Monday, 17 November 2008

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  • eyesochinky@xanga
  • raymondoo33@xanga

    6am to 9pm, 6 days a week is a crazy schedule. That better be one hell of an internship.

  • Hallelujah_Haptism@xanga

    Believe it or not there is always opportunities to form friendships unless you work, live, in complete solitary. If your around people at all, all it takes is making the first move. ANNNND you said you work 6 days sooo make the seventh worth something.

  • tony_asian_tiger@xanga

    Friend of a friend?  grocery store???  coffee house???  Your schedule is a killer, but there is still opportunity for you to meet people, like the day you don't work.

  • sorjai@xanga

    find a new job... I'm serious too. You work to live, not live to work. 

  • cc_cutie575@xanga

    well it's hard, work really gets in the way of everything, just thinking about how many things i can rather be doing makes me frustrated.. but money is important too. it's like you can't have some time for your life anymore without feeling guilty.. 

  • MustangSally04@xanga

    @sorjai@xanga - Agreed!


    Where in the world is this internship where you work over 80 hours a week!? I hope you're getting paid.


    Online dating is good, especially if you can check the site while you're at work.


    But yeah...time to find another job!

  • Roadlesstaken@xanga

    That's a crazy ass schedule there.  Hope the internship is worth it.  Honestly if I had that schedule, meeting people would probably be the least of my priorities haha.

    You could always go the online dating route.  Try OkCupid; don't get screwed into paying for those other sites.

  • MrsMok@xanga
  • hopelessromantic

    This is something I struggled with, as well. There's the usual bar/club scene, but that's usually more for hooking up (though I met my current SO at a bar). Parties and through friends are my best bets usually (not like being set up but just happening to meet them through friends when hanging out in groups).

    The other thing is that there are tons of ways to utilize the internet without actually participating in online dating (and you can make lots of new friends this way) - sites aimed at people with common interests where you meet up and do activities as a group. I refer you to my post here, where I listed some that I have heard of or have used to successfully make new friends (and in some cases meet people in a romantic sense).

  • kawasaki_saiyan@xanga

    at: sport drop-ins, volunteer events, the gym, friends' party, bank, restaurants..

    you could even try friends of friends, friends of co-workers, friends of friends of friends..

    there are opportunities everywhere..

  • TheNotoriousGOD@xanga

    forgive me if i'm wrong, but i assume you're in i-banking or some similar job.  my advice is that you learn your lesson now.  if you accept a full-time position as an analyst, you'll be stuck doing even longer weeks for the next 2 years (that means working that 7th day as well).  i'm sure you already knew that, but i thought i'd throw that out there anyway.


    about a month ago, some recruiters from a bulge bracket i-bank were at my campus.  one of them was the director of tech at the firm.  he said he was 32, but i could've sworn he looked like he was 45.  does that tell you enough? 


    for quite some time now i've been aiming to break into i-banking but lately i've been questioning if i really want to do it, and your post clearly explains why.  analysts have no friends or meals outside of work, and when they ARE outside of work, all you care about doing is sleeping.  but nevertheless i wish you the best of luck.

  • azn_passerby@xanga

    I know exactly what you're talking about and experiencing at the moment. I don't have as hectic of a work load as you but its getting there.

    Its hard, people don't realize but when you're so absorbed in u're work its hard to go meet new ppl as in college and such.  Also meeting new ppl the way they mentioned takes a very out going person so its not for everyone.

    Just hang in there, things will come

  • dreamerboi23@xanga

    I currently work two jobs.  My full time one 2-11 and my part time one usually weekend mornings.  I did it for the extra cash especially in this crappy economy. 

    My plan is to quit my part time one starting New Years Day (I know the perfect way to start the new year).  I am looking forward to it because of this reason.  Hard to meet people and so much time is taken up by working I haven't been able to run basic errands, and I typically pick up food while/before/after work instead of cooking which I use to enjoy doing. 

    My advice is to use are your options, try to stay friendly and meet people but also take advantage of Craigslist.  I say I have had quite a bit of negative experiences with CL but you got to try everything. 

    But meeting people online whether through CL, blogs etc is a lot more convenient than going out and "running" into people to meet.  But you got to do both.

  • Angelina_Everlong@xanga

    I have a hectic schedule too: work and school full time, full time orchestra member (it's like another unpaid job, haha) as well as household responsibilities, and my family!

    So far, I've been reconnecting with my friends who have moved away for college, and it has brought up a few people I never really knew well before.  Most of this is on the internet/phone/letters, but it works.  As far as meeting brand new people, that comes from whatever volunteer work I'm required to do at school.

    In your case, maybe ask a close friend to bring over some people for a dinner party one night or take you out with them?  It could be fun.

  • tofucubes@xanga

    if you're christian go to church you'll might meet some nice people there...

  • XxNoLifeKing_AlucardxX@xanga

    restaurants, diners...use that 7th day of the week lol at least an hour to do something social

  • Trigger821@xanga

    maybe this person is in the medical field...that would explain the long hrs and internship..

  • xhime@xanga

    Well...when you're not tired...try going out to the pub/club and picking up a guy there... > <;; Not that safe..but it's the most..easy? way to get to know more people..with your schedule...

  • MOJOJONO_X2@xanga
  • jlKauffman@xanga

    just wanted to say that I met my girfriend on xanga I work a pretty crazy scheduale my self And I was at work when we met

  • SupperMick@xanga

    Sometimes you just gotta go home, get dressed up, drink a redbull (maybe a shot of grey goose to get you loosened up. =p), and just head out to the local bar and start talking. Sleep is important, yes, but you'll have plenty of time for that when you're dead.

  • elittlebear@xanga

    Volunteering, taking a hobby class, etc

    Yeah, you still need to spend some time.

  • CrazyMai07@xanga

    @eyesochinky@xanga - it does work though! the platonic section always has postings from time to time of people who are new to [insert city here] looking for friends.

  • CrazyMai07@xanga

    BTW, you should also participate in a local flash mod group like improve everywhere - since the NYC group got so popular, there's a lot of smaller flash mob groups in various cities.

    http://improveverywhere.ning.com/

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