Dr. Datingish
I was 24 when I had my first kiss. I had wanted it to happen much, much sooner, but you can't always plan these things.
It should have been exciting. I was in a big, flashy, foreign city. I was just checking into my hotel room, and my then-boyfriend followed me in, and 30 seconds later, he kissed me.
On one hand, I was glad I finally knew what it was like. But most of me was thinking, "This is it? It's wet!" He asked if I liked it. I didn't want to offend him, so I said I did. But I didn't. It was wet. It was all I could think about. That, and wondering what on earth was wrong with me that I didn't like it.
I figured it would get better. It didn't. I continued to kiss him, but only because I felt I should. I really liked him at the time. And when he touched me when we were fooling around, I never knew anything could feel so amazing. But I never could get used to the kissing, and I felt terrible about it. We have since broken up. I have met someone else who is great. Someone I would eventually like to date. But I'm scared. What if I kiss him and all I can think is, "it's wet?" What if I'm as bad a kisser with him as I was with the other guy?
Is there a way I can learn to like kissing? And if I don't like kissing, does that mean I won't like sex when the time comes for that?
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Comments (257)
to be honest with you, I find kissing boring. This is not to say I can't kiss or that guys I dated can't kiss.. quite the contrary.. I found it more exciting to go straight to other foreplay and then the main course..
I'm 31 and I've never kissed anyone but relatives in the general greeting sort. I've never liked it, and don't want to kiss anyone. It's slimy. There are far better places for lips to go =P~
it just takes time, for me i was told i was an amazing kisser the first time i kissed my boyfriend.
you just have to start out slow and follow there lead, dont try to shove your tougne down there throat....its a huge turnoff for the other person. ... i know this may seem weird but if you go on google and type in : Tips For Good Kissing, there is alot of helpful tips.
depending on the guy, all the guys ive been with love it when i bite there bottom lip, you may try that, i have yet to find a guy who disliked it.
well i wish u the best of luck, if u need any questions feel free to message me
-amber
i dun like kissing too, i felt uncomfortable, dunno why it happened twice =3, i guess i am not for a relationship after all, lol ^.^
my first kiss was in the 5th grade :l
but my first wet kiss was last yr. i was 17. I didn't know how it felt to kiss for the first time. I didn't know what I was doing. But it was fun. I think I'm a bad kisser. I don't know. <_<
but yea, the guy was probably a bad kisser. Hopefully its not his breathe that mad you dislike it. D:
*giggles* I was 21 1/2 when I had my first kiss. I had the same reaction...gross, that's it?! So I kept kissing him that night hoping it would get better...and it didn't. Well, several months later, I was hanging out with a guy I was dating and cuddling. His lips grazed mine, and we kissed each other--I didn't know anything so wonderful was possible! Amazing. I really love kissing now
I think it was a combination of bad kissing and of me not being ready. Things get better, dear!
I had my first kiss on December 13th.
I'm 19 years old.
I hadn't had a chance to kiss anyone prior, mind you. I was also treating my first kiss like my virginity ( which I still have, but it's irrelevant ) -- I wanted to save it for someone special.
I kind of like this guy, and he told me that he liked me.
I am very inexperienced with guys. Very inexperienced.
I had only held hands and hugged them before.
Anyways, we had been holding hands, cuddling ( which I hadn't done before either ) and what have you.
He had been wanting to kiss me for a while.
He told me this, and he had tried.
I wasn't ready.
Finally, I decided that I would.
I told him, and I suppose it took some of the romanticness out of it, planning it and all, but whatever.
I was so nervous.
We laid beside each other on my bed and cuddled for a while before I had the courage to bring my face near his.
Then it happened, and wow.
It was his first kiss as well.
I have to admit that I really enjoyed it.
It was wet, sure... but it was enjoyable.
I was scared that I wouldn't kiss him right.
I had actually read articles about how to kiss someone months prior. I knew that seeing and doing were two different things.
I have also heard from friends that it comes naturally.
It really did.
I'm sorry that your first kiss wasn't 'magical' or enjoyable.
I hope you get over your fear and just go with things.
Perhaps one day you'll enjoy it.