Dr. Datingish
I was 24 when I had my first kiss. I had wanted it to happen much, much sooner, but you can't always plan these things.
It should have been exciting. I was in a big, flashy, foreign city. I was just checking into my hotel room, and my then-boyfriend followed me in, and 30 seconds later, he kissed me.
On one hand, I was glad I finally knew what it was like. But most of me was thinking, "This is it? It's wet!" He asked if I liked it. I didn't want to offend him, so I said I did. But I didn't. It was wet. It was all I could think about. That, and wondering what on earth was wrong with me that I didn't like it.
I figured it would get better. It didn't. I continued to kiss him, but only because I felt I should. I really liked him at the time. And when he touched me when we were fooling around, I never knew anything could feel so amazing. But I never could get used to the kissing, and I felt terrible about it. We have since broken up. I have met someone else who is great. Someone I would eventually like to date. But I'm scared. What if I kiss him and all I can think is, "it's wet?" What if I'm as bad a kisser with him as I was with the other guy?
Is there a way I can learn to like kissing? And if I don't like kissing, does that mean I won't like sex when the time comes for that?
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Kissing goes up and down - honestly it's about the chemistry.
My ex was a bad kissed at the start of our relationship, but after i gave him tips, things only went up from there
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I've kissed quite a few people since those days... sometimes wet can be good whe it's done right. Too wet is disgusting.
Also if there was too much tounge and not enough lip, chances are you didn't like it. Out of the (blank) number of guys I've kissed, the best ones were the ones who knew not to shove their toungues down my throat.
Oh btw sex takes a bit of time to get used to because it's kinda uncomfortable and a bit painful like the first 3 or so times. It's nice though once you get the hang of it.
Practice makes perfect, lol
I don't particularly like having to sit to pee, but that's life. Suck it up. Ha. Literally. Or lick it up. Hmm or kiss it up. yeahh kiss it up, girlie.
Maybe the first guy sucked. Practise on the back of your hand
maybe... the problem was him, and not you?
My first kiss was not good, lol. I bit his tounge and he slobbered everywhere. It was just nasty.
It gets better, trust me!
I didn't like my first kiss either. It is something that takes time or until you've had that great kiss. I think kissing is truly intimate and engaging. I like it equally to sex. I believe once you have a great kiss you will enjoy kissing. So keep kissing! You'll get there!
You have to train him
My first kiss was terrible. My first boyfriend was an alright kisser. Second boyfriend was great at it. Now I get why some people like it so much
I totally think you just dated a bad kisser. That sucks that it was your first and now you are afraid that all will be bad. But rest assured, they are NOT!! My first kiss was TERRIBLE. As in, he literally missed my mouth and licked my chin. I didn't date him, but my next boyfriend showed me quick, fast, and in a hurry, that kissing could be WONDERFUL.
My current boyfriend is actully the only one ive enjoyed kissing. All the others we awkward and gross. Im not sure why, never figured it out. But im sure youll find someone who you too will enjoy kissing. Sometimes it just takes alot of bad ones to find a good one.
i was dating a guy who had such wet kisses that by the end of a makeup session, my face was completely wet and dripping, and it was so disgusting that i never saw him again.
I agree with the "bad kisser" comments. This guy definitely sounded passionate but not like he knew what he was doing (common). My first boyfriend was a horrible kisser, and at first I hated kissing--especially french kissing. I got used to it eventually, but still didn't really like it. My next boyfriend, however, was an amazing kisser. I was blown away the first time he kissed me. I was worried I would be a bad kisser, though, since I hadn't had any experience with anyone who knew what they were doing. And I was apparently a horrible kisser at first, as I later found out. But if you find someone who really cares about you (like I did) they'll be patient with you and eventually you'll learn. What I'm saying is, give it another shot.
Maybe he just sucks at kissing. I mean I love my boyfriends kissing but the guy I dated before sucked horribly ! This guy could be better or maybe he's a wet one too. It just all depends.
I really don't think kissing has anything at all a connection with Sex.
In my experience, women are better kissers than men.
I'm personally not a big fan of french kissing.
You probably just don't like sloppy kisses! Duh. You may like kisses... but not HIS kisses. You should initiate a kiss the way YOU want it. Maybe after a few times, he'll get it... if not.. *gulp* tell him he's a sloppy kisser?
lol, that's exactly what i thought my first time. i'd kiss my bf because he wanted to, but i reeeeally didn't like it :-p
then i had the good fortune of breaking up with him and meeting someone else. and oh. my. goodness.
when he's a good kisser, it's a completely different experience.
First of all, kissing is completely different from sex. Don't mix two different concepts. As for the kiss, it might have been that you're just one of those people that didn't like his kissing. It might sound weird, but maybe you should trying reading books about it. It might teach you a thing or two. Everyone is different, so don't take your reaction as an abnormality.
Just because someone is a bad kisser doesn't meant that you have to find someone else, surely?
Chances are he's just a bad kisser. I hated kissing my first boyfriend too. I actually broke up with him because of it and I thought I never wanted to kiss again. But my second boyfriend was an amazing kisser and now kissing is pretty much one of my favorite activities (when the person is decent).
But I don't think you as a person just don't like kissing. That seems highly unlikely to me. You just need to kiss a good kisser.
The first kiss I ever had, in a dark movie theatre, felt just like that..."sloppy and wet".
Then I realized it was because we both didn't know how to kiss (even if we were both 17, sad, I know). Over time, it progressed to better and it started working out as we practiced at it. the second guy, was amazing at it and i realized that was a "real kiss".
But some of my friends said the same exact thing about not liking it. i guess the guy was a sloppy kisser. guess that means you gotta lead the way and show him the action. :/
I think it all depends on the person you're kissing.
But I have to say I've been on the other end of this, and it really hurt my feelings that he didn't like kissing, and avoided it at all costs. Not that he was even good at it... I just wanted to kiss every now and then!
Wet kisses are a bad type of kiss. For any tips to prevent it yourself, I'd suggest not putting your entire mouth into theirs; hold back a little, so to speak. You want your mouth to have controlled movements, not to be sloshing all over the place. Make sure your tongue has a purpose in what it's doing if your kissing with it. Keep your mouth slightly open but not too much. A friend once recommended this to me and I think it's a good rule of thumb- open your mouth about the same amount as you would to say "hi."
@Angelina_Everlong@xanga - I agree. It definitely does differ from person to person on what they like. I once was told I was a bad kisser and the guy turned out to be a complete asshole, but he did help me a bit in seeing how to do it right. Though I do think he was a pretty bad kisser (for me), myself. I don't like having my tongue and lip bit! But some people do, I suppose.
i wish i remembered my first kiss. i used to be a big hoe and kissed whoever i wanted only if they wanted to. but i guess i had a lot of training in kissing lol. not trying to brag that im the best kisser. i might be but i might not be so idk. lol
but yea. my ex didnt like kissing much. she was like you in a way. when we finally had sex she loved it. at first she thought she was gonna be immature about it but she wasnt she was really grown about the whole situatuion.
but she didnt like kissing much. i still dont know why. maybe it was the reason you didnt like it.
but i agree. you were a victim of a bad kiss. lol.
trust me. itll get better! =]
If the kiss was wet, he was a bad kisser. Seriously. Don't judge all kisses by that...they can actually be enjoyable and not nearly as wet. I promise. Try it again--maybe you'll like it!
-Katie