This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.So for the past couple of months, my boyfriend has been constantly asking me when my period's gonna come or if it's started already. I never answer him because not only is it a weird and gross question, it's not even his business anyway! I don't feel the need to share such private matters with anyone, let alone him.
My boyfriend is very very persistent and if he insists on knowing, he will find a way to get around to getting an answer. So I finally caved in one day and I asked him why on earth he needed to know. He replied, "I just want to know if your period has started so I can chill out and not worry whether you're pregnant or not."
Then he goes on to tell me all guys do this, too - that they ask their girlfriends this question on an occasional basis.
So ladies, do you feel the need to share this detail with your significant other? Guys, do you ask your girl about her monthly visitor?
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Not much of an issue...
So wait, let me get this straight. You've having sex with your boyfriend, but your period is too private a thing to even tell him when you're on it? Exactly how old are you?
Well, as I'm quite sexually active and live with my boyfriend - I think he can figure it out when the tampons come out of the closet and move into the medicine cabinet. Also, he won't be getting any.
I'm not ashamed or embarrassed to talk about it because it happens to every girl and eeeverybody knows it, but my boyfriend never asks - especially with that motivation in mind. That's just plain rude, if you ask me. He could be way more subtle about it, or better yet just talk to you instead of being a jerkface (no offense). Maybe he's just covering up for the fact that he doesn't know how to figure it out...?
But I do agree with the second comment - if you can't share something natural like this with him, you have bigger issues than what he thinks he needs to know.
It never really bothers me. If he knows my dilemma down there, he's less tempted to ask for anything haha
Sad but true. I do think it is your right to keep it disclosed. My bf asks for the same reason, cause even though we're safe, we're living proof accidents happen!
Good luck :)
Generally, women tell you this information without even being asked.
I'm not seeing anyone right now, but when I was, I let him know when I "wasn't pregnant". It never bothered me to tell him, and it never bothered him to ask (that I know of). Why does it freak you out so bad??
I ask only so I know when she will be feeling cranky and if I need to cheer her up.
theres no fooling around during that time so i tell him or he figures it out...
i dont think its so private that you cant tell your boyfriend when you're getting or have your period...
if you live together they will always phone when those products come out once a month in the bathroom other wise my husband and i openly talk about it. maybe if your not on birth control you should be if the two of you do not want babies and then maybe he would quit asking other wise i dont see the problem talking about it because they are the other half of you at least my husband is my other half.
I like how this pops up like 20 mins after I just mentioned something similar on the condoms post.
Anyways, imma say the same thing here. All healthy women get their period EVERY DAMN MONTH. We all learned this in sex ed. You're not hiding some big dark secret from the world. Get over it. It's not "weird and gross."
I don't go around announcing it to everyone, but if it's my bf, I feel that he has a right to know. I'm on the pill, and have never had a pregnancy scare, but still, if my guy asked if everything was normal, I'd reassure him that it is. If you guys are sexually active, then it's his business to know whether you're pregnant or not. If you can't handle him knowing you're gushing blood every once in awhile, then frankly I don't think you're mature enough to be having sex.
Besides, he's going to know you have your period when you can't have sex with him for a few days anyways. (Well you CAN, but it's messy lol) I mean what do you do, run away without an explanation if he touches you & you're on your period? Grow up.
I think that if you are comfortable enough to let your boyfriend be intimate with you in such a way that he should be worried about pregnancy, then I don't see why your period should be kept a secret. Obviously, you guys don't mind sharing in the joys of other bodily fluids. A period is a natural occurrence that all women go through, and sharing that with your boyfriend shouldn't be a huge deal...especially if he's already getting busy down there anyway.
I think he is justified in asking the question.
I always tell my boyfriend when I'm on. I know he wants to know so I save him the trouble of asking me. It eases his mind a bit to know there aren't any scary things going on and it let's him know what the terms are for the week. He's also very interested in all of my bodily functions for some reason...maybe it makes him feel closer to me.
Us guy do ask prob not every month like it sounds like he is doing butyou girls can tell us to bug off and guys if she tells you once you can figure it out for awhile I mean come on do you not have a mind of your own that works " DUH"
He doesn't even have to ask, when I get it he'll know. If your boyfriend keeps asking and you never give him a straight answer I can understand why he would keep asking since not knowing whether you're period was late or something was probably making him anxious. Just sayin'.
Haha. I feel like the guy doesn't need to know if I'm on my period or not, but I don't think it's quite a big issue either. So telling him's ok.
...I dont find that topic very hard to talk about it...= =;; it's not like it's a secret or anything..lol...
LOL it's not a big deal, and your bf is right, guys do think "pheewww! period=no babies"
my boyfriend is terrified of pregnancy and i know he always breathes a sigh of relief when i get my period. it's pretty obvious when i get my period (i sleep for about 10 extra hours) so he doesn't need to ask, but i'm sure he would ask otherwise. some of my friends don't even make their boyfriends ask...every month they tell their bfs "YES! BABY FREE AGAIN!" LOL we're a paranoid bunch since we're all on BC
If they ask I'll tell. Normally it'll just come up in conversation, "yeah I'm not pregnant." It puts both of us at ease. No one wants unexpected babies.
I have no problem letting him know about it. It's a natural thing and he has the right to know if he wants. I'm comfortable with letting him know.
I think he just wants to have sex in his mind.
I didn't read all of the above comments, but if you're having sex with him, you should be able to tell him if/when you're having your period.
"a weird and gross question"? Your period?
It's a natural process... it doesn't really sound like you're mature enough to be having sex if you can't even handle talking about your period. Some guys are conscious of the pregnancy issue, yeah.... but some are just curious. lighten up, maybe?
My boyfriend doesn't have to ask, he finds out when he's all over me and I have to tell him its no go. But my ex used to ask and used to be so relieved and happy when I told him I was on it because even though we used condoms there's still that small chance i could get pregnant and thats what he was afraid of.
uh no. i never asked but was told when it was. It's really a personal matter for the girl. It should really be up to you whether he knows or not. More of a privacy thing.
And he wants to know if you're preggers or not because of your period...hmmmmmmm
How long have you been together? I think once you've been together for a while there isn't really any problem with it.