Tuesday, 18 November 2008
This is a guest blog submitted by charm1234.
A little less than 4 months ago I started dating this guy; we're both in our late 20s. I knew from a mutual friend that he had recently gotten out of a serious relationship (of about a year), but they hadn't lived in the same city for about four months. Knowing all of this when we started dating, I made the decision to not bring up his ex, ask him questions or discuss my ex and the baggage I carried. I wanted to approach our dating a different way than I usually do and avoid talking about emotions, expectations, etc. too soon.
We took things slow; he treated me great and things were going well. We were having a lot of fun...or so I thought.
He invited me to a wedding in which I would meet his parents. Three weeks before the wedding, he took me out to a nice dinner; afterward we walked to the subway while holding hands. Then as we parted ways he said, "I like you a lot, I have so much fun with you, but I'm just not ready for a serious relationship."
Without hesitating I said, "Okay, so we're breaking up?". He wanted to take a break and I said no; immediately what went into my head was that he was just trying to break it to me gently. And if I were to give him that break, more than likely, it wouldn't help all that much. He still wanted to hang out and asked if I would go to the wedding with him, but I said I didn't think that was a good idea. I just wanted to rip the bandaid off.
My question is, was he just letting me down gently? Or could he have been telling the truth - that he wasn't ready? I'm certainly not going to wait around for him, but I just wonder if I should offer up the idea of our possibly getting back together down the road.