This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.Brownie and I love each other very much. He is one-of-a-kind of guy - he wants to be the best boyfriend he could ever be and he is everything that I am looking for. He is the FIRST guy that my sister has ever approved of. And he plans on making our relationship "official" when he comes home from studying abroad. (By official, I mean that we get the boyfriend/girlfriend title.)
Brownie recently got sick and he took some NyQuil last night. Before he went to bed, he said something that caught me off guard. Here's the conversation...we were talking about his meeting my great aunt at a family function a while ago.
he says: have i met family from your mom's side?
I say: yes
he says: i like your great aunt
I say: she's pretty cool
he says: she actually talked to me!
I say: hehe, i think she likes you too =)
he says: weird huh?
he says: maybe she realizes that im gonna be her future nephew in law
I say: what? O.o
he says: i mean
he says: LOL
he says: nevermind
I say: future nephew in law? :P
he says: these drugs are making me feel funny
We are in our early twenties. I am in my third year of college and he is graduating soon. I don't know if it's too early for us to be thinking about marriage - even if we're at the age that anything is possible.
I'm just wondering if guys tend to spill things out like this accidentally, especially for something that could possibly mean commitment? Do you think it was really the drugs or was there some kind of hidden meaning? It seems to me that he was trying to hide what he said earlier or that he didn't mean it that way.
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My boyfriend has these weird spurts sometimes where he leaves me messages of him confessing his love. So I dunno. I think it's cute when it happens like on the spot.
the drugs were probably what gave him the loose tongue... but you dont say things like that without some hidden (in this case not so hidden) message.
omg my bf does this all the time and it irritates me cuz he's just not the type of person i'd want to marry... he's an awesome bf, tho.
Most of the guys that I've dated have expressed a desire to marry me one day, even on a first date.
I used to find this creepy, but then I realized that when I was dating someone, i had the same hopes. Otherwise, why waste time?
Of course, I won't tell a guy that I want to marry him when we start dating, but if he tells me, it doesn't scare me or push me away.
It could be the drugs or it could be what he means or both. Or it could mean he wants to be long term with you. Or admitting he has strong feelings for you.
I had a guy who did that to me, but he'd do it often and purposefully. I think he meant it kind of jesting but at the same time admitting that he liked me.
Yeah, I think stuff like that tends to come out accidentally more so than on purpose. It sounds wonderful! Congrats!!!
i think he's a smart guy. why exclusively date someone you couldn't see yourself marrying, or had no desire to marry? if he didn't see a future with you, that would be a concern to worry about. it doesn't have to get soooo serious, if that's something you are worried about, but i think that comment reveals that he's not playing games and is in it for a clear purpose, even if it doesn't get that far.
It's pretty cute. Just smile and don't take it too seriously!
don't think about it too much.. you're getting ahead of yourself.
i think he was kidding and being a bit serious at the same time :)
NyQuil, psh. I'm more awake on that (that's can't be good).
He's not feeling the "power" of the drug. He's using it as an excuse to confess his feelings without fear. The so-called 'effects' of an 'interference' makes him feel like he can say things and get away with it if it turns out bad.
It's like how some people think beer will always help them pick up girls.
...about the beer thing...I'm underage, so don't quote me on that. I just think that self-confidence gets more girls than alcohol will ever.
To answer your first question, no...
After reading your blog, I knew exactly what was going through his mind...
He knew what he was doing and at the same time, he would have a viable excuse...
I'm not saying it was planned, but at the same time, it was an opportunity to see where you stood...
I don't think he's taking drugs, and he seems to be really committed to you.
in my opinion, he wants to see how you'd respond to that. if your response is somewhat negative, he'll try to say it was supposed to be a joke.
lol!! Well that probably wasn't accidental. I know what you mean though I've had guys say things to me and then act like they said it accidently...but girls arent dumb.
He probably wants to marry you and just let it slip out (purposely) to get you thinking about it. or maybe he just wanted to be cute and bring a smile to your face
well, i don't drop hints, and i don't have any problems with confessing my feelings (although i'm very careful with whom i disclose them to).
@TAlexaander@xanga - word. ^^b heh true, at least for some people.
woah
that's so cool! maybe he likes you but it's still young for you guys to get married. Maybe you guys can get married at at least 29/30. Don't worry :> I'll pray for you 2 to get married soon. =))
@TAlexaander@xanga - Awesome, I like that quote. :)
@monomial13@xanga - My dear, we love each other very much, haha. Thank you for your prayers! =)
I know just last night I told a girl that I have liked her for a really long time on accident. The joys of a little liquid/pill form courage. Because even drunk/on pills/tired we know that we can tell you and if you react badly that we can just blame it on whatever we're on. But if you do react positively then we told you and you reacted the way we wanted to.
haha yeah. Your Welcome TAlexaander
I don't know what it is with people getting into a relationship if you're not even sure you want to get married. Making it bf/gf means, to me, that you have intentions toward that but haven't made it official by engagement yet. Have you not talked about dealbreaker situations yet? That's just asking for heartbreak, it seems to me.