Tuesday, 18 November 2008
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Is Love All It's Cracked Up to Be?
This is a guest blog submitted by sophia.I think a lot of the things in life are overrated, like school and political issues. Sometimes I think about the caveman days where they slept, ate, pooped, reproduced and just basically got through life one day at a time. Life was so simple compared to now.
Sometimes I wonder if love is overrated. I've never been in love and no matter how much I like someone, I always think, "Psh, this isn't love. I would know." But what if I'm expecting this wonderful and incredibly overwhelming feeling and it never happens? What if I'm always expecting more so that when I'm actually in love, I'll be like, "Huh. Okay," instead of "I can't live without you, boy"?
I don't want it to be overrated, and I want to believe in those pretty sappy, stupid love songs, and I want to believe in those sappy stupid romantic movies and think that that's what the future holds for me, too. But what if it's all an exaggeration and that's not really what people feel when they're in love? And what if those people who are in love are just making what they feel seem a whole lot bigger to the public just because "he's the sunshine I wake up to everyday" sounds better than "he's sweet"?
If you have been in love before, is love really all that it is hyped up to be? If you haven't, do you believe it will be?
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Love most definitely is everything it's cracked up to be. Unfortunately, loving someone opens you up to the risk of pain, but it's always worth it knowing that you loved.
Being in love is all that with a cherry on top.
Loving someone and being loved back feels much more grand than any other feeling in the world.
You'll know when you're in love, and you won't be disappointed!
Its the best feeling.. but it dosn't always last forever and than i say screw love i dont wanna go through this pain ever again.
The thing about those sappy love songs and maudlin movies is that there are people who wrote those and that's what they felt like when they were in love. So, yes, there is that feeling out there that love really is all that it is cracked up to be. You just may not have found it yet :)
Being in love with someone who's also in love with you is wonderful.
You'll know it when you find it. I've never been in love, but I still believe in it.
Love is absolutely everything it's cracked up to be. I feel like I waited a long time to find the right one (and my husband sure did, he's a lot older than me). It takes patience and openness. It takes repeated failed relationships. Some people don't want to go through all that. But it makes the experience of true love that much more worth it when you find it.
I think there's a big difference between being "in love" and loving someone. you can love anyone, but to actually be in love..idk its like a high, your in the moment and you can't picture yourself without that person. I've been in love twice personally, and its the best feeling.
okay, i dont kno bout whoeva else but wit me an my ex, we were goin on an off for 7 yrs. everytime we would split for wateva reason we would always end up comin bak 2gether because it was like we were the best match for each other. you understand that person, they understand you, and you put in work to be with them. she was my first real gurl an we got far but we both gotta grow up a lil so we see wat happens in the future.
Love isn't all it's cracked up to be...it's more. Words can't describe it, not even in the sappiest of love songs. It might take a while and no doubt you'll get hurt along the way but you'll find it and it'll all be worth it because being in love is worth going through hell to have it.
It's everything and more.
It's worth the search. It's worth the fight, the tears, the rollarcoaster of emotions. It's worth the hope that sometimes seems pointless. It's worth the heart break you endure until you finally find the right person.
It exists, and it exists in a grand form. Not all books, movies and songs are made off a romanticized view. Something that genuine and pure exists somewhere. To lose hope on something like that is sad. It's the only thing I want out of life.
Love is what it is hyped up to be. But thats not to say that love doesn't suck sometimes, or just get plain routine if you let it.
Love is like your favorite ride at the amusment park. You have a lot of anticipation built up for it. When you get on it, it can really be awesome! But if you get on it after eating too much you can puke on yourself and your friends. And if you get on it too many times than yes, it will get routine. And if the ride is broken, it can literally kill some people.
I've never really been in love. Dated, yes, had a long term relationship, yes. Honestly been in love, no. So I hope it will be all it's cracked up to be.
@TakingxOverxMe@xanga - This.
The best parts of my life so far has been when I was in love. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love!
Yes...love sure is something. Why do you think there's so many songs about it?
I think my advice to you would be to not have any expections on love. Love feels different for everyone, and if you're expecting a certain type of feeling from love, you're never going to actually experience it.
Love makes you do crazy things. It makes you hold on to someone when your mind tells you not to. It's a great feeling, it is. [: I definitely hope you find it soon!
Love isn't what it's always shown as. It's not overly romantic (most of the time) or always adorable. You don't always say the right things. Sure, sometimes things go great. You find yourself so lucky and so crazy about them. But, love isn't a walk in the park. It's a choice and it's tough.
But it's worth it.
Love feels great at the time, you'll know cause it makes you do the stupidest shit that you swore you'd never do. Love can be amazing, but then it ends and you feel worse than miserable. Sometimes its not worth the pain.
This is one of those good or bad things considering which situation you are in.... If you asked me 1 day ago, I would be happy to tell you that love is the greatest thing in the world and you would be so happy that you would not have a care in the world... But just today, I've been switched through to a totally different mood because of an argument my boyfriend and I shared.... Whether love is all it's cracked up to be depends on the circumstances at hand.... Because being loved and giving love could be the happiest thing in the world; however, on the other hand, it could also pain you so much that you may never want to love again.... But that's life... You are NEVER happy or unhappy forever, there are ups and downs in life and that's what makes life unpredicatable and livable.... If you could just be happy every single day for every minute, you may in fact lose the feeling of happiness since it's become such a normal part of your life..... All in all, I'd say that love can be all that it's cracked up to be when YOU WANT IT TO BE.....
So I am in love, and I have thought I have been in love and there is a big difference. Let me tell you, when you do fall in love it won't be like in the movies, or the music videos and songs you hear. I think you are expecting more than it really is. For one when I thought I was in love the first time it was really totally more of lust than anything. There wasn't mutal feelings and I didn't feel like I could spend the rest of my life with that person. He gave me butterflys in my stomache in the beginning but after that not much at all. So when I grew up and actually fell in love with someone I so the big difference. For one we are like bestfriends we have so much in common he makes me laugh, he treats me like a queen, and so on. There are mutal feelings I can feel that he loves me and that he cares and that he does want to spend time with me. When I was younger I thought love was what I would see on t.v and I often looked for that but it is media, and those love songs are mostly those words and feelings most people don't say to others in their face but how they feel in their heart. How do you know you love your family? Or individuals in your family is it just because they are family or do they make you feel a certain way? I know that when you do fall in love you will know, but so far from what you say I don't even think you have every been in lust with someone. And lust is a sort term strong overwhelming feeling that doesn't go really far.GOOD LUCK!
love is DEFINATELY not overrated.
the only thing that is overrated is saying that you love someone. people say it so much that the word "love" is losing it's meaning. kids that have been boyfriend and girlfriend for like 3 days tell each other they love them and that they wanna be with them forever. get real??? hahaha it's kind of funny but it happens a lot.
but anyway, to love, to be loved, and to be in love is not overrated at all.
In my point of view the word Love is tossed around A LOT these days! Love is pure bliss no matter what kind it is:Puppy Love or the real IN LOVE. It makes you feel like your heart will explode at every moment you talk about him/her and you can't wait to see them again the moment you say "good night"! But in the end it stings...and that's the reality of the situation so you have to enjoy every moment of it that you can!
Love is an amazing thing. Its better then any other feeling in the world. I would know, I was very depressed b4 and now I love someone who loves me too and I have never felt so wonderful and joyful in my life. Love is the motivation I have to live til the next day. Love is the best thing I have and I don't ever want to lose the feeling. If you havnt felt love yet, then you know it, its impossible to mistake it for another feeling. What some of the other commenters said is true, it opens you up to pain, but that risk of pain is always worth the joy you have when feeling love.
I hope you one day find love and know what I'm talking about.
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I apologize for spelling errors.
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I love you Kate!
Love is all that and more. :)