in my past than it is now. We have placed ads on internet sites for this particular situation but we haven't had any luck, so he was displacing his frustration. Please understand, he is a wonderful man! He is very compassionate and understanding. He just reached his breaking point.
Thank you to all who read my post and for your feedback. It was interesting to see that even males can see things from a female's perspective!
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Thanks for the update! Too many of these things seem to fall into obscurity after a little while.
I'm glad that you're able to communicate with each other and this is your only problem.
It sounds like it's something that is a little easier to address then many other problems that could develop in a relationship.
It could be that this is an "itch" that needs to be "scratched" in order for the both of you to get "relief".
Hope everything continues to work out for the two of you...
I hope I wasn't one of the people who told you to drop his ass or whatever. I think it is a good thing that you guys talked things over and there has been a compromise to some extent.
Thanks for the clarification and update. My response to your previous post would have turned out differently had I known this beforehand. My apologies.
Well, I think its pretty healthy that even a couple can come to a certain compromise, when it comes to sharing each others sexual hunger. You know? Good on your man for embracing your openness, and also not expecting too hard the situation.
This is probably why I may never ask for advice here. It's hard to with out knowing the whole story and people are quick to judge. I'm no exception.
K, sorry didn't read the part about him saying he was done with you. I think that's a little rash of him, but maybe he really really wants it to happen and he thinks saying it will be through will make it happen.
Well It seems like thats all he wants is sex which is like most guys. shoot im one of them lol but thats just every guys fantasy is to have 2 girls in one bed ....at the same time but is he will to have another guy in place of the girl? now thats the real question. I personally myself dont see my gf as often as i like but its diff schedules i guess. trying asking him about mmf instead of mff
@kvicks916@xanga - I don't think that's what they are looking for. In her post she said she has had threesomes in the past and he isn't. Also she's looking to fulfill HIS fantasy, not yours.
good to know you got it worked out.
Thanks for letting us know.
I wasn't around for your first post, but I wanted to wish you luck with everything. :)
i'm sorry, but a threesome is a one way road to the end of any good relationship.
well i hope it works for ya... =)
good luck!!
I just read both posts. I can understand his frustrations. I mean, I think more like a guy when it comes to sex, I think. I am the guy in bed when it comes to the relationship I am in. Of course it wasn't like this before we got married, haha.
I am glad you guys were able to talk it out and make it work. Hopefully you can find what you're looking for. =)
Anyways, I'm glad he chilled out.
I always heard that you shouldnt have a threesome with someone you love? Oh well, each to their own.
But I'll say, if you two are so into having a threesome, it would have happened by now.
Xo
Drop his ass
wow, way to go.
@harmonyminusmelody@xanga - I totally agree. I think the idea is extremely unhealthy. Especially considering that they're "advertising" on the internet for a third. What the hell is wrong with people these days! Don't they care about their sexual HEALTH! There are so many diseases out there. Plus, bringing in a third person, especially a stranger is wrong. Sex can bring on obsessions and very unhealthy emotional attachments. Some people can seem "normal" at first appearances, but turn out to be complete psychos. Plus, what if this third person got pregnant by the boyfriend? No birth control method (besides a hysterectomy) is 100% fail-proof.
I'm not some crazy Christian either. I'm an atheist. But I still think this is wrong for MANY reasons.
@XXVl@xanga - lol :P
@Annalovesjustin@xanga - who cares if you think it's wrong?