This is a guest blog submitted by wuwu.There's a cute guy in my class.. but alas, I am confined by the bars of taken-hood. Regardless, it's probably better this way; mixing academics with romance is a bad idea. When my boyfriend and I took a political science class together last year, we were coincidentally put in the same discussion and THEN into the same group. It was a small group consisting of us two and another guy. I wonder if the other guy ever knew we had a thing going on. If I were him and knew, I would've felt extremely awkward. We did break up during that quarter and seeing him in both class and discussion (and group meetings!) was just too weird for words.
Eventually, we did patch things up and we've been good since then; however, there is a class next quarter that we both plan to take. We've both sworn not to tell each other which discussion we plan to take because I don't want to have that in mind when I pick out my classes. It might sway me to pick it because the idea of spending more time with someone you admire is appealing at first.. but if things go sour, it's just horrible. I'm iffy about taking the same classes with him.
What do you think about taking classes with your significant other? I suppose it's the precursor to working together
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Yeah, I never had a class with a guy I liked. I think it should be kept that way. Especially if he's your boyfriend. It would be so distracting. And then study time together would just turn into study breaks every two seconds :D
I agree with ppl getting distracted because if u see ur boyfriend or girlfriend you would only think nice things or just would want to talk to him...so i guess it depends on how the guy and girl would do since they are in a class together..mostly they would sit together..so it depends on each other in my opinion
it can go both ways (both studying or working or volunteering together.) If you can NOT let the relationship get in the way of your commitment (ie volunteering) then by all means, go ahead. But if a fight the previous night will affect things at work or school the next day (which it would for me!!) then it's probably not a very good idea... i've had my own horror stories about this.
My boyfriend & I were different majors in college so we never had a chance to take classes together. I had a really intense schedule for all four years that only allowed me space for 1 elective [I was an education major -- dual degree] & I chose to use it on Chinese calligraphy rather than another math or possibly an econ class. I did have to take a few courses for my math concentration. However, my boyfriend was an econ major & had taken the math courses I signed up for two years before I had to take them.
We did take a similar course around the same time [statistics] & I ended up breaking out my notebook to tutor him on the subject right before his finals. :P It wasn't so bad.. it was actually kind of fun & a cute way to spend time together. [Wow.. that made me sound so nerd.] I also spent finals week with him helping him learn his material so I guess you could say in a sense, I did take some "courses" with him 'cause I had to learn it myself as well. I don't think working with my boyfriend would be a bad thing 'cause we get along pretty well & I am able to pull away from the distraction of him being nearby... then again, who knows what will happen when it's the real thing. :)
TSK! i'm in that same situation, ...it's alright so far.
I never took any classes with my boyfriend for that specific reason.
I actually got serious with someone from my math class last semester. One day he asked me to lunch, I said yes and we hit it off really well. About a month later though, things didn't work out and we still had math together for the rest of the semester. We both weren't sure of how to deal so it got a bit awkward. I definitely don't recommend taking a class with your SO or going out with someone in your class in the middle of the semester.
I think it would be a huge distraction for me. and I dont think i could be able to have a social life at school outside of him if he were taking classes with me.
Well.
If i had a choice i would def rather not date someone who I see on a daily basis. Sure its nice to be with your significant someone almost half of your time with all the classes and assignment etc . But when things get rough its kinda hard having to face them especially when it gets in the way of your studies. You wont be able to concentrate well if anything goes wrong and worse there's pretty much nothing you can do about it expect changin classes which is a pretty desperate measure.
And even if all does go well, you'd still be spendin almost every minute with that person. Absence DOES make the heart grow fonder.
Taking a couple like 1-2 classes together is okay but every class together would probably create problems... If your getting to the point where you have to actually think avoid the discussion if he's in it then thats really not good.. If you're going to be with someone seeing them is a bonus not a burden. I know next year if I get some classes with my gf it'll be great but I'm not going to revolve my schedule around classes with her, if anything I'd just try to get 1-2 together.
My bf and I live together and will have at least one class together in the fall. Its a math class and he's been out of school for a few years so I think it'll be nice because I can help him and Calculus is boring so he will make it more interesting.
He is very competitive so I'm a little worried about how he'll feel if I do better on a test or something like that, but since he's been out of college for a while, I think he expects me to do better.
@IReallyReallyTry@xanga -
Also, we've been together for over 3 years, so our relationship isn't new at all. We are mature and we've worked at a job together in the past. So I think it totally depends on the individual situations. If you're in a new relationship its probably not a good idea. Also, I'd advise anyone to start slow. Try 1 class together and see how it goes before going full time together.
I am trying to remember if I ever dated a guy I went to school with. I don't think I did. Flirted with them a lot but no dating lol. I usually dated people from other schools. Plus in high school for some time I went to an all girl boarding school so that didn't help.
I almost took a class with my bf, but besides the fact that I could have spent 24/7 studying and still failed, he was brilliant and did pretty well without trying. So I decided against it. It was probably good for our relationship, because I would have gotten frustrated with him and depended on him too much. And then I would have been resentful of his brilliance and my stupidity.
I never took a class with my ex, but against my better judgment, I worked with him. BAD IDEA! I can't begin to tell you how irritating it was...(add in another girl trying to move in on him while I'm there and you've got yourself some serious work-suckage)
It depends on my SO's personality. If he's like really nerdy, then that could be a little intimidating if I don't do well, and so that could be distracting. If we don't have other disturbing factors/problems, then there shouldn't be a problem. That's just me.
I don't really talk to exes.
The last time I even had a class with my boyfriend was in high school, and we weren't even dating then, but I was completely in love with him and he stole my attention. Now that we are dating he doesn't attend the same university, but not for that reason, of course. It's messed up in a funny way, but if I was distracted by him before we dated, I'd be distracted by him now. And I need to graduate university on time! So I'm thankful he doesn't attend the same classes, but I'd love it if he were on my campus more often.
there is this couple who are in my law lectures
they sit together holding hands ALOT during lectures
and spend our breaks making out and then they go home and come back together the next day
Don't they need to breathe APART????!!!
Bad idea! Business and pleasure just do not mix. Unless you can guarantee thngs won't go sour, why take the risk? Hehe this applies to academics AND the actual workforce.
being in highschool we don't really have a choice, haha. i'm fortunate enough i don't have any classes with my boyfriend, it's honestly enough seeing him everyday between classes. not to mention he's really smart and so am i, but if he one ups me on a test he's sure not to let me forget for a minute or two. frankly, that's annoying and i'd probably snap at him in class.
I've never gone to school with a boyfriend I dated more than two days, so I just want him to be there. I see other girls with their boyfriends and I wish I had that. My bf lives in a different state though, so it's completely pointless hoping
I had a Storytelling class with an ex boyfriend (we were dating when the class was around). We both adored the class and our shared passions for the subject really gave the relationship a special spark. It was also wonderful because we got to see each other during school as well. And after-class kisses are cute! ;)
I was disappointed that I didn't have any classes with my boyfriend this year. We've had our breaks and whatnot, but it's never been "awkward" for us even when we had classes together in the past... *shrugs* I guess it's just different for different people.
He's since switched programs and I really do miss him in my classes. But we still meet up and have study sessions and help each other with work as much as we can.
I think someone said it first, it depends on the circumstances. If you end up in a serious relationship, it's the perfect time to hang out and get things done! Double whammy. Or, if you met in the program, then it helps even more.
my ex girlfriend and i had spanish together first semester last year and she wouldnt let me sit next to her because she said we wouldnt pay attention and i was like "hi, i'm an adult"