Sunday, 16 November 2008
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Scandalish: Ménage à Trois, Anyone?
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Would you ever consider having a threesome? If so, with whom?
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never. i feel like threesomes are designed for a man's pleasure, whichever party has 2. i feel like the only reason you'd have a threesome is because you don't respect your relationship, or yourself. if i had a threesome with another guy, i would probably get physically hurt. if i had a threesome with another girl, i would be emotionally hurt because my boyfriend would be paying attention to another woman sexually while i'm in a relationship with him.
well, i don't judge people that have threesomes, i know the way i see it isn't how others do at all. but i hate them, and i would never have a threesome. ever!
Sick...
I've had them before. Not with someone I was in a monogamous relationship with. We were just looking for something different and that's what happened. Both times with him were with friends of mine that had no contact with him outside of me so jealousy wasn't even a factor. Not to mention, he didn't want me to get hurt so he made sure to pay more attention to me than to them.
And no, I didn't log out. Didn't feel I needed to.
I wouldn't personally, I wouldn't get any pleasures from seeing my man get pleasures from someone else.
I like to fantasize about it, but I don't think I could actually do it. I'm mostly straight, but I like women, too, I just don't want a relationship with one. I think it's one of those things that's fun to think about and fun to imagine, but not something I want to do in real life, just because I would be scared he found the other girl more attractive than me, especially since I know that even though he finds me attractive, I'm don't have his naturally preferred body type, and if she did, that would make me feel really insecure.
That was many years ago, though. I'm not sure if I'd do one now. Despite considering myself 75% lesbian, I have no real desire for any other woman (or man, for that matter) than my boyfriend. He is more than enough for me. I don't even know a mature enough third party to invite, anyway.
A general bit of advice: If you're going to have a threesome, I highly recommend doing it with someone who's open-minded and mature, who you're very good friends with and who understands the boundaries (i.e. won't ruin a friendship afterwards). Also, keep it out of the workplace. Nothing good can come of that. (I wouldn't know personally, but I've heard stories from friends. It's a stupid move.)
Even if I didn't prefer monogamy, I don't think I could manage a threesome. When I'm in bed with a woman, she's the only thing on my mind, and I like it that way.
Maybe that means I'll miss out on some things, but c'est la vie.
f--- being anonymous. im already anonymous on here. i wouldnt do menage a trois unless it was me and two men. but then that's more like gang-bang which is kinda slutty. plus i think the definition says menage a trois only can be 2 women and 1 man. i would only do that if i wsa single the 2 men thing. but i dont think i would want to have sex outside a relationship. it would be kinda gay of the men to share a woman? i dont know. some of the positions turn me on though lol...i should stop before i say too much haha
@sue - it doesnt always have to be 2 women and one man, it could also be 2 men and one woman.
No thank you. Lol.
No, I wouldn't. I'm not too narrow-minded at all but this is one of my 'never would' things.
It doesnt appeal too much to me.
Just dirty thoughts that's all. Ahaha.
I dont ever log out for these.
Xo
I'd do it. My boyfriend's mentioned it, but I think he'd be too uncomfortable to go through with it. Mostly because he has problems with me being bisexual, which is funny since he'd only agree to do it with another woman. Don't know how I managed to saddle myself with a guy like him since every other guy I know has no problem with my sexuality. Just luck, I guess. Sigh.
@College_Ruled11X85@xanga - i think by "...whichever party has 2." she means 2 girls one guy or 2 guys one girl.
also she outright says how she would feel in the situation of 2 guys and in the situation with 2 girls. i think you misread something.
No I would not even think about a three some or even more than a three some.
I wouldn't even consider it. The idea just makes me... *shudder*
I would totally go for it. My friend and his girlfriend and I are considering it. I think it would be a lot of fun. :)
Thanks, but no thanks.
before i met my fiance, i would've totally gone for it. im bi-curious and really open minded about things. id be willing to share with another guy (or 3), or have fun with an extra girl in the mix. although the idea is fun to entertain in my head, now i'm a bit of a selfish lover because i've worked so hard for this relationship.
i'd be pretty peeved if someone just got to enjoy my
fiance without investing years of their time. she
feels the same way
Absolutely not. End of discussion.
Yeah, I would.
And with whom? Anyone I trusted enough to sleep with.
I wouldn't only because I'm greedy.
Maybe if I was single.
Maybe.
Mm, definitely one day. With my current FWB (only because the sexual chemistry is off the charts), and... another girl. Dunno who. Someone I'd trust enough, but no one comes to mind. I know who HE has in mind, but I'm not up for that.
I couldn't. I'm way too much of a jealous person. If I'm doing something with someone, I will be the only person on his mind. I would be way too competitive.